I've been in a 'friends with benefits' relationship with a man for almost 10 months now. We've hooked up a total of 5 times and each time the play has been much more fun, if you know what I mean. The relationship is exclusive on my end; meaning he is free to leave and fool around elsewhere... knowing full and well that as soon as that happens, I'm out of the picture. Recently, we've been talking more and more often and treating each other as if we were almost in a real relationship. No serious conversation has been had and he's rather non-confrontational. My questions are as follows: would a sucessful relationship really every work out? Should I confront him about the situation? Or should I just let things play out? How would you handle this?
2006-08-01 18:06:51 · 8 answers · asked by mayyouponderthis 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Friends with benifits, has no strings attached. He could go fool around with someone else and you should not care, just like if you did, he should not care. You are in a relationship already, just without the title. When you say, if he fools around, I am out of the picture, that is a girl friend speaking, not a FWB. You want the relationship out in the open, you may as well go for it, if it ends all the better as you can look for someone who will take all of you and be happy. But, go for a boyfriend, not a friend with benifits.
2006-08-01 18:13:57 · answer #1 · answered by psycmikev 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be so quick to judge him. He may just be very cautious about commitment. You know how men are about the 'C' word. The good news is that men who are slow to commit are often the most loyal once they have. Give him space and he'll come round in his own time. If you pressure him he'll vanish like a puff of smoke. It's been good for almost a year; what's your rush?
2006-08-01 18:15:04 · answer #2 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my own experience i wouldnt do it but i cant tell you not to. I was in the same situation you and we were friends with benefits and then we are started going out. We went out for a year and half and then he cheated on me. I was heartbroken and he cheated on me with someone he had messed around with when we were friends with benefits. I mean if you dont mind taking a chance i would go for it. But just remember you might be more hurt.
2006-08-01 18:16:23 · answer #3 · answered by jenks1545 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that he likes the situation the way it is. why confront him? just let things play out and see where it goes. whether or not the relationship works out depends on the two of you.
2006-08-01 18:14:42 · answer #4 · answered by bumblebee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let things just play out.
2006-08-01 18:12:00 · answer #5 · answered by prtybrneyez1081 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should confront you. You're just using him.
2006-08-01 18:11:57 · answer #6 · answered by daspook19 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would confront him he just using you and it shouldnt go on anymore
2006-08-01 18:10:25 · answer #7 · answered by lady t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was really interested, don't you think you'd know by now?
2006-08-01 18:11:34 · answer #8 · answered by addictivehabits01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋