How do you tell your child that an absent parent is having another child. The parent's parents see the kid

Answer 1

If the parent's absent, then why does your child need to know they're having another kid? Personally, if it's going to hurt them, why should you tell them? They don't need to know, it'll end up doing more harm than good.

Answer 2

Let me see if I understand your question first... Your child's absent mother or father is having another child and while your child is not in contact with that parent he/she IS in contact with his/her grandparents from that side of the family? Therefore your child could hear about the pregnancy from them?
In that case I would be age appropriate and let your child know that this does not mean that the absent parent does not love them and then let your child know he/she is special and loved. Then drop the subject. IF your child brings it up again handle it the same way.

Answer 3

It depends on the age of the child, but I think you should just tell them as matter-of-factly as possible. I would want to be the one to tell rather than hearing it from grandparents so that I would be available to answer any questions or deal with any concerns my child may have.

A younger child probably will take it in stride, while an older child may react more emotionally. I'd would try to remain calm regardless of what feelings the child expresses. Don't express any negative statements about the other parent, child, or grandparents. Make sure they know it's normal to feel confused and (s)he can always come talk to you about any feelings or worries (s)he has.

Hopefully you can reassure your child that the grandparents feelings toward her/him won't change, but don't say that if you aren't certain. If it's possible they will drop out of your child's life and (s)he worries about that, just try to be honest without being cruel... we don't know what is going to happen in the future, but you will still love him/her and the two of you are still going to be a family that takes care of each other.

Good luck!

Answer 4

Calamari is wonderful and my boys both love it!

OK now I want you to reword this.....You see it unclear what you are really asking.

If your child is under 5 then don't say anything and if questions come up later then deal with them

If they are older then that you need to sit them down and let them know that mom is having another child..

It doesn't sound like you are divorced because you said in your profile married..So that leads me to believe you are going through some real crud.

Is it your child? Is it someone you know?

The best thing you can do is be the best dad you know to be. Make sure your child get, has, and knows who loves them.
Get means stay organized
Has your love
knows that you love him by your actions

Take him to church if you don't do that now.

Good luck to you!

Answer 5

I believe it's important to know all of your family. If the child wants to seek them out later in life, at least they will know they have siblings.

Answer 6

if the child doesn't know... then how do you know?