While at a wedding of my best friends daughter with my boyfriend of 9 months it all went 99% perfect...I felt like a princess...we met new friends, laughed and danced every dance but one...toward the end of the evening he began remarking how one woman was dressed to the point of obnoxious and rude, he started to make dog sounds like barking and growling about her and then grabbed the table as if he had to hold on to control himself. I was embarrassed and felt disrespected from the man who says he wants to be my life partner. He is not a pup himself...this is a 57 year old man. I am 48. Help?
2006-08-02 00:24:00 · 13 answers · asked by centeredangel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do not ignore these blaring warning signs. As much as you don;t want this aspect of your bf to exist, they do. He is trashy and tacky, and completly insensitive to your feelings.
He has perversions--ones that you don't find funny or appropriate.
This is a deal breaker--walk away.
2006-08-02 00:27:51 · answer #1 · answered by Love2Sew 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The "disrespect" ( a truly horrible new ageism) is between you and your partner, how you have defined your relationship and whether you have fully articulated your (reasonable?) expectations in terms of public and private behaviors.
That having been said, if these comments and actions took place within a public space (let alone another person's wedding,) then allow me to say that your partner is a bore and a lout. Whatever one's private feelings or urges, if someone accepts an invitation to an event (especially somebody's wedding) then that person had implicitly accepted the rules of public social behavior (which, outside of cartoons does not include holding on to the edge of a table and making wolf-like sounds.) You and your partner were guests, your company was solicited as part of another person's day. To do anything that calls attention away from the host/guest-of-honor/bride (?) is vulgar. And while we all enjoy making "honest" observations to our intimate(s) to make a comment in public about another person's appearance is the action of a 7 not a 57-year-old individual. Presumably, having lived his 57 years in the world, your friend knows the basic rules of public manners - don't point, don't stare, don't speak in an overly loud voice in public, etc. Since he went out of his way to break these rules, perhaps you need to talk with him about his feelings about going to this event. Personally I can only think of a few reasons for someone to act the way you describe:
1) Too much alcohol at a public event.
2) No sense/knowledge of basic manners.
3) Passive/aggressive ambivalence about attending the event.
May I ask you, did you insist/demand/nag/beg your friends attendance? Anyway either speak up and accept the consequences, or keep quiet and never know. Good luck.
2006-08-02 00:46:19 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Knowitall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry! I too have been embarrassed like that in public. Let your man know that kind of behavior doesn't fly with you because, if you don't it will happen again. There's no reason for a man his age to be acting like a ten year old boy in public.
Keep him away from the booze!
Good Luck!
2006-08-02 00:38:39 · answer #3 · answered by mardaw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 09:23:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he was disrespectful to you and to the other woman, infact to anyone who witnessed this act. But hey...all men do things that embarass us from time to time and if 99% he is perfect I would say "thats pretty darn good". Tell him how you feel about it all and ask him to keep in mind your feelings next time if he feels he needs to comment on another woman. best wishes.....Im sure things will be great for you.
2006-08-02 00:29:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was obviously very attracted to her. She had him worked into a frenzy. Was he drinking? He may have just gotten a little drunk. Otherwise, yes it was rude. Give him the silent treatment for awhile. That will give you time to decide if you should be with him or not.
2006-08-02 00:30:06 · answer #6 · answered by David B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say but this boyfriend of yours is really too much. He doesn't show any respect for you at all. If he doesn't apologize for his obnoxious behaviour, leave him. A leopard cannot change its spots.
2006-08-02 00:33:27 · answer #7 · answered by sharon y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Immature, lose him, hes to old to be acting so stupid, hes making him self look like the fool.
2006-08-02 00:31:07 · answer #8 · answered by mom1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he had too much to drink?
Maybe he's a bit of jerk?
That does sound embarrassing. Did you talk to him about it?
2006-08-02 00:28:26 · answer #9 · answered by revoltix 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some dogs need to be put to sleep, sometimes.
2006-08-02 00:45:22 · answer #10 · answered by illustrat_ed_designs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋