i have been in relation with a girl for the last 2 years. when i saw her first time i thought what a figure,i just want to make sexually relation with her,i proposed her,she said ya. but after that i saw her strong feling towards me i started to luv her. my problem is:now i am so much emotionally attched with her,i can't live without even her phonecall per day.i can't live without her,she is so attched to me that she can't emagine her life without me. but problemm is:she is not my dream girl,i can't enjoy SEX WITH HER she is not so beautiful i am very good looking, i take normally her attendance but if i can not see her for a week i become so nervouse.but i think can i live with her for a lifetime?i can't see her in a sorrow.she is so much commited to me.in short i can't leave her,she is closet to my heart,and i think i can not live with her in future.i have told her that it may be possible that our relation may not end with marriage even though she does not leave me.am i stupid?
2006-08-02 01:27:44 · 21 answers · asked by mrugank_sap 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
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2006-08-03 23:29:45 · answer #1 · answered by Pagal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you must sit back and and rearrange yourself. The way i read it, you're still emotionally unstable regarding in your present relationship. For us women (well at least most of us), being physically intimate with the opposite sex means more than just sex. As i see it, you are more concerned with your sexual preference and not with the feeling that binds the two of you. I'm not saying that sex is out of the subject in a relationship because it is a gift from god for couples to be more intimate to each other as years go in their marriage. But, it's not the main reason why two people choose to stay together. When a person truly loves someone, one must accept and love every inch of that person without ifs and buts. Just a piece of advice, do weigh things out before planning of staying with her or leaving her to be fair to both of you. Good luck.
2006-08-10 04:29:29 · answer #2 · answered by chai 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't even know what to say rite now. how can a man like u as good looking as u say be attracted to one cuz of the beauty. u know what, the personallity counts more, ok. if u think u don't really love her cuz she is not that good looking, tell her rite now b4 it's too late. love is very powerful and heart breaking. i know it will hurt but better than her knowing in future. let me assure u that the girl with such beauty like what u are looking for, will not be as caring as the way she is. futhermore the relationship u will have with that girl of beauty won't be loving and passionate cuz u go by the outer looks, which is not to be the first thing in a successful relationship, talkless of a life partner. u know what, as u make ur bed so shall u lay on, what u do today counts for the future. so make a rite decision today and live ever happily.
2006-08-02 09:08:23 · answer #3 · answered by kwgng 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are beeing selfish. I am not trying to be rude. If you really love your girlfriend then you can try to talk to her about how you feel and see if you can do different things to change your sex life. It shows that you love her and you want to be with her. Sex and looking good is not the only thing to a relationship. You shouldn't marry your girl if you don't see eachother in the future you will just end up getting a divorce. I would really just talk to her and see if you have a future or not.
2006-08-09 14:08:42 · answer #4 · answered by shortysonja7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is very hard to find a person you can become REALLY close with. So if you really feel good with her then maybe you should just rethink the look of your dream-girl and accept what you have. If her not being pretty enough for you really bothers you then end your relationships. The longer you are together the harder it will be then to break-up (if you are sure you are not going to marry her).
2006-08-02 08:38:01 · answer #5 · answered by Irisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are seriously messed up. Are you saying you love her, but you can't be with her in a committed relationship because she is not good-looking? I guess this is a decision point for you in your life. Are you going to choose between carrying on and living your life based on external looks and worrying about what people think? Or are you going to choose happiness with one you love, no matter what anyone thinks? Will you continue to be shallow, or will you start becoming a mature, well-balanced man? Good luck in your choice!
2006-08-02 08:34:18 · answer #6 · answered by Mary C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is an expression of love.And love comes from mutual faith, respect and commitment.Hence sex with your partner would be nothing but expression of your feelings towards her.Beauty is just skin deep.Learn to go deeper into her heart,read her eyes, feel her touch full of love and warmth for you.You seem to be interested in satiating only to your physical needs.You'll have to decide the places for Love & lust in your life coz you cannot be holding a cake and having it too!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-02 08:46:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U r just sincere... she should appreciate that. Just think about whether its love or pure lust. If u cant enjoy sex with her but u love her, something is def. wrong. But not with u or her, just ur emotional decisions . Have u tried making love to her instead of just having sex?
U r the only one that can answer ur question.
GOOD LUCK 2 U BOTH!
2006-08-02 08:35:41 · answer #8 · answered by Ecat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's more to a marriage than just sex and looks. I mean if you love her and you seem to, just try to figure out whats wrong with the sex and talk to her about what you would like to do different. Love is such a wonderful thing, if you really appreciate this girl and want her then try to work it out.
2006-08-02 08:33:25 · answer #9 · answered by Domi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
y r u so confused....u said u both luv each other,cant live without even her phonecall a day,then saying u cant spend ur life with her just because she is not beautiful n havin problem with sex.....talk it out with her.
u r just tensed of full commitment.......dont back out,try
its ur life u hav to decide what u want from ur life.
2006-08-03 04:03:13 · answer #10 · answered by pam c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even with the most beautiful women...their looks fade....so this needs to be more about looks....it needs to be how you feel about each other, compatibility, liking to do the same things together...even passions cool....it shouldn't be about sex (not that there is anything wrong with sex at all....*grin*)....if you care about this woman, try and see if there is a good relationship there with her (not talking about sex or looks) and if you two get along...if not, let her go and find someone she can be happy with.
2006-08-10 08:29:55 · answer #11 · answered by jackie_in_wv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋