How to get a grip?

Question

I'm kinda loosing it here. My self-esteem has dropped dramatically and I'm really loosing faith in a lot.

Anyone got any advice on how to pick myself up?

Sorry about my spelling. Excuse it, please.

A lot of you wanna know what's making my Self-Esteem drop. In a nutshell it's just a general insecure feeling of my friends not liking me.

Answer 1

Just take a step back and look at the big picture. What ever problems you might be facing are just temporary. This feeling will pass. Everything is going to work out for the best. You can get through this. You can't feel sorry for yourself... you have to make a change. If you've tried to do that and it didn't work, try harder. In the long run, you are the only one in charge of your life, it is your job to make it better.

If things are getting really bad, you may need to see a doctor to make sure that you are not depressed.

I know how you feel, I feel the same way often... and that is the advice I try to follow.

Good Luck, feel better soon.

Answer 2

I think that there are two things that can help a person when they are "losing it--their faith in themselves.

The first thing is to try to keep in mind that emotions change and this dip in your self-esteem may well be temporary, the result of shifty hormone patterns or actions of those around us. Keep all the faith you can in yourself and wait a day or two or three. If the pattern persists, then step up your treatment of it--perhaps a professional can hear you out and offer some new ways of looking at yourself and your life.

While you sort that out, it's very helpful to take really good care of yourself. Treat yourself with the respect you deserve. In this case that means take care of your health by eating well, getting some exercise--even a walk will help your spirits because it affects the chemicals being released in your brain. Get dressed each day, not just in schlubby clothes, but in something that reminds you that you are worth dressing well. Maybe you wear jeans everyday--that's okay, but make a special effort to wear your good jeans and a shirt that really flatters you.

And let your friends--your GOOD friends, the one or two you can count on to care about you be good friends to you while you don't feel very positive. Go out with them and talk and whine if you must and laugh if you can.

Everyone on the planet is worthwhile and has something exceptional that only they offer. Please keep that in mind during these dark times.

Best wishes to you.

Answer 3

When you hit the bottom, there is nowhere to go but up.

I could be more helpful if I knew WHAT made your self-esteem drop. Loosing faith is OK - question everything (including yourself).
From a perspective of 34 year old I can tell you - a lot of things get fixed with time - if you just hold on and don't screw up your future in the darkest moments of your depression.

Answer 4

search for a 'catalyst'. This could be something dramatic to change your life, or even reading a book that changes your outlook. By catalyst, I mean something that gives you the power to have a revelation about yourself. You have to realize that your depression is something created by yourself (that's what I did). Once you realize that it was all just something you invented, you'll feel better.

If your self esteem is about your appearance, try bleaching your teeth or otherwise giving yourself a make-over. It rocks :D.

If your self-esteem is about your self worth, you could volunteer. Check your newspaper or ask your friends about volunteering. Also, traveling helps. Simply driving off to camp somewhere might be enough. Somewhere majestic with huge mountains or large bodies of water or beautiful trees... (But don't go alone. People help keep you from having time to 'think too much', which was a bad thing for me.)

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Why has your self-esteem dropped? And what are you losing faith in specifically?

Not trying to be a pain in the a**, it is just kind of hard to offer advice w/o a better understanding of what is going on with you...

Answer 7

I know you feel here. What do you like? Music? A movie? Maybe a night out with your friends or just talking to someone close? Do something you like. Learn about something new that interests you. Maybe even pick up a new skill, like an instrument, HTML code, or a sport. It's always hard for me to stay into something when I'm feeling down, but when I'm doing it, I feel happy and after a while, I'm not down anymore. It takes a little time, but I'm sure you'll perk up soon!

Answer 8

I promise you that you are a wonderful and worthwhile person. Try to see yourself the way that God sees you - He made you the way you are, and He has a specific purpose for you. He loves you so much that every day He counts the hairs on your head, the same way that a mother counts her brand new baby's fingers and toes.
See yourself this way, and feel good about yourself. Do some volunteering, you will meet wonderful people and you will feel like you are doing a good thing.
Please feel better - you deserve the best.

Answer 9

Sometimes life throws things into your life that you have to deal with and when you get past them you become a stronger person.

All you need to do is take some time off, relax, think, and dream.
think about all of the good things in life and how you can make what you have the best it can be.


Sometimes life isn't about the big things...maybe it's about all the little things that happen, and making that count for all the bad stuff.

Answer 10

I learnt how to pick myself up the very hard way, sometimes learning to face fear, pain and suffering...
The first half of 2006 had been a test for me, a very tough one...
First, I learnt to face with lost of love ones, then many many difficulties, until sometimes I have to give up all that I love to do, but still, I stand strong... persevere on until today, and look, I'm here sitting down in front of the computer, enjoying myself plus giving advices to you.
:-)