my boyfriend do not know to do sex,what shoud i do,when i was on bed he always refuse & do harder?

Answer 1

u sound a bit useless

Answer 2

Well it is a very good question and a little bit unusual too.
Usually you will find a boy asking this question rather than a girl.
First of all you must understand this guy is really a good guy he doesn't want to cheat you because any boy wont find that easy to refuse a girl when she herself take the intitative to have a sex.

You need to find out why he is refusing whether he just want to keep only friendship with you or whether he is not committed to take the relationship to next level.

Moreover you need to understand that when he is refusing that doesn't means he doesn't know how to do it!!!

He may be having anxiety or fear abot performing the act and what you are going think about the same.

So that may be reflected in his action too.

What you can do is to make him feel relax and comfortable.

This can be done by asking him the question about the same in a pleasing manner.

Hope so you will find my suggestion a little useful.

Answer 3

-This depends a lot on your age and experience! For example, is he a virgin? Does he have an STD, aids, or perhaps erectile dysfunction? Is he worried about pregnancy or a too "clinging" girlfriend? Is he gay, or maybe married and guilty?
-If none of the above apply, then u need 2 TALK to him, ask questions, start w/a massage & some wine maybe.
-Lastly, all men need to be "trained" to each new sexual partners turn on's and off's. Teach this man what pleases you in bed: give him specific oral sex suggestions, and ask what feels good to him?

Answer 4

If you are telling him that he is too rough and he isn't listening then either you need to have a serious talk with him and let him know this out of bed or you need to find someone else. Part of an intimate relationship is respecting the other person and also wanting to pleasure them and satisfy their needs and it doesn't sound like he is doing either of those things for you. His behavior is selfish and rude. He isn't considering you at all. If he continues not to listen, I would not have any sex with him at all until he wants to listen and change. If he refuses to ever listen, then sweetie, he isn't the guy for you. Many relationships are good out of bed and then once the intimacy starts the two clash because their sexual styles, wants and needs are so different. Normally the two people can resolve this and meet in the middle but he is just not doing that at all. You are a woman who should be respected and satisfied - you are not just a piece of meat. That sounds like the problem to me - it isn't intimate - it is just sex. So many men try so hard in bed because they think their penis isn't big enough or they feel if they do it harder, it must feel better for us, not realizing how we feel. It sounds like you tell him and he just does not listen so if I were you, that would be it for any sex until - if ever, he wants to have intimacy in a relationship - he is not considering that - you are each part of a relationship so he can't just do whatever he wants and ignore you. I would totally hold off with any further sexual relations at all. Some guys think no means yes, softer means harder - they just don't get it and if he doesn't want to understand and listen then you have to move on. Sex should be about making love in a relationship, passion, warmth, sensuality, pleasure and exploring each other's bodies and he isn't doing that - I feel bad for you because that is mean and wrong of him so something must change. A lot of men also have this picture of sex in their head from pornos and magazines that it has to be rough, fast, tough and hard - and sometimes even violent and that is not ok. It is ok to be rough if both people like that sometimes but this is not ok. He has no right to treat you like that. Maybe he doesn't understand that making love is about love and being with eachother and it should be about feeling that love and cherishing that moment. You need to stop having sex with him and talk to him seriously somewhere other than the bedroom - and he will probably laugh or something b/c guys get all embarrassed if god forbid you say something about what they do sexually. But it is important to listen to the other person in a sexual relationship - what they like, how they like it, etc - and that differs from person to person so often when men and women change partners, they don't realize that this new person may not like it like that. They just continue their old ways and habits.

That is why I feel that it is so important before sex to fool around a lot and get to know each other's bodies and what you each like way before sex even comes into the picture - then you move on step by step and tell each other that. You know, I don't get it - women normally react to men who ask us to do something differently like, ok honey how's this and men just do what they want and don't listen and just think they are the best - BUT not ALL men. My guy does not do that at all so don't feel like you are stuck with this one. It is possible that he and you are just not meant to be and this shows it pretty clearly - not so much that he has sex the way he does but that he is not concerned with what you are saying - that he does not listen - there is no communication and that is vital if not #1 in a relationship. When you are with someone things are not just about you anymore - they are about two people now and that takes work and communication and listening and odds are if he isn't listening or caring in the bedroom that he also doesn't outside of it and that is no way to live - you deserve better than that.

If I were you I would step back and really reconsider this guy - seriously. Sex is supposed to be about showing each other how much and how deeply you care for one another and expressing that sexually - and pleasing each other. Good luck! Know that u deserve better and that the more times this happens, the more he will think it is ok to keep doing it so put an end to it now. :o)

Answer 5

Get some whips and chains and teach him who the REAL boss is. Handcuffs and floggers might come in handy too.

Answer 6

Talk to him. Tell/show him what you want and like. Do it nicely and with the understanding that he has no way of knowing if you don't tell him.

Answer 7

tell him to watch an instructional video, that way he could see how fun and easy is to have sex and may that will loosen him up and get him good to go.

Answer 8

thts bad... u both watch an adult flim... if u no everythg bout sex... then tell him.... or make him read books n articles on sex education... the net is useful 4 him.... tell him to visit such sites

Answer 9

watch pornos with him. if he doesnt harden even then, then he is gay. dont pressure him. maybe he is sufferring from inferiority complex and thinks that he cant satisfy you. talk to him. tell him that you will love him no matter what.

Answer 10

do sex with other guy in front of ur boyfriend.. and ask him to watch .. after ending .. ur boyfriend can easily do the same...