my boyfreind of over 3yrs has treated me badly for a while, but i still love him as much as ever. I told him on sunday that i cannot carry on if he is going to treat me so bad as i dont deserve it. Hes completly turned on me out of the blue will not talk to me will not let me in his house says he hates me im so upset as this comes with no warning. how can he love me one day and hate me the next. i think he is doing drugs but he has such hatered towards me, i have never done anything bad to him how can i get over this when you see someone every day for 3yrs then just no contact at all... im really heart broken x
2006-08-01 19:26:27 · 13 answers · asked by lauzy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hey babes - Im only recently out of a relationship that was going along the same way as yours - I was blissfully in love with my bf and half the time he was the sweetest person to be with/ then for no reason he'd swap to being the most obnoxious abusive guy on the planet! I know he wasnt doing drugs - but I think he just had anger management issues.
I tried talking to him and got nowhere - and like you tried to persuade myself that it was better to leave him but just kept hanging around for more.
I think you need to be brave and leave him - I did it with a lot of effort and upset - but now im so happy - going on dates with different guys and realising that there are some REALLY nice lads out there - dont settle for second best and unhappiness - you only get one life - make the most of it!
Of course you're going to be hurt and upset for a while, but just think of what life would be like with him - he'll never change and you deserve better.
Let me know how you get on - take care
2006-08-01 23:56:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not COMPLETELY out of the blue - you said he was treating you bad before you confronted him.
You're better off without him - try thinking about how he treated you so badly, and this will help you get over him - you deserve better and he deserves nothing!
2006-08-02 02:41:45 · answer #2 · answered by Trevor h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear this news. not alot to say apart from all the things that other people have already said to you or you have told yourself. ask yourself will you still love him in 5yrs time if he treated you same way?
it sounds as though he is a bit of a coward, he has treated you bad for a while and then as soon as you confront him and tell him how you feel and that you can not go on then he shuts you out, i would say he was waiting for you to finish it with him so he didnt have to do it to you.
good luck, keep your chin up.
2006-08-02 02:34:38 · answer #3 · answered by jon c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thank goodness he will not let you in his house.
take stock and think about what you have told us about the way he treats you...no-one deserves that. would you let your friend or a daughter be treated badly? this man is obviously very controlling and he feels by sulking and ignoring you it is going to make you love him more???? i think not! try to move on and forget him. spend some time with the people who care about you and make you feel good about yourself and get rid of him...
all the very best
2006-08-02 02:35:52 · answer #4 · answered by *prettyinpink* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
broken hearts can heal my luv. don't let this guy treat u badly like he's doing, u deserve better angel. take a few steps back and analyse your situation, is it really the way u want love to be? i dont think he deserves u, move on!!
2006-08-02 03:29:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he didn't like what you said so is throwing a tantrum. if you keep chasing him he will think he can do it all the time to get what he wants. find someone who will treat you with the respect you deserve. don't play into his games. just think of him as a habit, such as nail biting, that you have to give up :)
2006-08-02 02:33:47 · answer #6 · answered by gonetotallymad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you ask how somebody can love you one day and hate you the next.... well the answer is they can't, so you have to ask yourself whether you think he is just hurt by your coments on how baddly he is treating you or whether he really loved you in the first place. Nobody here can help you with this problem and you haven't said how he has treated you so I can't comment, but you need to either make the decission to patch it up or move on..... good luck
2006-08-02 03:28:33 · answer #7 · answered by break 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry to hear this hun, he proberly got a girl on the side or as u said he could be on drugs. i know u love him but it sounds like u need to move on hun. seriously before u really get hurt.
goodluck what ever u do. just hope he does not end up beating u or something.
just make sure what ever u do. u think it though first.
takecare.
2006-08-02 02:45:29 · answer #8 · answered by alan h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will get over him hes trying to make you feel guilty but dont go enjoy your life noone deserves being treated badly.
2006-08-02 03:12:41 · answer #9 · answered by SEAN S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he won't change.
I know it hurts but you have to try to move on.
Make a real effort to keep yourself occupied with other friends and activities. It will get better al though it may not seem like it at the moment.
2006-08-02 02:59:39 · answer #10 · answered by Ellie G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋