Every day I come home from work, and almost instantly my 4 year old daughter does something to piss me off (IE: look at me). And instantly, I go into a blind rage and begin throwing stuff in the room, usually in her direction.
My anger has caused me to kill the family pets (we HAD a fish and two cats), and I've had to replace numerous objects in the house.
I'm thinking of putting the little ***** up for adoption, but I would like to hear what you guys have to think first.
2006-08-01 23:27:27 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think you need professional help. That is called child abuse. You need to leave the house until you can get control of your anger.
2006-08-01 23:33:29 · answer #1 · answered by altotazz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HOW DARE YOU blame a little girl for your idiot behaviour. You need to pull yourself together and take a good hard look at yourself. She is probably thinking that you don't love her and she will end up either on the streets later in life , abusing other people or even worse committing suicide. I've had friends who's family have abused them and they have all tried to commit suicide and it was only that some of us was able to stop them that they are still around. That is the harsh truth of it all. You reckon that your anger has killed your pets and has ruined numerous objects in the house. Well what about the self esteem of your 4 year old daughter???? What about the rest of your family??? YOU need to realise that even though you have had a tough day at work you need to leave that behind at work and come home and be a family not me..me..me. As for adoption don't be so bloody stupid or a fool. There are too many children out there with no parents that are having troubles and you want to add to that. To tell you the truth people like YOU are the reason the world is like it is.
2006-08-02 06:48:57 · answer #2 · answered by Aunty Jules 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you might need some kind of medical help. Throwing objects at her and breaking the things in your house is definitely not the answer. Although you might be tired, stressed and irritable from work, you should leave that attitude when you get into your car.
Your daughter might only be seeking affection from you. You should try talking to her and playing with her. Not only will she have a good time playing with you, but i guarantee that you will also enjoy it. Spending time with your daughter might just take some of that stress away.
Putting your child up for adoption is the absolute worst thing to do to try and solve this problem. You have to understand that it is not her fault that you have anger problems and if you keep acting like this towards her then she just might start reacting in the same way.
I really hope you can find yourself some help and hopefully get a better relationship with your daughter. Just never give up, there is always a way to solve a problem. Good Luck!
2006-08-02 09:20:04 · answer #3 · answered by Katti 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either quit drinking or doing drugs...if that is not it see a counselor Nand take anger management. You have to much stress and anger built up inside of you and you need to get it out the right way. Quit killing animals that your little child loves and hurting her, or she will hold a grudge on you for this later in life if you keep it up!! You are hurting everyone around you physically and emotionally, including yourself! Maybe your mad at yourself for having her and you are taking it out on her, which really you shouldn't have busted a nut into a girl or this use to happen to you in the past...Your daughter loves you and that is why she always comes to you right when you walk in the door and says "daddy, daddy, daddy, do this with me, or do that, and asking why not daddy?" She loves you and wants to spend time with you, do that, and don't blame her for something she never did!
2006-08-02 06:51:06 · answer #4 · answered by dbw7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 yr old girl misses you for the whole day and needs your attention! The way you reacted is either 1. you never likes her 2. stressed out from work. You killed some family pets and destroyed some obects in the house. Hope she's not next in line! Cool off, think about it.
2006-08-02 06:35:39 · answer #5 · answered by TK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously she is seeking your attention. Whether she has to do it the good way or the bad way... she is getting your attention. Try taking her to the park when you get home or taking her our for ice cream or laying on the grass together and look at clouds.
Remember kids get stressed too, but they dont know how to deal with it effectively. Also, your blind outrage can be programming your daughter. She will learn this from you and continue the outrages with her kids.
So, be paitient, you are a leader and need to act as one. Control yourself. I take Aikido.. and there is a saying " How can you think you are going to control anyone, if you cant even control yourself "
Love heals everything.....
2006-08-02 06:34:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you better just cool down a bit she is 4 yrs old and needs time with you as well when you come home from work I know your tired but your the one who layed down to have her so take the time to help her .sit out side enjoy the trees fresh air go inside make some brownies make some pancakes spend time with your baby shes missed you all day you know their are people out their who want kids and cant even have their own you better call some one for help before something happen to your baby girl like it did the family pets not good get help now
2006-08-02 06:50:09 · answer #7 · answered by Libra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what the hell is wrong with you?she is your daughter for gods sake,how can you be so ruthless n heartless towards your lil one.....you need to check your attitude n help yourself,pls
how can you behave the way u do with tht innocent child who's your flesh n blood?by doing so you are affecting her growth,shame on you!!
you should know that daughters look up to there fathers as there Hero's and you've been ill treating her,she needs your love and attention and that's her birth right,how can you deny that to her?why did you have fun and produce her if this was your attitude?omg,i just cant believe that there are people like you in this world and so do we have child abuse in this world..........get some help,pls!!
2006-08-02 06:35:04 · answer #8 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey! Take a deep breath. Cool down. I know it must be hard for you, coming home from work only to find stress. But please dont take your anger out on your daughter. I know she loves you. Every kid does to her parents, even though some of us do not really feel it. And c'mon! She's only 4 years old! She really doesnt know that she upsets you. Please do not involve her in your issues. Try seeking help... please...
2006-08-02 06:39:23 · answer #9 · answered by TriNkiEs! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look my little sister gets on my nerves and my momma. just spank her, not to hard, but to let her know that you are not putting up with that everyday. i know you love her, it just the way children is and we have to be patient. Don't put her for adoption, and you should not throw things at her, people with get child service and you will be sad because you don't have your daughter and even though she gets on your nerves you love her still.
2006-08-02 06:51:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋