I believe I have a problem. Despite my Christian upbringing I tend to have stronger attractions towards women. Though I have sexual experience with males, I've always felt a pull towards my same sex. I've tried to hide my feelings and devote myself to my religious studies. As my father is the pastor at a local church I feel it is my duty to not upset or betray them and our higher power. However, recently I have developed strong feelings for a very close female friend of my family's. We've even shared a kiss. I'm torn between my growing affection and what Jesus would want me to do. Can somebody please help me? God bless :)
2006-08-01 18:52:33 · 20 answers · asked by pushxtoxopen 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
There is nothing wrong with what you are feeling. Contrary to what society might say, this is something natural in the world, the best way to deal with it, is to deeply ponder whether or not you truly feel this way, if you do, you have to accept yourself for what you are whether straight or maybe even bi.
You could keep it a secret and always live unhappy with the uncertainty or choose to find out more about yourself. Obviously, your body is telling you something.
Don't forget that there are churches that accept gays, lesbians and bisexuals into their fold, true Christians will accept you no matter what.
2006-08-01 19:03:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really should not feel that way, sexuality is nothing that can't be change. In other words you're born how you were born. As far as your christian upbringing goes you can't really place belief on every word of the bible. Think about how many times the church has been split and how many different types of Christianity there are do to disagreements in the Church's interpretations of the bible. Now I not saying in this that god is not real just that there are parts of the bible that are most likely shaped to the Churches ideas and thought. If so many people are gay these days it would make no since that it was against god.
2006-08-02 15:19:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many times that people have an attraction to the same sex is due to a parent that has not been there and the person is trying to fill that void with a sexual partner. For instance a man that has had a horrible relationship with his father can be driven into a gay relationship to find a person that can fill his fathers role. You might want to take a look at the past to see if there are instances that kept you from getting to know your mother or see why and when you began to feel this way. I'm trying not to judge. Just want you to think about it and see what is going on in your lif.e
2006-08-01 18:59:08 · answer #3 · answered by cwenui 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should carefully consider what Jesus says about being gay and lesbian:
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Yep, that would be NOTHING. Check out the book "What the Bible Really Says about Homosexuality" if you want a verse-by-verse discussion of the things commonly quoted on the subject.
Women's sexuality seems to be a good bit more complex than men's. Most guys are turned on much more by one set of parts or the other - there are those guys who sleep with both genders but basic, animal attraction to one gender is usually pretty clear for us. Women seem able to change attractions or truly have both at once much more easily.
You are the only one who can decide what is right for you. I believe God will love you equally, regardless - but what *you* believe is what counts.
Good luck figuring it all out. It is not easy but you will be better off once your mind is clearer on these matters.
2006-08-01 19:47:12 · answer #4 · answered by R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T tell your father. Speak with another member of clergy if necessary.
Try to figure out exactly how important sex is to you.
It shouldn't be the number one thing in your life. It shouldn't even be in the top five.
Tyr to avoid people and situations that tend to get you into trouble, and concentrate on other things for now, until you can work through all the various parts of this problem.
You seem to be an intelligent person with good common sense.
Take a step or two backwards, exercise a little self control, pray, and give this a little time to work itself out.
A homosexual lifestyle is a difficult one, prone to insecurity, disease, violence, depression, and corruption.
God wants you to have much more than that.
2006-08-01 21:46:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it helps you at all (and I don't think it will, but here goes) I believe that if there is a God, he would want all of his children to be happy. This includes following your heart in matters of love, whether it be with a man or a woman. I know this isn't the traditional Christian view, and that is part of why I call myself an Agnostic! Just know that despite what your family thinks, there are millions of people in this world who would support your decision to have a same sex relationship. And perhaps your families reaction would not be good at first, but if they truly love you they will come around and love you no matter what!
Please make the decision that will make you the happiest, no matter what other people think of you!
2006-08-01 19:01:11 · answer #6 · answered by rachelinjapan24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find god if you are living this split lifestyle you are not being true to yourself or to the religion you grew up around consider this its a sin. Someone once told me in church if you feel tempted to do something that feels wrong ask yourself what would jesus do and also picture him standing beside you. I believe you will find the answer just stay on the right path.
2006-08-01 19:01:24 · answer #7 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How the hell would you know what Jesus want you to do? The church is definitely not the one to decide what's wrong and right, how people should live their life and how they mustn't.
Live the way you want. No one has the right to tell you not to love women (of course, it is impossible). You can love your religion AND love women the same time, and if your family loves you they will understand and accept you.
Amen, sister.
2006-08-01 19:07:44 · answer #8 · answered by yotg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't believe in jesus, honestly, it's all nonsense. he was just a guy, like thousands, if not millions of others, crucified because he pissed off the romans.
BUT
even if you believe in jesus, come on. he believed in compassion, love, and all that. would he really say you deserve to be in hell because you truely loved someone who happened to be a woman? i hope not, because that would suck.
i say follow your heart and instincts. there's nothing wrong with being bi or gay or sometimes having an attraction, or loving someone of the same sex.
good luck, i hope you find happiness, whatever your decision
2006-08-01 19:08:49 · answer #9 · answered by al 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your Father. Honestly you have already betrayed him and God and need to repent for your sexual experiences.
2006-08-01 18:57:02 · answer #10 · answered by picturesdrewtook 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋