i've been wondering if i should tell my girlfriend that there was a night in college where my best friend (who is a guy) and i had sex. he and i got drunk and high and i just got dumped, and sadly i remember it all.
2006-08-01 22:45:07 · 39 answers · asked by ex-junkie in blinding love 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hy baby, it doesn't really bother me too much. i know you're not 1% gay and neither is Mark. Although you two share a loft i'm not bothered. i know what you were going through. next time, instead of saying my girlfriend dumped me, tell the truth and say that she commit suicide because that's what happened. Honey i love you, and it's really not going to affect anything between us. I'm sorry baby but i kind of find it hilarious.
2006-08-02 00:29:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Do you feel like you are gay and want to be gay? Did you do this while you were with the girl friend? I think this happens to strainght men sometimes. It just does. If you are gay then yeah you should tell your girl friend and look at leaving her. If this was a one time thing I would work through it in counselling and get through it. If you think you can be commited to your girlfriend and not mess around with anyone other men or women I would disguss this with your counsellor. I think it all depends on if you are struggling with being gay or if you are a straight man who had an expeience with a man. It happens it happened to a friend of my when he was in college. He is 40 now and it has not happened again. In his case he was in a vulnerable emotional position and a person in a power position took advantage of him. It confused him, but he is straight. It is obvious.
Get some counselling as this is obviously bothing you. You are not the 1st man this has happened to.
2006-08-01 22:54:03 · answer #2 · answered by adobeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are still with your girlfriend, you should weigh the benefits of telling her against the negatives.
Does she need to know?
Would she want to know?
If you want to talk to someone about this experience, are you sure she is the appropriate person?
You are still with your girlfriend, so it is likely that you are a heterosexual. Experimentation in college is common among both sexes, especially when intoxicated. Perhaps she experimented once with her roommate as well?
2006-08-01 22:50:43 · answer #3 · answered by El Gringo 237 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, have you been tested for STDs (not cause it was a guy, but because you'd had sex with anyone before her)? Do you feel like this past event is causing problems with your relationship? Do you feel the urge to tell her about other past sex you've had? You can tell her if you want to, but I don't think you have to.
2006-08-01 22:50:18 · answer #4 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would keep that to yourself and take it to the grave. If you have a wonderful relationship with your girlfriend, don't mess it up by giving her information she doesn't need. That is of course assuming the guy you had the drunken tryst with isn't HIV positive. Based on that story, you might want to give up the booze and bud. LOL
2006-08-01 22:52:29 · answer #5 · answered by davester1970 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you ever plan on introducing them to each other it may be a good thing to tell her, because something might slip out. just be sure to do it at a good time and TELL her that you were HIGH and DRUNK. good luck! I'd listen to answers from girls before you listen to guys, though.
2006-08-01 22:49:40 · answer #6 · answered by crazy8s622 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how or why you did it but you must forget all about it & try to end your friendshipe with the guy (gay) you know & never tell any one even your self about it MAN is some thing great to be so do'nt be a ....
2006-08-01 22:55:37 · answer #7 · answered by xrat1979 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, do not tell her. I hope you have been tested for HIV and other STDs, you mentioned drug use.
Is it possible you could be bi-sexual? I mean, even as altered as you were, you allowed this to happen.
I cannot see any good in you telling her this, of course it all depends how long you two have been together and where exactly your relationship is.
good luck :)
2006-08-01 22:51:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah, i wouldnt tell her.... she probobly did it with another woman in college. That is the age of exploration and we all try new things in college (pot, acid, party's, drinking, ect...) leave it in the past.
Are you feeling guilty about it?
Are you going to tell her about the time in college you threw something out your car window and you littered (which is against the law--homosex is not)?
2006-08-01 22:51:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont see any reason you need to, so I wouldnt reccomend it. Itd be kind of an odd thing to bring up out of nowhere
"Oh ya speaking of college, I got ****** by my bud when I was there!" No real need.
2006-08-01 23:00:48 · answer #10 · answered by Truthitude 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋