I had a disagreement, with my aunt and we have since stoped communicating, i am too proud to say sorry, after all it was her fault.Can i do without her, coz she is my hubby's sister?Pliz help me?
2006-08-02 01:11:06 · 22 answers · asked by MaiTah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She is a sister in law, and my hubby also acknowlegdes she is wrong.He says i should not worry about the rest of the family members so long the two of us have no problems with each other. But the rest of the family respect her because she is married to a rich husband, though they know its her usual weakness they can not stand up and tell her! i tried to avoid her all this time, but nowall hell broke loss and i also got angry.I just do not know how i will leave with this family?
2006-08-02 02:27:05 · update #1
This makes her your sister in law, no?
Either way, relax a bit. If you do not feel like communicating right now, or in the future, then so be it.
Let this whole thing take its own time. After something like this, you both need time to pass, and that's not something you can force.
If one of you finds that its time to mend fences at some point in the future, then that person should do so. If not, oh well. You won't be the first set of family members that haven't spoken.
Be true to yourself. Over time, we all grow to change some views and opinons. It comes with more life experience than we presently have.
Good Luck.
2006-08-02 01:18:22 · answer #1 · answered by Fitchurg Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your hubby's sister would be your sister in law?
It's her fault. You were right. Apologize anyway. You may still not communicate with her, but you will know that you did all you could to mend the situation--by taking the high road.
Being right doesn't really mean much in the long run.....
2006-08-02 08:15:28 · answer #2 · answered by Love2Sew 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard when its family, and there is nothing worse than regret. One of you are going to have to be the stronger and better one to apologize regardless of whom is at fault. That is one of the biggest mistake these days too many people fight and don't talk for years and sometimes its too late. We don't normally miss someone or something until its gone. To apologize is hard but it hurts more not too! Good luck hope you both can work it out
2006-08-02 09:33:02 · answer #3 · answered by mermaiden_4_ever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a quarrel, no body thinks that it is his own fault. It is always better to preserve a relation. You must endeavour to cement a relation rather than be a party to it. We should try and overcome personal ego and be filled wit love and affection.
2006-08-02 08:19:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't she your sister-in-law then? I'm confused!
Inlaws or outlaws! Always a source of problems in any marriage. No, you don't have to apologize if it's not your fault, but you could discuss it and just agree to disagree.
2006-08-02 08:16:36 · answer #5 · answered by pittsburgh-girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's your husbands sister then that makes her your sister-in-law, not your Aunt.
Who cares whos fault it is...be the bigger person and get over it. Lifes to short to hold a grude.
2006-08-02 08:15:41 · answer #6 · answered by toobusy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your husband. If he can live with the situation, then I wouldn't worry about it... He may even be able to help. If he needs you to fix it, then be the bigger person and do it for the family.
2006-08-02 08:41:22 · answer #7 · answered by Robb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if its her fault.then what for say sorry.but if its a misunderstanding then just talk.no need for sorry.if she thinks you are at fault but you are not.reason with her.if both at fault then tell her that botj at fault and just let bygones be bygones.if she just does not want to say sorry or accept the agreement of both at fault, well tell her that she is being unreasonable and that she can be such a snob.ask your husband about it.let him judge who is at fault.
2006-08-02 08:17:44 · answer #8 · answered by destinyofangels 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going to create problems with your husband if you are fighting with his family. In the grand scheme of things, is it really worth what you may jeopardize because of your pride?
2006-08-02 08:15:19 · answer #9 · answered by chicky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it not better to have "passable" relations with all your family?Ofcourse, you are not dependent on her and can live without!! But there may be some situation in future where you may have to patch up with her!!!
2006-08-02 08:35:51 · answer #10 · answered by THE WORRIER 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋