I am a father of two, I have a son who is 6 years old and a newborn daughter who is 3 weeks old. Me and my wife leave our daughter in her cot alone so she can sleep and we have baby monitors so we can hear if she's crying. At first our son was very fascinated about the new arrival, he knew she was coming because we have been telling him about her for the last 6 months, ever since he asked why his mother has a large bulge in her stomach. Anyway, as I said, he's very fascinated by the baby and he asks us if he can go and sing to her to send her to sleep like we do to him so, naturally, we allow him to do this so he can develop a good 'big brother, little sister' bond. Needless to say I was very shocked when I went in to check on the two of them and my son was slapping his penis on her face. Surprisingly, she wasn't crying, in fact, she cries very little. I'm not sure how to confront my son about this and I think it's for the best if I just leave it be, I mean, it could just be a phase...
2006-08-01 23:44:29 · 6 answers · asked by doggylover 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I'm sorry but this is not normal behavior. Where was he shown that a penis belongs in somebody's face? I agree with the person who said that it's normal for a child to have tantrums and jealousy but putting there sexual organ and slapping it around on somebody's face, whether it's a newborn or an animal or whatever is not normal. I would do some investigation into my normal daily life, do you watch porn? Does your son see you and your wife having sex? Is there a potential sexual offender in your sons life? That's what I'd be looking into.
Also explain to your son that his penis is for peeing, that's all he needs to know right now at 6 years old...the rest will come later, and that it's not clean (like somebody else mentioned) and doesn't belong in somebody's face...explain the same thing about his rearend too. As far as a phase? I think not. I don't know anyone with a son who's gone through that phase!
2006-08-02 03:04:35 · answer #1 · answered by dixi 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
No it is not a phase. This is going to get worse. Take him to a counselor and get him some help. Maybe someone somewhere along the way did something to him that should never have been done. So you need to keep him away from his little sister. Right now she is not going to remember what he has been doing to her and it won't affect her in the long run. But if he continues to do this to her, it will affect and she will be in danger of getting into bad relationships later. Get him help now. Call your pediatrician so that he can refer you to someone.
2006-08-01 23:55:40 · answer #2 · answered by mom of girls 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have four boys and this is not a normal action for a six-year-old boy! It is normal to see regression, acting out, tantrums, etc. but this is not ok. This is a red flag that your child may need to be evaluated to see if he needs help from a counselor. Ignoring this is not going to help either. Talk to your child and find out if he has seen this behavior somewhere else. You could be dealing with an abused child here!
2006-08-01 23:54:17 · answer #3 · answered by confused by court order 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-27 20:25:11 · answer #4 · answered by mattes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you have concerns then maybe you should talk to a doctor about it. At least get some advice from a professional about how to handle it, even if it isn't a serious problem, it's still a sensitive issue.
2006-08-02 01:09:36 · answer #5 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he still dosent know fully the use of his his appendages, to him its just a bit of muscle attached to him at this time of his life, explain to him that its not clean as its used for peeing etc, he would understand & stop doing it
2006-08-02 00:42:24 · answer #6 · answered by dereckdsouza 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋