Please women, tell me what to do. I am a healthy 37 y male. I have always been very horny, but I had an episode of depression and took Prozac for some time. I think that had something to do with the fact that a few short months after that I was loosing erection and interest.
Now after 2 years hiding from people I have began to take care of my depression problem. I began feeling interest in sex again. I had sex good 3 times this year with one partner and 1 with another. I know that is nothing for most of you, but I've never gotten much sex in my life, so for me that is GREAT.
The problem is that now with the last woman the situation was not clear and emotionally charged. I was having problems again.
I think that if I found some woman out there that will be interested in being intimate with me I might be able to get back to normal.
The problem is how to tell someone about this little problem and that I probably need to take Viagra in order to perform? Is that a major turn-off?
2006-08-01 18:36:35 · 8 answers · asked by or_m_123 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, I did see a sex therapist. I thought that it was physical, but he proved it to me that it was mental, by putting me on anti-depressant and after few mnts I am better emotionally and I guess sexually (comparatively speaking :-).
I know that I have problem having sexual fantasies. I stopped seeing myself in the heat of the act. I just do not have the evidence that I am wanted...
Yes (dragonfire), the last woman was a basket case:. She was dating many people at the same time so she can pick the best, so that was not the best for my confidence. With the first I was back to my previous "stud" self.
2006-08-01 19:00:28 · update #1
why tell?
don't go on the assumption that they ( the ladies ) are perfect
far from it..
most of them are emotional needy and or basket cases
trust me all of that comes out once you really get to know them
and then you'll wish you never did
focus on the objective, having sex
and ignore the background clatter that women bring
focus on you and your interests ( hobbies, sports ect.. )
something has to make you interesting
that's what you focus on... not the sex
trsut me most women are terrified as being as a lousy lay
or a feeling that they are unwanted
2006-08-01 18:42:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some women, ones that really don't have what it takes, will drop you. That is a good thing, because she would be an poor mate. She is too shallow.
But there are some women who would consider this a challenge. They can awaken you.
One key to women is to relax and just let things happen and if they don't, relax and accept it. Every once in a while a hot one turns up.
2006-08-01 18:49:44 · answer #2 · answered by James S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happens to a lot of men. It should not matter a great deal if you have the right woman. Don't take anything thats not natural my friend.... It could make things worse. Just take your time and make sure the lady your with is not just there for sex. If you are emotionaly connected she will understand and things will come together. If you are not it will not matter.... Good Luck to you....
2006-08-01 18:43:38 · answer #3 · answered by Windwispers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! You are not the only man with this problem...i don't think i would come on that strong to some one you just met...but i don't think you should be having sex with them either...after you get to know someone well...you will know what you can or cant say to her....why don't you get professional help with your problem and then you won't have to worry about it....Don't sound to serious for an M.D.
2006-08-01 18:43:57 · answer #4 · answered by Big T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you have to tell anyone? Wait till the relationship has developed, you may find that you'll have no problem in performing. You don't need to jump into the sack so soon.
2006-08-01 18:42:14 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No point telling a woman. Consult a doctor immediately
2006-08-01 18:41:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her, the two of you can see a doctor and explore the reasons and ways to solve the problem together.
2006-08-01 18:42:04 · answer #7 · answered by retrac_enyaw03 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if it is, because I'm a guy. However, I think you have a good excuse!
2006-08-01 18:43:32 · answer #8 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋