My Boyfriend may be a porno freak?

Question

Hi - I know most women have found or seen their boyfriend with a porno mag or a movie. But my guy seems to be extreme - altought he tells me it is normal. I snooped his house (he gave me a present that will never go away). I found aprox 300 video, dvd's, playboys, maxins, pictures of girls from the internet, seemingly innocent pictures of his neices (all in bathing suits or with their *** up in the air - they are 13-21yrs old). Old girlfriends, pictures of his neices and their friends at prom & spring break in bikinis, 2 pairs of underwear and a tee shirt. I found that he is ordering about 10-15 movies a month. He is always looking at other girls tries to make eye contact. He tells me the underwear and shirt are from an old girlfriend, he said to just toss. He surfs porn everynight when he has time alone -I am so sad because I would love to be the one he wants. I didn't tell him that I found his porno box with all the neices pictures. Advise please is he a freak or an I insecure.

He tells me that my insecurtiy will ruin this relationship. And he is so sweet and kind when we are alone. But if there is a cute girl there he will watch her every move and make eye contact with her - of course I forgot to say he is gorgeous and girls of all ages flirt with him. Then of course I am told that I am so insecure if I cant handle him talking to all these cuties - especially the 15 yrs olds.

Thanks to all that took time - and helping me realize this isnt my problem and is destroying our "relationship".

Answer 1

DAMN GIRL..what the **** is up with that!! he is more than a porno freak..at first i was sayin ok its cool for guys to have the playboy and stuff...but the 300 videos and the pictures of HIS NIECES....damn thats some serious stuff you're dealin with..dump that freak and move on..if you want to save ur self..and advise him to get some serious help..that's real sick..

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Yes certainly your bf to be an extreemely porno freak.Everything which is extreemely or extraordinary is not god.You must talk to him frankly why he acts like that.It will bring him to a harm condition,his passion and desire will increase very high.Satans will seduce or tempt him to do a wrong doing to practice his illusion after watching the videos or pictures.Making an eyes contact with another girls is the beginning of eyes adultery which is strictly prohibited.It is a sign of unloyalty.You must discuss it deliberately from heart to heart in a friendly talking in a relax time.He must control his desires for sex. by fasting,physical exerscise and take a busy works of his hobbies other than watching a porno videos and pictures or books.He should get rid of those materials.

Answer 4

Girl quit walking and get on the bus with your good sense and drive right pass this man. He is not the one for you and your gut is trying to warn you. However you are trying not to listen and you are going to pay for this in the end. However, before you go you need to speak with this man's mom, dad, sister or brother and alert them to the fact that he has pictures of all of these porn magazines, dvd's, etc. And has pictures of his neices half naked, etc. in with this pile of stuff. Let them know you are concerned and just wanted to alert them just in case something is wrong so that he could get some help. And then girl get on the bus with your gut feelings and good sense and keep going until you find a good man. Good Luck!

Answer 5

It sounds like your boyfriend is a sex addict and needs psychological counseling. The part about the neices and their friends is particularly troubling. He may be using porn as a coping mechanism to avoid confronting difficult psychological issues like trauma and abuse in his past. Patrick Cairnes has written some good books on the subject that you might find helpful.

Answer 6

He has a problem. A serious porn addiction. You need to get out. It will only get worse. It is seriously an addiction. He will need professional help to stop. It's not healthy. Find a new boy friend. You deserve someone to love and respect you. He can't do that right now. Run away....as fast as you can.

Answer 7

its perfectly abnormal. not all guys like incestual porn. just let him be warned and that he is a little if not completely freaky.
we all guys have had a little crush of lust of cousins or nieces, but to keep horny pictures of them, now thats just borderline psycho. u have been advised. i'll give u this scenario. if u 2 marry, then u have a daughter with him, what do u think will happen? once again, u have been warned. think before u commit to such a weirdo man.

Answer 8

Some porn isn't a problem, but he has a major problem. He has an obsession with porn. You better be careful he may be video taping you or something, he sounds like a major freak.

Answer 9

its wicked normal, maybe not with the neices pictures but everything else is normal, you arent being insecure either, its normal for you to want to be the one he desires not brooke burke, but hes a guy, and hes going to look at porn, maybe look at it with him, or help him out down there so he can use both hands to search!

Answer 10

I'm going to tell you like I heard on the radio. Looking at porn isn't bad when you compare it to going to dating sites. You know if he looks at porn, he just want to get his harmones out. Be glad. Most people won't waste their time. They would go out and cheat. Be there when he really needs it.