I've been going out witha girl for a year now, she's really great, makes me laugh and is great fun to be with and a really good girlfriend but lately I just don't feel like having sex with her, she has noticed and this just makes it worse as I feel pressured into initiating sexual contact which just feels creepy. she's really attractive and I've always had a high sex drive whats going on. should I finish it with her?
2006-08-02 01:37:20 · 31 answers · asked by crownose 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would take a break, she obviously means a lot to you and sound like you really like her, If you take a break ,go out window shopping but try not to hurt her feelings(don't sleep with any one).
Feel the fabric just don't buy it,
After the break you may find you really miss her and want her back, At least you know if there is any thing better for you or not out there. It could make or break it!
2006-08-02 01:43:48 · answer #1 · answered by Macka 3 · 5⤊ 2⤋
I'm quite disappointed by the "No Sex = Game Over" responses on here.
Is there anything or anyone in your life that may be distracting you? Do you need her to initiate sex for a change? Has the sex become boring, do you need to spice it up? Do you need to rediscover the romance of you're dating days, perhaps revisiting old haunts together and remembering what you found so attractive in her?
Sounds like you have too good a relationship for you not to consider and try all options before ending it.
2006-08-02 09:17:59 · answer #2 · answered by star 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here are a few suggestions:-
1) be honest and tell her about how you feel. Maybe you can work things out rather than breaking it off.
2) Is your sex drive more important that your relationship?. What if the same scenario happens with another girl?. Maybe its time you see a doctor.
3) relationships is not only about sex. It is about personal trust and connection. You can do other things than sex. see what happens if you don't have sex for a month.
2006-08-02 09:44:36 · answer #3 · answered by falleninlovecouk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is attractive and you're not attracted to her...could it be that you are subconsciously pist of all her? I mean if you are mad at her and don't admit to it, you can over time lose that loving feeling. Check with yourself why you are not attracted to her first...if it's something that can be worked out, try working it out...but if not..I recommend you take a break from her...this doesn't necessarily mean you get to hook up with other girls..it just means that you are going to be apart from her..and maybe this will help you figure it out.
Also, are you stressed about something that causes you to lose interest in having sex. Is it having sex with her that you don't want or is it that you don't want sex at all. You have to figure this out for yourself and see if it worth ending the relationship
2006-08-02 08:44:32 · answer #4 · answered by Strawberry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely need to talk to her about it and tell her how you feel. If there is no love then you should really move on. She will obviously be upset but to keep stringing her along is mean and will just make it worse in the long run. I would want my other half to tell me how he was feeling and you never know you might be able to sort things out! Good luck
2006-08-02 08:42:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going through the same problem with my man (he is just not into me anymore) and it is really upsetting me. I really wish he would talk to me about it and sometimes I would rather that he ended the relationship because I just can't break up with him because I love him too much. I find that sex is a big part of a healthy relationship and when my man does not want to have sex it makes me feel unattractive and hopeless so please either talk to her about it or just end the relationship
2006-08-02 08:50:12 · answer #6 · answered by Munu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that your heart is still being developed. Not enough blood pumping there. Do you go about using women and then dump them? Obviously, you must have had a bad past of abuse and it is affecting you now. Question: is she not moving in bed enough. Don't you guys do exciting things, spontaneous, by the beach, in the car, behind the church, in the sea, etc.,,,,,
2006-08-02 08:45:26 · answer #7 · answered by preferablyyoung 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask yourself do you love her? if not try to break mutually and go your seperate ways its been fun. then destroy all evidence of her that she ever existed and break all contact with her, because if you dont the next relationship your in the ex will interfere in some way even an old valentines card will put your new partners nose out of joint
2006-08-02 08:56:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u just need ways to spice up yr relationship and yr sex life,sme people are not lucky to find people that make them laugh,have great fun with,think twice are raedy to throw that away,anyway in a relationship it dont always to be about sex u canstill find somethings to do on yr time.
2006-08-02 08:48:02 · answer #9 · answered by naghtynite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the pressure to preform is the problem. She is going to have to give you space to make this decision on your own. You may try a temp seperation, might be permanent.
2006-08-02 08:41:35 · answer #10 · answered by Sue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋