I have met a guy who I find really attractive, we spent 5 hours on the phone last night talking about everything. He has a 3 year old daughter which he sees every 2 weeks, this doesn't bother me at all because I really like him. We have known each other a week and we have a date on Saturday, I know we will end up in bed as there is alot of chemistry between us but I don't want him to think I am a slapper. So any advice on this issue greatly received!
2006-08-01 22:54:58 · 31 answers · asked by jmhale2005 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You actually answered your own question~you gave yourself advice! If you don't want him to see you as a "Slapper" then don't act like one! It's obvious you want something more with this guy, or else you wouldn't be thinking so far ahead now (ie...He has a 3 year old daughter which he sees every 2 weeks). If you really want or even think you want something more than a one night fling, hold off. Just ask any guy on here,if they would rather marry someone who gives it up on the first date or someone who makes them work for that p~!! Bottom line, if you give it up too soon who's to say you don't always give it up quick,at least that's what he'll think!
2006-08-01 22:58:58 · answer #1 · answered by Blujeenz♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he is the guy for you then he wont think that and it shouldnt matter, some people just connect and are meant to be together and from what you say you sound pretty close already. If hes not then you will have had a good time and nothings lost, who cares what other people think you dont have to tell anyone about it. I really dont think he will think your a slapper if he likes you so just go have fun and stop worrying. Or failing that wear your biggest, greyest ugliest undies and you wont dare take your clothes off!! Have fun xx
2006-08-01 23:10:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have loads of male friends and as a rule they say they would wait if they really liked the girl!Surely the best bit is the chase and it will be all the more exciting when you DO sleep together if you keep him waiting a while!Leave it at least 3 weeks and you'll have him eating out of your hand!!!
One of my male mates always says Theres a saying ....there are two types of women in the world...the kind you take home to meet your mum and the kind you just shag!!be the former!!!!:)
2006-08-01 23:05:58 · answer #3 · answered by boobookittie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think you like this guy for more than a first date girl, keep your panties on. Doing him on the first date wouldnt give a good impression of you, in his head (the one on his shoulders) he will be thinking...Does she do this with every guy she goes out with...
Whats a slapper?
2006-08-01 23:10:25 · answer #4 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take into consideration him having a three year old, it can be good or bad. Bad... he's an irresponsible asshole who doesn't practice safe sex. Good... he has matured and then that means he'll be able to take charge of your date, and you can pick up hints through out the date, of who he really is, and what he is about.
Either way, not on the first date, sweetie.
2006-08-01 23:03:43 · answer #5 · answered by Violetcharm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure it's all phyisical attraction, and your counting on getting yer groove on! the only chemistry between u 2 is the fact that its all physical, where'd u guyz meet anyway? was it family oriented or club like atmosphere! age diff? lots to consider, specially when there's kids involved, just chill out and see where his intentions at, now days real commitment is whats attractive, phyiscal attracts just about anywhere you want it to. Good Luk!
2006-08-01 23:07:52 · answer #6 · answered by Phaque tu" 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT go to bed on your first date - if you do - he will never respect you! Just coz theres chemistry there doesnt mean that you HAVE to give it up!!!! If the situation arises just tell him that you dont want to risk ruining things by jumping into bed with him - if he feels as strongly as you do about the relationship then he'll respect you for your decision.
2006-08-02 01:43:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh just get on with it. If he thinks your a slapper after sleeping with him on your first date then that's what he thinks. If you don't want him to think you're a slapper then don't sleep with him!
Or, you could say to him that you, "...don't want him to think you're a slapper on the first date...."
To which he'll reply along the lines of, "...I don't think you're a slapper...."
To which you reply, "Good, now lets jiggy wiv it!"
It's a win-win situation, he doesn't think you're a slapper and you both get laid :-)
2006-08-01 23:04:42 · answer #8 · answered by Pete Sweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know that you don't HAVE to have sex right?
in fact, since you have only known him for a week, you may want to wait till you know him better.
Sex is supposed to be consensual, I know this may sound stupid, but maybe he won't want to have sex on this first date of yours. Of course that is a rare thing nowadays.
If you are both willing and ready, no one is going to stop you, it sounds like you are worried he may think ill of you if you do it, this is a good reason on maybe waiting to see what he is really like.
Good Luck
;)
2006-08-01 23:02:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you were having fantasic sex with bf 2 months ago how come a new bloke,you must be a serial slapper who gives it out to anyone who looks at youy twice
2006-08-01 23:00:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋