I am in a relationship with my girl friend for 8 months now . We Love each other very much . We both fight a lot but together again in a day or two. But the reason that made her doubt is that I don;tkeep promises . She is a chinese and I am an Indian but that thing doesn;t matter for me . Though the indian society it;s not so much develop which can create me toruble in marraige . specially from parents I am ready to marry her . But she still couldnt made up her mind that I am trust worthy . What should I do .? please help
2006-08-02 01:28:44 · 4 answers · asked by Thinking 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's possible she herself doesn't feel wholly committed to the relationship and she's projecting this onto you. Possibly she's hesitant because of all the fighting you do, or possibly it's the other way around -- the fights are because the relationship really isn't going anywhere.
Why do you fight so much? When you get back together, do you just forget about the fight or do you discuss the issues involved and learn from the experience?
More importantly, why don't you keep promises? You say you love her. Why wouldn't you keep your promises to her? After all, if she thinks you're not trustworthy because you don't keep promises... well, hate to say it, but she's right! Trustworthy people keep promises. So you need to figure out why you don't keep promises and work on that. Become a trustworthy person.
My suggestion is to back off a little. Eight months may not be enough time to be sure you two belong together. Give it more time; prove your trustworthiness; examine why you're fighting, learn from the fights. Be honest with each other and really listen to each other. And if she isn't willing to work on the relationship, or if she still feels it's going nowhere, maybe it's time to find someone else.
I hope it works out for you.
2006-08-02 01:42:48 · answer #1 · answered by B D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fight for your trust.
Marriage is about promise of a life time. If she can't trust you for a simple thing, how can she trust putting her hand into marriage? Start from small promises/words. Don't make any if you can't keep it
2006-08-02 01:54:50 · answer #2 · answered by Mummy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do something to show her parents that you are trustworthy. then do something for her. when you are arguing, try to see her side of the argument- maybe you wont fight as much and maybe she'll trust you.
2006-08-02 01:33:53 · answer #3 · answered by Lucia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should start by trying to keep your word...that might help! Why is that so hard?
2006-08-02 01:35:05 · answer #4 · answered by SUGA_STORMY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋