took it upon her controlling self and reserved a cheap 2 bedroom hotel room for all of us.I don't want to be with her the entire trip and the hotel room is about the same distance from the funeral as my b i l's.I told her once tonight we already had plans,but before we got off the phone she was like,"yeah,and just plan to be at this hotel...".I dont want conflict..what do I say?
2006-08-01 19:42:44 · 10 answers · asked by Direktor 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm over 18,married and have a 3yr old....she's tryig to tell me what me and my family are going to do!She's not going to give us privacy and I can easily imagine her doing stuff like trying to control how long we stay at a place by acting like she cant find the hotel key or something.Even though we'll be in a split level room,it will be like we're sleeping in the same room.I already predicted this and that's why we asked is brother.
2006-08-01 19:58:44 · update #1
She's even trying to tell us what to wear!!
2006-08-01 19:59:22 · update #2
spend a night with your mom and another with your b.inlaw..
2006-08-01 19:47:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look funerals are tough, in this time you have to do what you feel is right. Although you also don't want a scene to be made. Funerals are miserable I would hope that your mother wouldn't EXPRESS herself in front of the grieving family. Your mother made her plans and you made yours. But you know more about what your mother would do. SO Good luck and I'm sorry for your loss.
2006-08-01 19:49:47 · answer #2 · answered by trouble comes a knockin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should say thank you mom but I would feel more comfortable staying at my brother in laws house. I don't see the need to spend money when we already have a place to stay, make sure that you know that she appreciates the offer but also make a stand for your self, your have a voice and a opion use it. Don't let her make you feel bad for the decision's you make in your life.
2006-08-01 19:51:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dealing with grief, people go along with stuff they dont want to do when someone dies. Dont do it, its part of a memory thats yours and yours to keep. If your over 18 then do what you feel is best for you, dont give into guilt(unless the funeral is for your moms sister or mom or husband) then dont do it for her.
2006-08-01 19:49:46 · answer #4 · answered by jennifer b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your brother's college consular. they ought to have the skill to talk to him or assist you artwork out something. communicate on your dad, in keeping with possibility action picture it a shown him so he has to have confidence you. attempt to shelter your mom with out having harm whether this be via gently telling him to end or stepping in between them. yet do no longer try this until mandatory i do no longer decide for him turning on you. communicate on your mom besides, she needs to regulate him. back i visit assert be optimistic to talk on your dad. It appears like your brother is terrified of him if he in basic terms does this whilst he's away. You get your dad to step in and he ought to end. whilst he's no longer having a temper in keeping with possibility try conversing on your brother too. I propose your his sister in spite of everything in keeping with possibility in case you communicate gently he will pay attention to how this upsets you. He would clarify why he does it or understand he's doing it. try this whilst your dad is homestead however, back i do no longer decide for you harm.
2016-11-03 12:23:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say thanks, but you've already made other arrangements and you feel you should stick with your original plan. If she tries to start a conflict over it, just don't take her bait. Don't allow her to suck you into an argument.
2006-08-01 19:52:23 · answer #6 · answered by ccmonty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just tell her I really already have plans, but THanks for thinking about me. Parents are going to get disapointed several times before they die, but they also need to know you need freedom to grow into you.
2006-08-01 19:47:45 · answer #7 · answered by c g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go along with your mom and dont get the family any more upset it will all be good trust me!!!
2006-08-01 19:47:10 · answer #8 · answered by oggie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
explain to b i l the situation and go along with mom.
2006-08-01 19:48:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you only die one, why make a big deal
2006-08-01 20:12:06 · answer #10 · answered by ubon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋