my best friends bf is CHEATING on her but SHE DONT KNOW?

Question

My best friends boyfriend is chesting on her. he told me and said i better not tell her. I hate lying to her.he has cheated on her 4 times already but im too scared to tell her.HER BF IS 6 FOOT AND REALLY BIG.he scares me. should i tell my friend or should i keep this dirty secert to myself?

Answer 1

are u sure she is your 'best' friend? He cheated on her for 4 times and told you about it and yet you did not inform your 'best' friend?

Answer 2

If you really are afraid of this guy I guess you must have your reasons cause not telling a friend this, is hard to believe, now, I've been in that situation before and the most incredible thing could happen like, your friend not believing you and turning her back on you, so I would suggest a way in which, you bring up the subject and then let her find out on her own, if this happens it would be painful for her, but there would be no doubt about it.

Answer 3

This guy is no good. Threatening a female with what? Physical violence? Tell her in front of him and other Witnesses and let the truth be known, if she decides to believe him and hate you for telling her,it's done, forget it. She wasn't much of a friend after all. Don't try to convince her. If he touches you, dial 911 asap and get him arrested, Sociaty frowns on this behavior and he will be dealt with severely. Even if he beats it in court he'll have some jail time waiting for "A friend" to bail him out and this is public. I can't believe any woman will let a man bully them, don't take this kind of s*** from anyone, you have rights. And as for your friend, she should know the relationship isn't one she can build any trust into, and maybe she should open her own options and start dating other guys as well. Nothing wrong with dating more than one person if your single, why do woman let a man single them out and close their options? Time for everyone to grow up. You need to learn how to stand up for yourself and be a friend when a friend is needed, time for her to chose her men more carefully, and time for him to learn his place .

Answer 4

If you are really friends with her you would have told her already. She is going to be hurt that you havent told her about the three other times. I recently was going out with a guy for a year and half and i just found out he was cheating on me and im really hurt. Its hurts more when people you know already know about it. three of my friends that were friends with my ex knew about it and i was the last to find out. I have been really depressed and i dont know if i will ever be able to trust anyone again. The longer she doesnt know about this the more depressed she is going to get. I was in shock when he told me this after we broke up. I didnt think that if someone who says the love you would cheat on you. PLEASE tell your friend you would want to know if your boyfriend was cheating on you. Since you probly will tell your friend sit her down and explain that you didnt want to hurt her and that you are sorry.

Answer 5

I know that sucks really when you may have to get in between a friends relationship. Well honestly you have to choose between letting your friend get hurt or helping her out. You should let her catch him on an accidental note. If you know where he might be and have her go there with some of your other friends as if she had no idea that he was gonna be there without her knowing then it really wouldnt be your fault and you wouldnt have told her but yet she wouldve found out herself.

Answer 6

Why the h ell would he tell you and expect you not to tell your BF? Unless you are not such a good BF to her. And I am guessing you are not because you are letting this jerk make a fool out of your supposed BF because you are keeping his dirty a ss secret. Be a good BF and tell your BF. And if he tries to do anything to you call the police on his sorry cheating a ss!

Answer 7

nope you need to tell her some how girl !! or you will loose her friendship. nope get a support group on this ! take that tally wakker out!! 3 or 4 people on your side!! Tell him to his face that your telling her maybe, dont feel bad this needs to be addressed. just dont think about it every waking moment till you do it. Just tell yourself your doing the right thing here... you might be able to do it where your not directly involved.. like put it in a strangers hands some how for money :)

Answer 8

tell her. its better to have her as a friend then have some guy as your friend who cheats. if you value your friend you will tell her regardless of what her unfaithful boyfriend told u. she will hate you for a long time if u dont tell her. if he is really big and scary like you say then maybe you should tell somebody really big and mouscully so they will protect you if it comes to that. maybe send her a cd with rhiana's "unfaithful" or ashlee simpson's "boyfriend" and have a chat about the song then mention how true it might apply to her. hope this helps

Answer 9

Mind your own bussiness. I think it is best that you just forget you know. There is no use getting your self hurt, or put yourself in danger by opening your mouth. The best thing you can do is just be there for her when she finds out bc if you tell her you risk losing her as a friend or getting crushed.

Answer 10

I think you should tell your friend. He shouldn't be cheating on her n-e-way. She has a right to know whats going on behind her back and what her boyfriend is doing to her. If he really loved her he wouldn't be cheating on her. And besides what would her bf do to you if you tell.

Answer 11

Unfortunately, it is not him that you need to be afraid of. Sadly, the friend would likely be the one to turn on you. You know the phrase "Don't shoot the messenger"? When women find out their man is cheating, they often do just that - shoot the messenger. She will eventually come around, but you will always be the one that "ruined her relationship". Which is worse?