a few hours ago my boyfriend and i came home to my apartment. I laid him down on the bed and he seemed nervous. We'd had sex before but this was the first time he asked is that necessary when i undid his belt. he acted so embaressed and nervous. he asked me "what are you doing?" and i tried to grope him and he got up and left. i didn't understand what was wrong. until i found out by his best friend that the other night at one of his gigs i couldn't go to, some losers drugged him, he got high and had passionate sex with a girl he'd never met in a closet. when the drugs wore off he cried all night in his and his best friend's apartment and took a walk in the morning and came home with red eyes.i'm not mad. i just can't imagine the pain he's going through. what should i do to get him from feeling so guilty and able to have sex with me again?
2006-08-01 22:41:41 · 12 answers · asked by bekah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he is mentally ill. a normal boy never refuses a sex.
2006-08-01 22:46:07 · answer #1 · answered by manalonedubai 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be good to him as he is going through a tough time. Don't think of sex now wait for some days and time will heal the scars.
Go out enjoy. Never let him know that you know what he did... let him tell you the truth and respect his truth and then tell him not to take drugs again. As that will ruine his life or he can loose a wonderful girl like you..
2006-08-02 06:19:12 · answer #2 · answered by heart_intelligence 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what kind of drug he took. Then if your ok with it why dont you two try it again together. It will be a great experience, me and my GF tried it and we had great sex ever since. But the drug part was never repeated. Just try it for experience, and to spice your sex life.
2006-08-02 06:00:41 · answer #3 · answered by Dennis D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell him that you know what happened and reassure him that you aren't mad. Talk to him honestly, ask if there's anything you can do to make him feel more comfortable. Hold him.
2006-08-02 05:47:16 · answer #4 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its better that you dont tell him you know and keep beside him and take care of him till he forgets this thing.
some guys are really honest and a thing like this can hurt them and let them feel guilty for the rest of their life
2006-08-02 07:30:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he need stime to get over it, so just show him some affection and dont have anything to do with sex unless he suggest it. i am so sorry for u both. good luck honey
2006-08-02 05:47:58 · answer #6 · answered by ezzaphill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh thats a good excuse...I would dump him, heck who know what he picked up from druggie girl
2006-08-02 05:54:24 · answer #7 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow he is good!!! he using some sort of crap on you. some how he knows you're going to find out, so he playing this "I can't look you in the eyes" crap. because he's so ashamed. HE'S GOOD!!!
2006-08-02 05:58:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually, talking is the best solution...
2006-08-02 05:45:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him and tell that it doesn't matter to u if he had sex with someone else
2006-08-02 05:47:27 · answer #10 · answered by arun_themask 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋