Guys, i need ur help. Girls can answer too. Id really appreciate good answers, and plz none saying "just wait"

Question

I am a bubbley, cute, smart, funny, loveable, sweet 14 yr old girl, but around guys i turn shy, my self esteem totally drops and i feel like im being judged. i do wear makeup and i wear it well cuz ive been doing my makeup since i was 8 and a couple yrs ago i finally figured out that looking like a cross between a clown and a china doll wasnt the way to go but now im really good and look pretty w/ my makeup on and w/o but i totally prefer w/ makeup on. lol. i dont go outside w/o makeup. im a chubby girl which guys rnt in love w/. if u wanna see my pic then visit my yahoo 360 page or catch me while im online and u can see me (nothing dirty at all) on cam. my realy Q is am i hideous? why dont guys like me? how can i get a good bf? thanx for any good advice u can give other than things like "be yourself" or "just wait" or "youre too young" because that advice simply isnt needed becasue either i dont agree or it doesnt work fast enough. lol. u can IM me, post ur answer, or both. thanx

Answer 1

Blah, blah, blah, your question rambles and is WAY too long!

Answer 2

Hideous? Sometimes it amazes me how out of touch women can be with their self-image. I went to look at your pictures before asking this question, & I have to say when I was 14, I would have probably been getting tongue-tied & trying to keep from making an absolute fool of myself while trying to impress you. Granted, I can't see all of you, but from what I can see, you don't exude "chubby". You don't have the characteristic pudgy face or unshapely neckline of a girl I would consider chubby. I actually had to wonder if you were just fishing for compliments for a little bit, but decided to take you at face value.
As for why you can't find a good boyfriend, I'm going to guess maybe you're looking in the wrong places. Teenagers, both boys & girls, usually don't know what to look for in a person yet. You may, but I'm speaking in general. Usually, they go by looks or popularity, but these things fade. It's what's on the inside that counts. So, the problem may not be you, it may be the guys you are pursuing. More often than not in junior high & high school, there are girls who think no guy likes them because they can't get the guys they are watching, & all the while there are other guys who are interested in approaching these girls, but like I used to be, are too nervous & get too tongue-tied & just assume a girl like you would never give them a chance.
Here's where the advice comes into play. I won't tell you you're too young to date or that you should wait, because that's your parents' decision. I also won't say be yourself, because you're at the age where "yourself" is constantly changing, learning, & growing to become the adult you will be. What I will say is try to do things that will help boost your confidence, especially with guys. Sometimes, guys mistakenly view shyness as being stuck-up or unfriendly, & perceive this as disinterest on your part. It's hard to get past being shy (trust me, I know), but I used to ask myself one question any time I felt shy: if I try, what's the worst thing that happens? Answer: I fail. So what? Failure sometimes teaches more than success. So, be friendly, learn to have confidence in yourself, & don't worry if people judge you or not. In 5 years, you'll more than likely go to college, & will probably never see most of these people again, anyway. You seem like yet another attractive girl who is stuck in the rut of worrying about the opinions of her peers instead of trying to enjoy what may be the best time of your life. So, don't be afraid to be friendly to these boys. Once they see you aren't conceited, these guys may approach you. However, it is the new millenium, so if you get enough courage, don't be afraid to do the asking, either. After all, the worst a guy can say is no. Best of luck to you, & I hope you realize what a truly lovely girl you are, both on the outside, & on the inside where it really counts the most.

Answer 3

Why are you so desperate? Did your parents ignore you as a child or something? Do you have no friends? Here's a hint: STOP obsessing about boys and get a life. Unless you really eager to get used and possibly hurt by some guy(s) you throw yourself at. And experiencing that that will be a lot worse that what you're going through right now. People give some dumb advice sometimes, but I can assure you that waiting, which every one seems to be telling you to do, is solid advice. And if you choose not to listen, dont come back and whine about how your relationship problems. We told you so.

Answer 4

You're too eager. It scares the boys off, until they are about 17 at which point they start taking advantage of you. Either way don't be too eager acting, you won't get a good guy that way. THink about it this way, do you want to date the guy that would date anybody that paid any attention to him at all? Of course not, you want to be chosen above others and so do the guys. So mellow out a bit, act like you don't really care and then when you find somebody you really like go for him and nobody else for no more than a month. It may take several months but it isn't because your fat or ugly, it is normal and average to take that long.

Answer 5

if you really believe those things about yourself you wouldn't be as shy as you claim to be. you are not in any way hideous. you need to really believe those thing in the first sentence of what you wrote. this is the way you are going to be able to "be yourself" around others. it is not easy. if you think you are chubby (you don't look it) then try and do more to improve yourself. Join a sport at school, enjoy the youngness of your body, you will only be able to stay in shape this well while you are this young. being 14 is not easy, especially when you think you are over weight. if you see things about yourself that you don't like, change them. but only one thing at a time. don't overwhelm yourself.
you look like a cutie, and be yourself is actually good advice.

Answer 6

I know you asked people to not say just wait, so I won't. But I do have to ask what is your hurry. You are only 14 and you still have a long wonderful life to live. I was the same as you, in a hurry to grow up and now I regret it. I wish I could of enjoyed my childhood more before I messed it up with dating and girls. It is girls like you that end up with some loser because they are to impatient to wait for a life and love to just happen.

Answer 7

dont worry about it k wait until ur older yeah im only 14 too but come on dont change jus 4 a guy be ur self thats what i do so stay the same which is the normal u no make up or anything.

Answer 8

im 13 and i am still awake so uhhh....
my advice to u is to try and gain more self confidence in yourself before looking for a boyfriend. If you have to ask people if u are hideous then u obviously don't have enough self confidene. If u don't like youself enough to know that u are pretty no matter what anyone says than how do u expect i guy to like u when u don't like yo self.

Answer 9

hate ta break it to ya hun.......but guys really r not attracted to girls w/out a very good figure....i would suggest goin on a diet and working out so u look great.....n girl....it's NOT about the makeup.....it truly is about whats inside.....guys can tell when ur trying to hard....just relax.....i know how u feel.....i was 14 just 1 year ago......alot of changes in your personality happen between 14 and 15....u will see youself getting less shy n everything just h/on.....i know it's hard but u can do it=)

Answer 10

I've Seen your Pictures at 360 ur not that chubby infact i started to like you but im old for you im 20 so find someone of your age.Bye Pretty.

Answer 11

Sorry, but rejecting the only true answers you'll get isn't going to work. If there was some magical fast way to get a good boyfriend, nobody would ever be single unless they wanted to be. All you can do is be yourself and give it time.