and my brother dose baseball and i like to shop my parents are always at his games and im at home with friends but its like they dont want me as a daughter what do i do?
2006-08-01 16:30:03 · 18 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Awwww.............Please tell your parents that you feel left out and I am SURE that they will find time to spend with you.........They probably don't even REALIZE that this is happening........Take care, hun..............
2006-08-01 16:32:59 · answer #1 · answered by mizzzzthang 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I grew up the same way! I have been a girlie-girl all my life. I tried sports, but I had to quit because I was so bad I felt like I owed it to my team. My brother, on the other hand, was Mr. Allstar in every sport he played. I didn't feel left out at home when I was alone or with my friends because I always had a lot to do. When I didn't want to stay home I would go to my brother's games and cheer him on. I had a lot of fun! Then after the game we would all go get ice cream or McDonald's together as a family, and that was fun too.
Your parents want you as a daughter, and they love you just as much as him. It sounds like you are isolating yourself from your family, not the other way around. Go to some games with your parents, cheer on your brother, and have a good time. You might even make some new friends, not to mention get some ice cream after the game!
2006-08-01 23:39:09 · answer #2 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom's best friend has 2 sons: 1 that is 3 years older than me and 1 that is 6 months younger than me. I have been great friends with both of them my entire life.
The older one was no athlete. For whatever reason, he just didnt have it. It just wasn't his thing. Now, the younger one was a great athlete. The younger one and I played soccer, football, baseball and basketball together all growing up. Of'course, their parents went to every single game that they could attend.
The older one confided in me that he had mixed feelings about the fact that his parents seemed to spend so much time paying attention to what his little bro did. I think it created some sort of self esteem issue in him.
However, what the older one lacked in the athletic department, he gained in the intelligence department. He was a straight A student, pretty much, even though he wasnt a nerd and didnt really study. Their parents were very proud of that...unfortunately, you just cant go sit for 2 hours on a week night and cheer on a classroom score, you know...so it is different.
Fastforward: Years later, the older one graduated from college, which the parents attended, through a huge party for him, were very proud of him, told everyone about it, how much money he was going to make, how successful he was, etc...Unfortuantely, the younger one was not college material...much like the older one was not successful athlete material. Thus, the shoe went on the other foot and the younger one developed some sort of self esteem issue like he didnt measure up in his parents eyes to his brother.
The truth of the matter is that children are different. Parents love them for what they are. They support thier children in what they do. Unfortunately, there are activities that, by nature, create more attention than others. Sports, theatre and musical performance are some examples. Just because they support your brother in those activities doesn't mean that they love you or care about you any less. Furthermore, athletics, just like theatre, musical performance and advanced educational performance take time, hardwork and dedication which deserve to be rewarded.
I understand where you are coming from completely. I will advise you that if you ever decide to ask others about your situation or you decide to talk to your parents about it...leave out the "shopping" comment. I understand that "shopping" means alot to you, but, honestly, how can a person reward someone for spending money that they give them?
Trust me, your parents are just as proud of you as they are of him. Athletic event attendence has nothing to do with pride, love or care. It is just part of it. I am sure you make your parents just as proud for other reasons, just like the situation with my friends above.
Good Luck!
2006-08-02 00:17:38 · answer #3 · answered by Cing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're feeling left out... tell your parents. Keep the communication open. I'm sure they love you and wouldn't trade you for anything in the world. Try going to some of your brother's games. That a way while you guys are watching the rest of the team bat you guys can chat about things that interest you.
2006-08-01 23:35:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents have trouble accepting that their kids don't want what they want. It doesn't mean that you are a bad daughter and my guess is that they love you they just don't know how to communicate with you . Try to find something to do together. Tell them that you know that you don't play a sport but that you would like time with them and they will respond to that. Sometimes we moms need a swift kick to remind us that someones needs are not being met. The best of luck to you!!!
2006-08-01 23:38:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet that they don't realize that you feel this way. Ask them if they could spend more time with you. I'm sure they will be happy if you ask them that. If that doesn't work- try joing a sport. You may find you like it- and it is not about being good at sports- it is as long as you try hard and have fun.
2006-08-01 23:38:00 · answer #6 · answered by penguin lover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not that they don't want you. ball games are done by schedule and they are being supportive of your brother. You could go to a couple of games with your parents? Pick a night when there are no games scheduled and make dinner for your parents and ask them if they'd like to go see a movie with you!
2006-08-01 23:37:40 · answer #7 · answered by Jo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure they do love you. The baseball will be over soon. When you can help clean up the house and baby set , they will think your the best thing thet ever had. They love you ,
Now be good and stop worrying about it.
2006-08-01 23:39:49 · answer #8 · answered by ldp999000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then get into sports, try new things, so you can get better at them. but i mean only go with the sports you like, dont take up a sport for the sake of impressing or tryna get attention or whatever. practice makes nearly perfect or better at least
2006-08-01 23:33:01 · answer #9 · answered by metronome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont like sports dont do them because i am 250lb which is all muscle and hate all sports except chess. if they dont want you as a daughter what you do is get straight a's in school go to college get a good job and go to there house and show them how successful you is.(email me dragonlord_koji@yahoo.com subject: hey kojin)
2006-08-01 23:36:41 · answer #10 · answered by kojin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't think that they don't want you. Your bro needs support in his games. I know there is something in you that they want. Being their daughter who loves them so much.
2006-08-01 23:38:00 · answer #11 · answered by amber200271 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋