am i a hopeless case???

Question

ok i am a hispanic female. and there are things wrong with me from my head down to my feet. i have coarse unmanagable hair, i am the hairyiest woman alive, i have a female beard as well as a hairy face. a big nose, with enlarged pores all over it. my face is sooo round like A ball and i have huge cheeks. im only 25 but i already have droopy eyelids.i have big ears, a short fat neck, i hate my body, as i am overweight. i am a c cup but they are low and my nipples are large n unattractive. i have stretch marks up n down my belly, i have stress incontinence (i pee unintentially), i weigh 210 and im only 5'4. my "womanly part is flat out ugly and i am ashamed of it. my butt is flat and i have hairy legs n big feet. i know the eziest thing 4 any of u to say is :lose weight, ect. but i am so lazy and i hate myself. surgury is an option,altho i cannot afford it ive deeply thought of it. i hate myself im not looking 4 pity, just answers, from true people that can feel what i am going through.

wow YOU guys answered much more quicker than i thought. Thank you soo much for the positive advice. there are some very good things in my life and i see now that i need to put more focus on them and change what i can, TY

Answer 1

Wow, you poor thing, ...you have identified all the things wrong with you, but how bout telling us something sweet about you? See,...you have been exposed to unrealistic pictures of what men supposedly want. You could change a lot of the things that are bothering you...I actually almost feel like you are describing me, in my younger days. It is horrible to be in a postition where you have zoned in on so many things that make you uncomfortable and feel bad about yourself. If these things really bother you, then you must paint a picture of what you want to become, and start loving yourself enough to accomplish your personal goals. What do you think about yourself as a person, beyond the physical things you hate about yourself? I have seen people with worse afflictions, and why is it they can go on and be happy and get married and have a good life? you can have your hair fixed, ask about electrolysis, lose weight, forget the big feet. remember a phrase in the bible about the man who cried because he had no shoes, until he met the man who had no feet? I think you need to pray to the Lord for guidance, and try to start zoning in on the wonderful things about yourself, instead of the superficial. God Bless You, and I pray you can find happiness.

Answer 2

I have also had to deal with the fact that I am not the most attractive person on the face of the planet. What matters is inside. You probably wouldn't do such a thorough job of criticizing a stranger like this so why do it to yourself? We all have to work on it. Take care of the hygene first. Shave everything. Get a good deep cleanser to reduce the size of your pores. Go to a hairdresser to learn how to manage your hair and take the time to freshen up throughout the day so you stay on top of it. Excercise alot! See a doctor not about surgery but about the incontinence problem because that could be a serious health issue. STOP tearing yourself down. There is no reason for you to beat yourself up over how you look because that won't help and you can begin to feel bad mentally and emotionally.Im sure you are a good person so thank god you've got that going for you. Not too long ago a woman told me this: Why wait for someone else to treat you right? Treat yourself right!Take care of yourself there are some things others can't do for you.

Answer 3

Hi,

I think there are many things right about you as well..

You are hisapanic, which means you have beautiful skin colour! Gee, I am envious!

Your hair is coarse but that means it has volume and is not limp and flat like mine.. I am envious!

My mum said that hairy people are usually more gentle. Well, I aint a bit hairy at all and am quite a tomboy.. so I am envious.

You have female beard? So do I! I think that's sexy, don't you? ;)

According to Chinese fortune telling, big nose usually signifies good fortune or a blessed life! So do huge cheeks and round face. Good for you!

Droopy lids are sexy... they make you look a little shy... like slyvestor stallone.. they are the things I love most about my husband ;)

Though your breasts are low but C cup is something most A cups can only dream about. Just wear the right bra and you will enhance it.

And you are lucky you are overweight. From my experience with helping people lose and gain weight (I am an 'expert' in that area to my frens cos i lost 15kg in 2mths and helped many others create similar 'miracles'), it is much easier to LOSE WEIGHT than GAIN WEIGHT.

Big feet usually mean you get a steal during sales. Cos they usually have very nice shoes in odd sizes that normal feet can't fit into.. you lucky one!

Anyway, if you truly dun like what you see in yourself, then only YOU have the power to change it. Even though I personally think surgury is a chicken's way out, it also takes courage and planning and $$ to do it.

You are what you decide to be. You are what you are now because you never thought about what kind of person you want to become.

Maybe you can think about what sort of person you want to become. Do you prefer being whiney or happy? Do you prefer looking healthy or heavy? It is all a choice! ;)

Anyway, what sort of characteristics do you want inbuilt in yourself? Even the most amazing woman would not be beautiful if all they do is look good outside but have a heart of a rock.

Answer 4

wear a paper bag... just kidding ... talk to your doc my mom is on nutrasystem and it is working for her and when I can pay for it I am going to use it. I am 5 foot and 225 and so I can relate on the fat part but you know what it is your problem? Low self esteem, that shows the ugliness, so stop doing this to yourself. clinique has a pore minimizer cream and it works. use sleek looks on your hair it is made by Matrix and you can get it in a salon. I am a hairstylist so I know and just wax the hair and or use nair on it. do things everyday for your appearence and say good things to yourself and not bad...maybe if you see a councilor she can help you with the complex you are giving yourself. I see a councilor and it is great... maybe you have a little depression and meds can help extremely!! You are a beautiful hipanic woman if we all looked the same there would be no beauty, love you for you flaws and all! God doesnt make trash so remember that.

Answer 5

Exersise will help,shave the unwanted hair and find something about yourself that you DO LIKE and focus on that..You were not born LAZY, get off the couch..you will feel better about you..if you choose not to do anything about it you will always be this way...Take a week work out for 5 days 20 min a day..and you will feel so much better..Start with a walk around the block, and move up..Good Luck..and focus on the good..get some Anthony Robbins tapes at your local library he is one of the greatest motivational speakers there is...It does help..

Answer 6

Well well! You are not hopeless at all. There are hopes for every one that seek for them. If you are not happy with your weight, it is simple take a walk every day, instead of taking elevators take the stairs every where you go. Stay away from fast foods, like chips and MacDonald and etc. Facial hair if you can't afford to go and get them wax, you can do it at home. Go to Walgreens and buy the waxing gel and do it at home, my friend use it and she likes it. To clean your face use facial cleansings, you don't have to spend a fortune you just have to find a good one. Trust me when i say this i am lazy too i don't like exercising, but i start doing it little by little. I walk and i don't take elevators i take the stairs. Try not to snack but if you have to instead of chips, have some carrots or salary sticks or fruits. You really can lose that entire wait in short period of time, just try, don't think about your laziness. I don't recommend the surgery at all because i believe you can do it on your own; you just have to want to lose it really bad. If you want something badly trust me even if you don't want to do it, because you want it you will do it. Just think about it someone doing the job they hate but they do it because it pays well. So do it not because you want it, but if you do it you will be happy with the result. The great thing about working out or walking is you will enjoy it after a while. One thing if you have son or daughter or husband that supports you take them with you when you go for walking. I don't like saying good luck because i know you can do it, you don't need luck. The very first day you start doing this after you walk or exercises which ever one you will be doing. Say this word "all is all in my world, there is nothing that can stop me from accomplishing my task and dream, all is all in my world" Also you need start loving your self. So the other thing you should do is, stand in front of a mirror possibly every morning and before you go to bed, say "I love my self i am beautiful and i am worth it"! Stay focus you can do it!

Answer 7

If you don't like all these things about you, there are ways to change most of them. As for the unwanted hair, remove it. Eat better and exercise. Set weight loss goals as well as personal goals for mood and decreasing the stressors in your life. Find a support group or talk to a psychiatrist about your probs. Fine a reason every single day to get up, out of bed, and motivated to change the way you live forever.

Answer 8

Nobody is ever a hopeless case. Each of us was created for a purpose. Don't you ever forget that.

Truth is, no amount of advice will help you change. Change can only come from yourself. For starters, try to work on your laziness. If you don't act, nobody will. Then improve yourself from within (outlook on life, self-esteem, attitude, etc.).

Cheers and regards.

Answer 9

I wont be mean by answering this with no or yes. Sounds like you have some serious self-esteem issues you need help with.Possibly even depression. Seek help from a psycologist or psyciatrist.

Answer 10

what you are lacking is self-worth. what you must do is move out and attain matters opening with bodily matters like climb a mountain for example do exactly whatever difficult and excel. the following factor you must do is to prevail at whatever highbrow like fixing a intricate trouble of a few style. Just do matters so as to aid you spice up your self-worth and you are female friend may also reap recognize for you as good.