I new him like 4yrs ago and it was all lots of love btwn us. 2yrs l8r he went ovrseas 4studies..One day his close frnd invited me out..it happened so fast, we kissd and kudnt control it I *** with the frnd. Was so disgusted with myslf.
he l8r found out he was so devasted & I wantd to kill myself 4 wat I did. He said he has 4given me and still loves me..but I think it still hurts him cos he tends to draw back in2 himself (mood swings)these days..something he never usd 2do b4..
Plz help wat shud I do to get us bak to our happier timez..I really love this guy
2006-08-01 20:24:08 · 7 answers · asked by lorra 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Counseling is what he needs and you need to go with him. Your relationship has not been mended yet. It will take him A LONG time to trust you again.
2006-08-01 20:27:57 · answer #1 · answered by littlerandiheather 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As I see it he is not the love of your life or you won't have done this to him.He may forgive but never forget what you have done.You have lost his trust forever.For you to even let it go past a kiss means you really don't care how he feels or your feelings for him.He will always use this against you.So now you have to live with what you have done.Now if he sees a lady that he likes are you going to let him have sex with her?Or better yet would if he decides to just go have sex like you.It won't help the relationship but he might feel better.
2006-08-01 20:44:13 · answer #2 · answered by Randy P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too young to worry about stuff like this and in this old-fashioned manner.
Things have changed. Our lifestyles are taking all of us down that fast lane where we do not have the time look back and reflect on who did what to whom.
So while I am amazed by your sense of responsibility and the twinge of guilt in your voice, you need to accept, "what is done is done!"
Life is too short and a little fast now days, to sit around and wallow in the past.
I think somehow you need to get this message across to your boyfriend, in words and in actions. Moping over this problem will help no one. Get over it, and move on, already!
Good luck!
2006-08-01 20:35:12 · answer #3 · answered by Chandru M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your betrayal was two years ago. He should have come to terms with it by now, now matter how devastating it was at the time. I wonder if his feelings towards you have changed and he is using your history as an excuse.
2006-08-01 20:34:06 · answer #4 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't control it, either he's not the love of your life or you can't keep your legs closed.
2006-08-01 20:31:44 · answer #5 · answered by Stranger in a Strangeland 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i m disgusted with u n i pity him cos he is devasted. put yourself in his shoes, wat if u find out he had been fuc*ing another while u were away? time may heal, but i tell u de guilt n uncomfortable feeling is always there
2006-08-01 20:30:34 · answer #6 · answered by he 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just call him and tell em u love him.
2006-08-01 20:27:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋