What's your opinion on waiting.......?

Question

I am going to wait until marriage...what is ur opinion on this? Guys, what would you think or say if you dated me and i told you i was going to wait for sex? Would that be a good thing or a turn off? I am not trying to change my values or anything, I am just curious on guys' opinion...

By the way, I think more people should wait

Do guys have more respect for you, rather than a girl who they know will put out?

Answer 1

“waiting until marriage…what is ur(your) opinion on this?”

It really depends on why she chose to wait in the first place.
If she defends her virtue because:

She respects herself,
She has some serious class and dignity.
She has super high standards = she wants a decent guy for once; one that can tell the difference between love and lust.
She believes in something called “true love” (OMG so corny)
She thinks her booty is oh, you know, somewhere around the priceless range,

Then I would probably be thinking:

This girl is smart; wants to offer her future hubby a gift that was never opened, never used, never blemished. She’ll have the option to say one day "…I didn't have sex or experiment with anyone, because I only wanted to do it with you..." (and that’s PHAT)
This girl understands and practices loyalty. She wants to prove her faithfulness to her future husband; that she really did love him more than any other guy, –even before they met.
This girl possesses true beauty: it flows from her heart, not from her looks.
This girl isn't looking for an ordinary boy, she seeks a real man: a guy that has self-mastery.
This girl is no plain-Jane; she's a rare one, and if the rest of her personality matched her respect towards sex, she would definitey be one worth fighting for.

Last but not least,

This girl would appreciate a guy who had the balls of steel to protect his gift for his future wife.

A girl that didn't follow the trend, but could instead think like a lady, have the faith of a little girl...aka she wasn’t like every other one out there who was promiscuous, materialistic, fake, pretentious, etc (hm...sounds familiar...)

A girl that had such a capacity to love a man she hasn't even met yet...she would quite possibly deserve special treatment in regards to my R.E.S.P.E.C.T.

That is of course, if such a lady did exist…but I’m just dreaming, right? ;)

Answer 2

I'll try to answer this as honestly as I can. I'm not going to try to talk you out of saving yourself for marriage, because you are probably right that most people should wait. However, I also don't think that is the means by which a woman should be judged. When to have sex is a personal choice everyone has to make, & if waiting until marriage is right for you, then stick to your morals no matter what any man says.
That said, in my own personal opinion, I would find this to be a major turn-off. I just don't think I can make important decisions without being informed. I wouldn't buy a car without taking it for a test drive, & I wouldn't buy a house without having an appraisal & a pest inspection. Likewise, I wouldn't marry a woman without knowing if we were compatible sexually. Sex may not be all there is to a relationship, but it is an important part, especially for a man. I would resent it if I had to wait until the wedding night, & then everything was awkward & she put no effort into sex, preferring to just lay there like a cold fish & not really participate. I think I would enjoy a wedding night much more if I knew what to expect, & I was certain we would have a lot of fun.
So, if you're going to wait, stick by your guns. However, when that night comes, try to have some knowledge on hand so you have some idea what's going on & you aren't so nervous. More importantly, show plenty of enthusiasm. If you are going to make some poor guy wait until after your vows, don't make it a lackluster wedding night where you two fool around a few minutes, & then he wonders if you'll get upset if he turns on the TV because you need time to rest or something. Hope this helps.

Answer 3

Personally, I would not mind so long as it wasn't a requirement for your eventual husband to also be saving himself (because then I'd be disqualified). If you want to wait for marriage, I'd respect that, but you'd have to be a serious, marriage quality woman (and also looking for marriage). If I was not looking to marry you, I would almost certainly move on quickly.

Everything is not black and white. Every person who does not wait for marriage isn't just someone who will 'put out'. There is a difference between sleeping with someone on the first date and waiting 3 months. You will do what you think is right, of course, but sex is a skill like anything else. Early on, every lover you have is another teacher, but if you have two people who have little experience...

Imagine trying to play an instrument with nobody to teach you how. Now imagine you don't know how that instrument is supposed to sound, you have an idea, but you've never really heard it before. Eventually with practice you'll be able to play something, but it will likely never be as good as it could be.

Answer 4

I think you're almost certain to be in for a nasty surprise on your wedding night. If you have met someone and love them and spend many evenings per week with them and know you WANT to commit to them, then what the hell is wrong with finding out if they satisfy you sexually....and you them. Because honey, no matter how many Disney princess moments you have with him during the chaste engagement, unless he is utterly asexual, he is going to be an explosive timebomb of horniness on the honeymoon, and you are going to be tired, sore, confused and quite possible creeped out beyond belief at all the things he wants to do to you and with you. You need to KNOW if you are sexually compatible with a person. I would also say you need some basis for comparison, but if you're all hung up on the only him thing then fine...but make sure you have tried sex long before you blow mum and dads wad on a huge wedding, only to arrive at their door the next morning, weeping profusely, bleeding between the thighs and wailing "He's a total pig and he hurt me so much" Because I am TELLING you...you never really KNOW a man until you've been in his bed, ok???

Answer 5

Me I'm waiting to find the right woman. When I do she is going to have to wait until marriage or else she is not the right woman. Whoever your mate is if they do not respect what believe. Then they will never respect anything about. Hold to your values. Good luck it is not easy. But will be so worth it in the end.

Answer 6

Wait is good, when you are not the one who's in a hurry.As some may prefer to do so to make their wedding night a more meaningful one, it can also delude those who are entering a marriage with that promise of fresh hot sex on their mind ,men especially, so that they can fulfil the insatiable beast within and not being aware of the commitments they would have to make in the future.

It's better to give it to them now than to keep it for the marriage. If he decides to leave you after he has got it,it's good riddance, if he decide to leave you after he has got it after the marriage, it 's a shame.

Answer 7

I think one should wait until he/she feels they're secure in the relationship with their SO. Is that when they get married? I don't know.

At my age (gee, I sound old at 36 years young, LOL) I would find it funny if I date a women that told me she wants to wait to get married before having sex. For me sexual relations are an important part on a relationship. I'm not refering to casual sex, but a let's get more intimate relationship when I'm feeling secure with our relationship and that we want to share some special moments.

So, I think people should wait for sex, but not neccesary until marriage.

Answer 8

I didn't and I wish I would have. The guy that I am with now would have valued it more then the one I gave it to. If a guy is not willing to wait then maybe he is not the one. Just my opinion. Do what feels right for you.

Answer 9

i think waiting is a really good idea i know its hard being a teen and having a bf and peer pressure but stick to ur guns i respect u a lot for making that decision and i totally agree wit u

Answer 10

Fair enough waiting, but I think people put too much emphasis on it. If soemone slips up and goes further than they expected they would in the heat of the moment, well, its not the end of the world. always remeber that.