HELP ME please, OTHERWISE I'LL GET TO THE POINT OF KILLING MYSELF?

Question

When your whole family is fighting all day... your parents are about to get divorced unless something big saves their marriage, you have no friends, u have been called of all tipes of things (surely not good ones), and u dont like ANYTHING about your life.... how do u go through a bad day??

I NEED HELP!!

Answer 1

Trust me professional help doesn't really do much for you other than make you want to kill the person talking to you. Don't end your life because if you do then you are proving to people that you can't take the stress. Prove them wrong as for the friends try to find them I know when my parents where going through a divorce I pushed people away try to find people that know what you are going through. Find something that you do like in your life like the fact your are pretty and seem really sweet. There is nothing wrong with hating your life but there is something wrong with not trying fixing it. and not trying to be happy.

Answer 2

You have no control over your parent's relationship. Nothing you can do will make things better there, so the best thing you can do is to escape. That way you will not be an injured bystander.

Find something interesting you enjoy that can get you out of the house. It can be as simple as visiting friends, taking long walks, going to the public library to read (or even read to kids there), joining a church or youth group, volunteering at an old folks home, etc. Just find some reason to get away from your family!

If you have access to a school counselor, you could ask him or her if there are any programs you could get into. If not, then your city may have a "troubled youth hot-line" you can call. Find out what you have locally, and then follow through.

Answer 3

You need someone to talk to.... it cant be ur family obviously.... and u r saying that u have no friends. Well... I would suggest that you find someone who cant really see u, because when u talk about those themes, is better to talk for example on the phone with someone u dont know (maybe on the youth hotline), so that its easier to not be embarassed (I, for exammple have been embarassed sometimes of talking about that kind of things with people I know). You should also get a hobby, keep your mind off your parents situation, and just try to live your life as best as you can. Try to find a friend somewhere, try to get out of this situation and years later you'll look back and think about how stupid it was of u even thinking about killing yourself. And try to talk to your parents. Try to make that "huge thing to save their marriage" happen. Good luck, and contact anyone in here if u need anything.

Dont let bastards get u down, you're 100 times more worth than what those persons who call you names and other people are!!!

Ur friend, Dan!! :)

Answer 4

Everyone has difficult moments in their lives. While you may have no choice as to whether your parents are divorced, whether others want to befriend you, YOU HAVE A CHOICE to choose HOW YOU WANT TO REACT to it. ;)

You can always look on the positive side of things. I read a book called Pollyanna about this little girl who always looked on the bright side of things.

Pollyanna's father was a paster and during one christmas, a churchmate donated a pair of crutches to Pollyanna as a christmas gift.

While most of us would surely be disappointed, Pollyanna was filled with joy and gratitude because she says that means that someone else has recovered and need not use the crutches anymore and that would be the greatest christmas gift she can get.

- Your parents fighting: is actually a chance for them to talk things through. If they do sort things out, they will stay togther.

- If your parents divorce after all the fighting, they will be much happier without each other and your family life will become more peaceful. And don't worry, their divorce has nothing to do with you, you still enjoy the love from both of them. (If you dun beleive me, you can ask them.. I am a parent myself so I know..)

- You have no friends because maybe you need to improve yourself in certain areas. This gives you a chance to improve yourself and prepare yourself for more friends in future. Is it what you wear on your face? (People are drawn to happy people, so pls remember to wear a smile)

When I was very down, someone told me that no matter what happens, WINTER WILL ALWAYS TURN INTO SPRING. Just hang on there, your winter will soon turn into spring...

Also, my mentor told me that The Darker the Night, the NEarer the Dawn... your nights are dark now because you are near dawn.. you just need to hang in there and hang tight! :)

Good luck!

Answer 5

sad & pretty, your teenage life will be over soon enuf, in a few short years, you will be away from home, school and everyone you know now will be a distant memory. the only way you will run into them is if you seek them out. life as you know it now, will be laughable. sometimes for teenagers it's hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel, but there is light and it's not too far away in your future. your parent problems are theirs and there is nothing you can do to fix them, they are big people, let them sort it out. you didn't create the mess , they did, it's their job to fix it. you may not have any friends because you don't want anyone close to you for fear they will see how you live and you are ashamed. don't worry, lots of people have far worse home lives than you do. think of the up side, you have a mom and a dad and a home, maybe not the best in your opinion, but push yourself away from that apple pie and ice cream television long enuf to realize it's tv and it's not real. lots of teenagers have phucked up famalies. but they make it through and go on to have their own famalies that they get to phuck up and then they realize their parents were doing the best they knew how. good luck....

Answer 6

First of all, the problem between your parents is not your fault, its a bad situation that needs to be resolved. As far as being called names....nothing anyone can say can hurt you if you don't let it. Realize names aren't personal. Its a way for the person to make themselves' feel better by making someone else feel worse. I've learned to meditate. Brings the present to an inconsequential point and I realize that in the big scheme of life today is merely a brief point in time and will not matter in 10-15 yrs in the future.

Answer 7

Remember that they are fighting because they are inconsiderate of your feelings. As for the names and such... I grew up like that, too. I was such a geek, the mentally disabled kids wouldn't even talk to me. I'm now 30 yrs old, with a wonderful, sensitive husband and an adorable toddler son, and I revel in the solitude that was once forced upon me.

When you get to college (please, PLEASE go), you will meet real people, people who don't try to boost their own self esteem by knock down another's, people who will value your intellect, sense of humor, and empathy. Move out of your parent's home as soon as you are able, and stay away from alcohol, drugs, and toxic people. Don't date until you know yourself, or you risk tying your own self-worth too strongly to what your partners think of you.

Try counselling, too. I found out that I have Bipolar disorder, and have probably had it my whole life. It made me a socially inept, awkward, depressed and needy teenager. Looking back, I'm not surprised no one liked me. Then again, that was their problem...

And never forget that you are a valuable, lovable person. Your parents love you very much; it's unfortunate they are so tied up in their own little drama to tell you so. If I had known you when Iwas a kid, I would have been grateful to have known you.

Answer 8

Just remember, a bad day doesn't last forever. It will always get better at some point, and you will be able to look back on it and be glad it is over with.
If you kill yourself, you will never have that oppurtunity.
Whether you are a christian or not, remember my fave verse, cuz it's true : Weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning.
It always gets better. trust me, I know. I've had some pretty bad ongoing problems. Be happy to be alive, to be able to have a future where you can make your own decisions and live your own way.
It's something to look forward to. There's always hope.:)

Answer 9

If you're in school, see a councilor. If not and you're employed, pay to see one. Just having someone to talk with will help a lot. You may also find that medication will help. Just keep in mind that your parents' divorce is most certainly not your fault. Their problems may affect you, but you are not the cause of them. PM me if you want to talk about anything. My parents went through a messy divorce and I was suffering from clinical depression at the time (undiagnosed until about 2 years later).

Answer 10

you can talk to me. My parents are divorced (for almost over a year) me mom and her bf are fighting, physically and verbally. i get betrayed by my friends as well. i hate everything about my life, because alot of things go wrong all the time. i get verbally and emotionally abused sometimes. ive been called alot of names too... no and friends and being called names are honestly a fact of life, you will have to ignore those ignorant turds and tell yourself your alot better, and that things WILL get better, killing yourself will not help ANYTHING, its to much cure for the sickness, really it is. if you wanna talk to someone besides the people you know heres a site for a HOPE counselour (sp??) he will help you out in ALL your problems. www.dmlive.com dont be scared to call and talk, you can also turn to God, he s always there to help you in everything. it will get better, just work through your problems, but killing yourself is not the answer. niether is cutting, so dont try that.