i have been struggling with the ? who will walk me done the asle when i get married?

Question

My dad died four years ago

Answer 1

How about asking your mother? I think that would be really special for both of you. If you prefer to have a male, then ask your brother (if you have one), or a close uncle or cousin. But personally, I'd ask my mom.

Answer 2

Okay, what are your options - brothers, uncles, godfather? Since I don't know exactly what your family dynamics are this is all theoretical but, I would choose someone you are especially close to. Alternatively, maybe your mother could walk you down as that is not uncommon any more or you could go solo.

I'll give you an example. Three years ago my mother died and then about a year later my uncle died who is my younger sister's god father. In between that time frame, before my uncle got sick, my sister and I decided that, if for any reason, our dad could not walk us down the aisle, our god father's would get the job. Since my uncle passed away, we have decided on his two sons because they are our only male cousins. I get the oldest cousin and my sister gets the younger one. Of course, this is all theoretical because our father is fine but since life can be so unexpected (2 deaths within 2 years and both were under the age of 60) we decided it's best to figure this out now and then we can go to whomever when (if) the time comes.

Anyway, I hope that gives you some ideas. Best of luck

Answer 3

Dont walk down the aisle with anyone but dont walk alone either. Sounds weird huh? Is there a special song you and your dad listened to? Did he have a favorite song or ever tell you that you looked like a singer he loved? Is there anything special that reminds you of him? Have a picture of you and your father sewn somewhere on the inside of your gown or attached in some way and if there is a special song the two of you shared walk down to that instead of the traditional "here comes the bride"

It will be a special moment that you and your father can still share. He can be there in memory and spirit. Think about it. You can always walk by yourself to song that reminds you of your father in a positive and happy way.

Answer 4

I struggling with same question myself. I am now leaning towards walking down by myself to not hurt anyone or make someone feel "favortism" is being done.

Other alternatives are if I change my mind is my step dad, which I think I won't. My brother who will be catering and not sure on that or my nephew if he is able to come (he is 9, which he shoudl be about 11).

I think you do what you feel is right for yourself.

Cousin or sibling or friend?

To tell you the truth. You don't need a "male" to walk you down if you don't want to alone.

It's your wedding. Interchange it. Make it unique. Make it what you want it to be.

If you have a maid of honor, she can walk you down. Flower girl can. Sister, mother, aunt etc. Doesn't have to be a male if don't want it to be.

Answer 5

My dad died two years before I got married, so I understand how you must be feeling. I had asked my mom if she would walk me down the aisle, but she said no. I didn't want to go on my own, so my man and I walked down the aisle together. It was great!

Answer 6

We went thru this just recently in our family, my sister in law got married last year however my father in law had died two years beforehand. She had my husband, her older brother walk her down the aisle.

Many women today choose to walk down themselves. You might also consider your mother, there is no rule in today's society that says it must be a male that walks you down the aisle, if you have a good relationship I say that is the way to go, after all, she raised you as much as your father. (In most cases, I apologize if your situation is different).

Whatever you choose, best of luck in your marriage, I hope you have a long and happy life together!

Answer 7

I know exactly how you are feeling. I lost my dad about 5 years ago and now I'm getting married. I so want to do the right thing by tradition. I'm either going to have my eldest brother to walk me down the aisle or I was thinking to have both of my brothers walk my down. so to answer your question choose who you feel closer to. If you want a male to walk you down then choose a close relative or just have your mum walk you down.

Answer 8

You don't have to have somebody to walk you down the aisle. I have also seen moms walk their daughters down the aisle, if you want someone special.

My dad abandoned our family 5 years ago. My younger brother and I are very close and have supported each other through this. I asked him and he was so honored he shed some tears.

Answer 9

I'm so sorry! If you want someone to walk you down the aisle, I would say pick a man who has been really close to you or that you have known for a long time. Someone who I think you know well who you are greatful to. I think it would be the most meaningful.

I wish all the best for your wedding!

Answer 10

I am sorry to hear about the loss of your dad. You can pick anyone to walk you down the isle a brother, an uncle, or you can walk alone and let them see what a beautiful bride you make.

Answer 11

My dad abandoned me two years before I got married. I had my uncle walk me down the aisle. He has a terminal illness and is unable to see his own daughter who is close to my age. It meant alot to him. I also considered having my grandfather do it too, but he said that he wanted me to have my uncle do it.

Hope this helps.