i'm running away to get married to my boyfriend who i've known 4yrs ago do u think its a good idea? i'm only 18yrs comming this saturday... & him 22yrs my parent disapprovement of our relations.......
2006-08-01 20:45:34 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
This is not a question for Yahoo answers but for yourself. You can't let a bunch of random people on the Internet decide for you if you're are going to get married.
However, you are only 18 and still pretty young. While you aren't too young to get married, I would suggest that since you are asking this question on this forum, and are concerned about your parents disapproval, you don't really seem ready to be making this decision on your own and might still be a little young for such a life altering step.
Also, the fact that you are asking the question at all means you aren't sure. If you're not sure about marriage or they guy, don't rush into anything. Why not wait? If this is the real thing, you'll still be together in a year and can revisit the question then and hopefully be more sure of yourself - and not feel the need to post the question on the Internet.
2006-08-01 20:55:49 · answer #1 · answered by PurpleFool 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't run away. This is a time that should be shared with your family and if your parents are disapproving, its because you're too young. Stay with your boyfriend, go to college, get a job, get on in life and then get married...not the other way around. Besides do you think you're old enough to manage cooking, cleaning, all the household for a man and then babies?! All by yourself. Your parents will probably be angry at you for running away and do you want to stay estranged from them for such a long time? If by 21 you still want to get married, then you could consider leaving to get married but you're still so young yourself...I think you should give it time. And if your boyfriend really loves you, he'll wait. After all, all good things in life are worth waiting for.
2006-08-01 20:55:19 · answer #2 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married my high school sweet heart and boy as much as I loved her I couldn't make it work because we met as kids but as we grew into adults we became 2 different people there was no avoiding it she was the love of my life and I not only lost her but I lost my childhood best friend it was terrible. I wished I would have listened to my parents because when we split up I died inside and here it is 22 years later and theres not a week that goes by that I don't wish I could just talk to her. If I were you just wait untill your older not because your parents say so but because life changes people and if you found your self married to a person you no longer know and pregnant with his child that's a bad time to realize you made a mistake or to change your mind, but if you do get married I wish you both Peace and Love
2006-08-01 20:58:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There really is nothing keeping you from filing for divorce and moving out of the house/apartment you share. Be fair and pack only what is absolutely yours. Leave nothing behind that you ever want to see again because you are making this exit clean and swift, without looking back. Find a place to live and get a Post Office Box. Do not get a house phone as a simple reverse look-up could identify your location. Contact him to let him know that the marriage is over and you have moved out. Here is my cell phone number and my Post Office Box address. I am filing for divorce because I made a mistake to marry when I was in high school. Done deal. No reason to agree to see him for any reason. Remove yourself from any joint accounts and cancel anything that is in your name which is associated with where you lived with him. Untie the ties you tied and get the hell out of there.
2016-03-27 13:59:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all your parents love you and they just want whats best! Sounds cliche' huh? But it is the truth. Are you finacially stable and prepared for what is about to take place? You shouldn't have to run away to be with the one you love. This ain't no fairy tale world honey. Just take some time and think of the future and what you want out of life. If you have even the slightest doubt then don't do it. Cause guess what if that man ever leaves you or treats you bad guess who is always there? Family!!!!!!!!
2006-08-01 20:57:48 · answer #5 · answered by tanesha m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.. it isn't a good idea. You wouldn't ask if you weren't having doubts of your own. You should wait till you are older because so much changes in a person from 18-30. Your parents are probably just trying to protect you and they know that a divorce, esp. where kids are involved is the worst thing for everyone.
2006-08-02 07:38:54 · answer #6 · answered by Daring Zoey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to hide anything about your relationship, you should question how serious it is.
This is the rest of your life you are talking about. Do you want your family and his in your life? Because this choice would probably cost you that option.
Your parents are going to be a little overwhelmed that you have that serious a relationship. Remeber that in their mind you are still just their little girl. Give them time to adjust and see that you're serious and that he's not going to go away any time soon.
Also, consider that then are a little older then you, maybe a little wiser. They might be seeing something about him or the relationship that you don't...
2006-08-01 20:54:22 · answer #7 · answered by No Drama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really shouldn't. 1) You are still young 2) You'll regret going off and getting married without your parents' blessings, maybe not anytime soon, but you will, eventually. If you guys truly love each other, waiting a couple more years to get married would only strengthen your relationship, and by then, your parents will probably give you their blessings. Wait a little...it'll be worth it.
2006-08-01 20:52:27 · answer #8 · answered by LTD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to me sweety,from someone who has been there.LISTEN TO YOUR PARENTS!!!! your young,your inlove,and it seems SOOOOO romantic to just run away,no one understands.YES THEY DO,thats why they dont want you to do it.your parents are not going to hand you over to ANYTHING that they feel will not give you the love that you need.if you have to run away,thats a sign.you been dating him for 4years and your only 17,thats a problem right there.your TOO YOUNG and he is TOO OLD.if he loves you he'll stick around,shoe your family that he loves you,that he's a REAL man and will wait until you've had some time to really grow into yourself.im 28,im getting married in 3 weeks.ive known my fiance since i was 12yrs old.but because i WAITED,and had othr relationships and did other things and we STILL wound up being together just proved that it was meant to be.if you guys love is real,you shoudlnt have to run.PLEASE think about it.good luck
2006-08-02 01:04:32 · answer #9 · answered by mrs.dynomite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't do it..it's better to get married with your parents' approval...besides, you're still young, you're only 18..there's so much more to life than running away and getting married. this guy might not even be the one..you still have a lot to experience..enjoy life, enjoy being single first so you can savor being married later...believe me, you still have a long way to go..and your parents might have a good reason not to like your guy..if you think they are mistaken, then prove them wrong, but not this way...think clearly girl..you're blinded by love..
2006-08-01 22:55:31 · answer #10 · answered by jensky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋