If you found out your teen was drinking and smoking?

Question

What would you do if you found out your teenage son or daughter was drinking and smoking marijuana. I dont want to hear about them getting grounded or anything. Creative but good ways to handle it.

btw, I'm 15, a lot of my friends have been getting in trouble lately, just want your opinion...

Answer 1

tell them that if their gonna bring weed in the house to let pops have a little puff puff

Answer 2

The 'talk' needed to start way before the teen years. I have an 8 year old daughter and we preach this stuff a lot. She probably gets tired of hearing it, but....

Both sides of the family have alcoholics and have seen what drugs/alcohol can do to a persons life. Besides costing a fortune for lawyers, etc, alcohol can ruin your life.

As far as the smoking goes....we preach on that too. Don't know how I would handle it, but I think she knows not to go that route.

Answer 3

I would call the police liaison at school and ask them how to handle the situation. It would be my hope that they would scare the crap out of my child, show them the bad side of the drug, rather than the hype it gets from other kids. I would speak honestly to the child about drugs in general. I would talk to them about a sibling on mine that never reached his true potential because he felt getting high was his potential. The best and most important thing that I would do, is talk the them about all of this before they ever have an opportunity to turn down the wrong road and the talk would continue over and over.

Answer 4

Explain them the consequences of the things they do and connect that with the use of alcohol, marijuana and even tobacco. No need to make it a horror story, but do expose the negatives where they can figure out if they are willing to suffer them in any degree they might come. Like getting in touch with law enforcement, health issues (long term), bad grades in school. Give them the illusion that they have a choice where in fact they have none, since the law simply forbids minors to drink and the use of marijuana is only for those who get it on a doctor's prescription. It's a bit like communism, there are elections but there is only one party to vote for.

Answer 5

Kids are going to drink...you cant stop it all. The best thing for drinking is to let them experiment, but at the same time inform them of the risks. Know where they are and what theyre doing, if they need a ride..give it to them. The pot situation though is easier to solve. One can regularly test your child by purchasing chemical analysis tests a a local Walgreens or WalMart relatively cheap. Another way to eliminate the drugs..is that schools are now giving drug tests to students with parents permission without any disciplinary action for free. I dont recommend sending a child to treatment or class because they will just learn more ways to hide their abuses or learn about other drugs.

Answer 6

I really don't know what to do because I am only 22 and my daughter is 2, but I will say that when I was a teenager I was drinking and smoking and my mother looked at it as just being a teen and never really addressed it......I was out of control! She never really knew the extent of it. I wouldn't have responded if she was to threaten me or try to punish me....that would have made me just take off. I would say that you really need to talk to her deeeeeply. Tell her personal stories about yourself that would make her know that you once went though it. I am not saying that this is going to happen to your daughter....but after drinking for awhile I started to loose respect for myself and became a female player, Hooking up with guys for the hell of it..... It took a friend getting hurt from drinking and driving to wake me up.

Answer 7

We have always communicated throughly with our son. When he turned 17 he started dibbling in alcohol and smoking on occasions. We told him we would rather have him here at home or at one of our friends or relatives homes while trying things that cause visual/mental impairment. We all know that teens of today will try things. I don't agree to drugs and alcohol but telling a teenager what to do is a waste of breath, unless you want a raging teen out of control yelling back at you or the teen that leaves home. I suggest talking things out explaining that it's not healthy nor safe. Our son is now 19 and he tried things and chose to have a better life and decided to go into the Army..which he is in basic training today. Good luck to you and your family.. remember communication and prayers. (-;

Answer 8

Well if they're partaking in these actions then it's best that you know. Make sure to keep communication open and pray that they feel comfortable talking about this with you. And always always always remind them that if they decide to drink or smoke DON"T DRIVE! Tell them that if they decide to drink or smoke and want to go home... call YOU no matter the time. I guess just make sure that they are still able to maintain appropriate grades in school and watch out for addictive behaviors. If you yell at them and punish them then it's just going to make them partake in these behaviors behind your back. This could put them in even more danger.

Answer 9

First, you need to establish with them that you know what they have done. Second, let them know you do not allow that behavior. Third, let them know the consequences of such behavior (i.e., if caught drinking, they will visit a morgue to see a teen DUI accident victim). If smoking marijuana, they will have to go to a drug rehab center and sit in on a group meeting with recovering addicts. Fourth, be a good example to your kids on what to do right. I hope you don't drink or smoke.

Answer 10

goodness, let me just say sorry for the jerks who kid about this, it is not funny and not easy, they don't know what they are saying. This is very tuff, i would, defiantly talk to them, maybe do a little research, and show them the harms of both drinking and ding drugs. If i was you i would take them to your local police station and have him or her talk with a police officer about the harm and consequences of the actions they are taking, or get them involved in a help program, those are very good. I wish the best of luck to you, i think your best shot is showing them how much it effects their life in bad ways, it can truly scare a person. Good luck.

Answer 11

Make him/her attend AA meetings with all the drunks/druggies and then ask him/her if that's how they want to end up.

(I wouldn't suggest making them go alone, though.) I think that was the best thing that curbed any temptation I might have had with drugs/alcohol growing up. My father was/is an alcoholic/drug addict, so my mom had all of us go to the AA for family meetings and I swore then that I'd never turn out like the recovering addicts that were there.