is my friend a good parent?

Question

well her baby is 2 and she feeds her,ice cream,gives her ar least 5 bottles of soda everyday,feeds her anything the baby want,lets her eat very hot ceral in the mornig,and at night she keeps on changing her like 10 time even though the baby dosen't go poop.she also still cleans her 11years olds but with baby wipes.is she a good mom?

she also breast feeds he 2year old,and her two eleven year olds.

p.s. she feeds only her eleven year olds baby food.that all the things i have left to say.

oh and she also lets her kids stay up tell 4:00 on school night and whenever.thats why her kids are getting d's.they don't sleep good or study.

did you know she even lets all her kids sleep with her?

Answer 1

It sounds to me like she is trying to be a good mom. Some parents just want to make their kids happy. They don't realize that their kids will still love them even if they say no sometimes. She needs to realize that spoiling her kids and giving them whatever they want is definitely the wrong way to go. They are going to become willful and disobedient and maybe out of control. Also by still wiping her older child makes me wonder about that child's independence and self esteem. And it sounds like the mom is a fanatic. She may have some issues of her own to deal with about just letting go and letting her kids grow up.

Answer 2

First of all, children who are only 2 years old should not have soda and sweets. When children are that age, it's a good time for parents to set good eating habits. You could suggest to your friend that she buys plenty of fruits and vegetables so the 2 year old can get "hooked" on them. If the 11 year olds don't eat healthy either, she could try an award system of some sort. For example, for every 10 servings of fruits and vegetables that they eat, they could get a sticker or some other small prize.
As far as changing the 2 year old too often, she should know that it's really just a waste of diapers/money/time if it's not necessary.
Also, wiping the 11 year olds with baby wipes isn't necessarily a bad thing. Many children have help wiping themselves after a BM. The children eventually get to a point where they feel to old for Mom to help them. It can be as late as 11 or 12 years old for them to mature to that point. The mother could suggest that they try wiping without her help and they may like the idea.
It seems the question "is she a good mom?" has a quite obvious answer, so suggest these things to her so you aren't a "bad friend".

Answer 3

Well, if the 11 year old does not have medical problems, I'd say that your friend should not be wiping the butt of a kid that can do it their own self. The baby is going to weigh a zillion pounds before she's old enough to go to school! I've seen children taken away from parents for less, so your friend better take some parenting classes and wise up or she might be without kids before she knows it. All it takes is one person reporting her to the right people.

Answer 4

Just because she isn't feeding her kids properly doesn't mean she's not a good mother. She probably doesn't know how to instill good eating habits in her kids, especially if she didn't have them when she was a kid. Those kids could have a mom that's a hell of a lot worse than that. Like one that's abusive or neglectful. Give her a break. Being a parent is hard. You'll find that out when YOU have kids.

And it's really not your business to judge your friend's parenting abilities.

Answer 5

Well, it's not possible to judge your friend as being a good mother or not as probably she thinks she's doing the right thing without any wrong intention but the problem is there are certain limitations to every aspect, a child can't look after themselves therefore it is the adult's responsibility to provide a good upbringing. She ought to realize that caring is nice but over caring is harmful in the child's development. As for ice creams and soda...she should know what is right and wrong!!

Answer 6

I don't see anything wrong with giving them ice cream every now and then, or treats every now and then, although you can't give them 5 sodas a day or tons of treats a day and expect them to not be overweight and have teeth problems. I'm not sure why the changing the diaper should be a problem. Some parents don't change their children enough. It sounds like you have a lot of issues with your friend's parenting skills. I myself, would probably just step back. If it bothers you to much try not to go around them as much.

Answer 7

She needs to feed the baby less soda.
It's good to change the baby so it's not sitting in body soils.
That's fine. But she needs to stop giving it so much caffeine.
Her 11 year old child needs to learn to wipe himself.
Toilet paper will work fine, but diaper wipes are okay.
She's a fine mother. As long as she keeps them fed, clothed, a roof over their head, and she doesnt beat them continuously.

Answer 8

Sounds like she takes overprotectiveness to a whole new level. But sodas are not good for a 2 year old.

Answer 9

Well, that sounds scary.
The kids will develop diabetes and other diet related diseases, with some more possible slightly mental disturbances also. Extreme assistance is never good...

Answer 10

Your friend sounds crazy. Does she really exist in this world. Do you mean that an 11 year old hangs off of her mama's titt? Well if it is really true than someone needs to report her to child protective serveces, because that is obscene.