Thing is its complicated, i reallly like this girl
*we are both in same uni course
*we had time to talk last semster, now we dont
*she has a boyfriend (and in no way do i intend to break them up)
*since our break ive been avoiding her, eyes and contact (dunno what to do)
*ive seen her looking at me trying to catch my eye, she even came over to say hi to me today
I know i cant have a relationship with her (atm) what i thinks wrong is that i miss our friendship cos my feelings for her are stoping me being a friend (sorta like i dont want to ruin a relationship chance in future)
What i want to do is say hey, lets sit and talk for a few hours (even if others are around) but i cant (i feel like she may think i wanna be more than friends atm) i do, but wont cos of bf
Im quite sure she knows i have a crush, and im extremely sure she likes me (friend) and maybe is a little interested
i want to do it all face 2 face, no real question, please say what you would do if u were me.
2006-08-01 21:18:59 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well if I was you just talk to her as a friend and always be there for her if she needs you when her boyfriend cant!!! And she will come to realize that you were meant for her!!! Because thats what happend with me!!! I had a boyfriend and I had a really good guy friend and after spending so much time with him as a friend I broke up with my boyfriend and started going out with my guy friend and we've been together for 3 years now!!! But until all that happens dont keep ignoring her be her friend and do things with her that her boyfriend cant or wont!!!
2006-08-01 21:28:11 · answer #1 · answered by mmmsweetthang23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think that you can be friends with this girl (theoretically) for the rest of your life without ever having a chance of anything more than go ahead and be friends with her.
But if what you really want - and probably always will on some level - is a deeper connection (ie a relationship) then you should probably either look elsewhere or see if she really is willing to drop the boyfriend for you. Because she might be. And this might be your only chance. She could be one of these girls who finds the new boyfriend before dropping the old one. What this says about her as a girlfriend is pretty troublesome not necessarily wrong.
2006-08-02 04:28:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend calm down the solution is very simple: First of all clear your head and think what you really want. Think with your mind no wih your heart. Then go and tell her what you're feeling about her. That you don't want to be friends and (if you want her back) tell her that. Maybe she's gonna pissed off but after a day or two she's gonna be ok. Trust me. If she doesn't want to be with you and she wants to be your friend MOVE ON!!! Remember there is no friendship between ex-girlfriend and boy! Just don't keep in your "problem" talk to her, clear your soul from this trouble you have more serrious thinks to think i bet.
Go and meet another girl and she will be more intrested for you for sure. It's your life.
I know you will do the right think for you...
2006-08-02 04:34:44 · answer #3 · answered by zoqafune 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive actually been in this situation. It sucks, and I cant say it will work as good for you as it did for me, but just be her friend. Talk for a couple of minutes, and next time you have a bunch of friends over, invite her AND her BF. This proves that all you want to be is friends without saying it. Just talk to her once in a while, and be a good friend, and dont pry or involve yourself into her current relationship. If you stick around long enough, and be her best friend chances are she might come around eventually. In the case of me, it took a good 9 months of doing this before we had a serious relationship. All up to you how much effort you want to put into this.
2006-08-02 04:29:35 · answer #4 · answered by Slick Mac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is this all about you? Have you considered how she feels about the whole mess?
Seriously dude, you have nothing to worry about. It takes two to clap. Just be friends with her, if she's interested in you, I'm sure you both mature enough to find a casual conversation topic about how she feels with her current relationship.
Stop guessing and start acting.
2006-08-02 04:36:06 · answer #5 · answered by Hang Tough 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.....i would try talkin to her face to face but since she's in a relatnship wit another guy plus i know that then i'd try bein just a friend.......wake up man.......there are lots n lots of girls out there just wishing to be with u......so get over her n wait for ur girl to come to u......at tht moment both of u wil feel the same spark .....not lik what happend now
2006-08-02 04:25:18 · answer #6 · answered by friend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just say hi. Have a small party and invite her, along with other people. You can still talk, and stay friends just try not to drink too much, and stay away from flirty a lot. She needs to know you resepect her!
2006-08-02 04:24:40 · answer #7 · answered by paige b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dhould let your feelings for her stop you from approaching her. She may have a bf now but who knows what will happen in the future : )
2006-08-02 04:28:05 · answer #8 · answered by greatgurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk with her and keep the friendship going, you sound like a sweet guy (and once she knows you better and sees that, she'll be interested in you like you are in her) hope it made sense
2006-08-02 04:26:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she has a b/f,she was staring at u,who is next? seems she is not serious with him,not with u,and cant be with anybody.Let me guess.is she american? :)
2006-08-02 04:25:13 · answer #10 · answered by s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋