Should I find another church to go to?

Question

I love to watch and listen to the choir every week and I had an incident with a girl who was giving me the evil eye from her choir seat. She wouldn't take her eyes off of me. I don't know anyone at this church. This went on for a couple of weeks. I finally gave her a dirty look back. Ever since, sveral of her friends have done nothing but snicker at me and give me dirty looks. To top it off, one of them is going to become a priest. This has been going on for 8months now. Every time I go to mass it's very uncomfortable. Should I take it as a sign that I need to find another church or suck it up and stay there. I'm really not comfortable confronting them because I don't even know them or what their problem is or how ugly it may get if I do. I know it may sound childish but I really think that people should feel comfortable going to church. I've been told not to "cower" to them. But it's getting to the point that I'm getting angry and it's hard to focus on mass. Give advise

Answer 1

I am surprised you have stuck this out for eight months! However, only you can know whether it is worth it to stay in the church or go elsewhere. Personally, I don't think it would hurt to try some other churches for a while. If they don't satisfy you, you can always return to the old one and give it another try -- maybe by then these people will have moved on to a new interest.

I know you say you don't like confrontation, but at some point it might be good to let someone know why you left (if you decide to leave.)

Sorry that you are going though this. Church should be a place where you feel comfortable and at home!

Answer 2

I don't understand the catholic church so my first inclination is to say that you should find another non catholic church. However, this is not the right reason to leave a church. You should go to the person and talk to them about it. Take someone with you if that does not work, Remember to be gentle, The goal is to help this person come into a closer walk with God, not to drive them away.

Answer 3

http://www.upci.org I'd attend one of these and give it a whirl! I've been a member of our local church for 10 years. And have been through a few different churches also. But this is the most sound for me and my family of four.

Answer 4

Well to me it doesnt sound very christian of these girls! Perhaps you should go to the priest of the church and speak to him about it and maybe he can be a mediator and you and the girl and her friends can have an adult conversation to work out what there problem is!

Answer 5

Your purpose for being there is to worship the lord,not to worry about those girls.No,you don't run you stay and concentrate on why your there.What those girls are doing wrong and they have to answer to God for that.No it is not childish, it is a valid concern.At the same time you have to let God do His work through you,not the devil.Those girls seem to have the devil in them.Don't play along with that.Pray for them.Let God handle them,you handle your business with God.

Answer 6

Find another church. There is no reason to stay there. Go someplace you COMPLETELY enjoy. Or, like you said, it's hard to focus on mass. I'd be outta there!

Answer 7

well, those people certainly give God a bad name, do they not?
just goes to show you, God doesn't exist in our world as He once did. i suggest leaving that church. it sounds as though you should have left that church 8 months ago. at one of my former churches when i was younger, people there snickered and made fun of my family and i. we left that church, and haven't regretted doing so since.

Answer 8

hey hun....yes the best thing to do is find another church that you feel completely at home in....what those people are doing is something that they will get to explain to God when they face him one day...in the mean time there are plenty of churches to go to....i wish you luck hun....love daisy