Important Dinner?

Question

My boss asks me to come over for dinner sometimes, but even as a kid, my direct family never really sat at a table and ate together. I went one time, dispite my nerves, and i found myself parinod that i was being rude. I actually stopped eating even though i was still hungry. How can I avoid this situation again, but in a polite respectful manner? Remember, this is my employer.

Answer 1

As i can see it, it seems that you are having problem coping with social dinners. You can build up this skill by doing it more with people you know first and by the time you eat with your employer you will be more confident and relaxed. Try asking your close friends to have dinner with you, then friends or family members that you seldom contact. With this gradually you will build up the confident that you need. I hope this help.

Cheers,
Vearn

Answer 2

Table manners are simple common sense... and you will learn more as you go.

Whatever feels wrong and anti-hygenical is on the wrong side - but remember, the table setting is there to help you. All items you need are there for you, and if in doubt, you should always let your boss or his wife start first (that you should do anyway), and watch how they do it.

Don't wolf down the table, but the greatest compliment for a hostess is that you are REALLY enjoying her food. With so many people on a diet all the time, it is a treat to have a hungry person who enjoys his food! don't get drunk, but have fun... be kind to others, and all will be rolling.

The very fact that he is inviting you again is a good sign that you did well...

Your next step, is to invite people yourself... why not a bbq, in a park if you have no place at home? it is also polite to return invitations...

1. Eat with a fork unless the food is meant to be eaten with fingers. Only babies eat with fingers.

2. Don't stuff your mouth full of food, it looks gross, and they could choke.

3. Chew with your mouth closed. No one wants to be grossed out seeing food being chewed up or hearing it being chomped on. This includes no talking with your mouth full.

4. Don't make any rude comments about any food being served. It will hurt someone's feelings.

5. Always say thank you when served something. Shows appreciation.

6. If the meal is not buffet style, then wait until everyone is served before eating. It shows consideration.

7. Eat slowly, don't gobble up the food. Someone took a long time to prepare the food, enjoy it slowly. Slowly means to wait about 5 seconds after swallowing before getting another forkful.

8. When eating rolls, break off a piece of bread before buttering. Eating a whole piece of bread looks tacky.

9. Don't reach over someone's plate for something, ask for the item to be passed to you. Shows consideration.

10. Don't pick anything out of your teeth, it's gross. If it bothers you that bad, excuse yourself and go to the restroom to pick.

11. Always use a napkin to dab your mouth, which should be on your lap when not in use. Remember, dab your mouth only. Don't wipe your face or blow your nose with a napkin, both are gross. Excuse yourself from the table and go the restroom to do those things.

12. When eating at someone's home or a guest of someone at a restaurant, always thank the host and tell them how delicious it was, even if it wasn't. Again, someone took time, energy, and expense to prepare the food, show your appreciation

Answer 3

It sounds like your a sensitive and that's a good thing. Just be yourself. Your employer obviously enjoys your company and has a good feeling about you so just be yourself and you'll do fine.