I know that most girls see this and are like wow what a loser, but that is not the case. I am not some goody-two shoes kinda guy but i also love and respect women. I never would hurt them in any way and i usually rather agree with them than get into an arguement or a fight. I see fights as pointless since they just end up making both people angry and stressed for no reason, so thats the reason i choose to be passive about it. Does this qualify me to be put into tat "nice-guy but still a friend type" category? I'm not going to chage my ways because i know eventually i will find a girl that respects my treatment of her and im not going to act like a tough guy if its not needed but i know i can also hold my own when the situation calls for it. Thanks in advance for all your wonderful help.
2006-08-01 15:41:10 · 19 answers · asked by Justin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah sorry i forgot to add, when i meant to be passive i meant in situations when the fight is completely about nothing. I know i will have to have a say in desicions and I am more than willing to do so and its not like i would always agree with her, just in situations that i know aren't worth fighting for and i know she has a point. I am completely OK with stating that i am wrong at any given time if i truely believe it.
2006-08-01 16:05:53 · update #1
You are the kind of guy that everyone is looking for. The common "nice-guy friend type" is not necessarily true. I have had some bad boys like me that were still "just friends". You will make someone really happy, and many girls out there are dying for someone just like you. When a girl places you in that category, it isn't because you're a nice guy, it's just because she isn't attracted to you. Just as when someone likes you it won't be because you're a nice guy [though that might help] but it will be because you're you.
2006-08-01 15:46:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not bad to be a nice guy but it's nice to be a bad guy sometimes...change you're role. Men don't realize this enough but we are taking a dominant role in public now. Slowly but surely, women are ruling the world and even though we are enjoying a little of the power, we still hold that submissive side to us. We need to be told to shut the F!uck up now and then, it turns us on to know that their are men out there we still need to conquer. If you can do that occasionally...it would be great. If not, find a girl who is much nicer than you.
2006-08-01 15:52:27 · answer #2 · answered by Yondie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice is good. Most women like nice. Passive isn't always so good. SOme conflict is inevitable in relationships and should be expected. It can be resolved without yelling, but I would recommend reading about good conflict management if you want to avoid "arguing" but in a healthy way. Also, know what you like an don't like, you can be nice and still have an opinion.
2006-08-01 15:48:28 · answer #3 · answered by TheyreComingToTakeMeAwayHaHa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, its not bad if you respect and treated women kindly. The thing is-sorry to say this- bad boys have largely appeal to female, maybe due to their nurturing and protecting instincts. it inspire them to be the one to bring out the 'good' in the bad boys. and sometimes these bad boys has so many hard, difficult experinces - so it brings out the protective and healing instinct.
anyway, if my partner always agree with me, i will find it boring and annoying. I dont want a fight, but i still want an exchange of opinion. i know he's not a robot- he also has his own feeling and principles - so voiced it out. sometimed it is better to lay it out in the open rather than bottling it up inside....then turn bitter.
2006-08-01 16:01:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, to be sincere now not each and every lady likes "dangerous men". I myself am fairly shy, so I might alternatively have a fine man who respects me and makes me chuckle. Nice men are NOT dull. Truth be informed I would not think comfy with a nasty man besides.
2016-08-28 14:13:11 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not bad to be the nice guy. My ex-boyfriend was a nice guy and we got along great-we broke up because I moved to Cali. I think nice guys just like to respect that and it's awesome!! You will find someone who respects you just as you are. GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-08-01 15:49:22 · answer #6 · answered by Sexy S. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it isn't a bad thing I wish there were more nice guy's out there. Instead of all the ******* most of us nice girls go out with. I've had my share of jerks, cheaters, liars, *******, etc. I wish most of the nice guys would ask most of us nice girls out.You will make a girl very happy one day.
2006-08-01 15:50:48 · answer #7 · answered by Steph1490 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont change b/c good guys are actually better. I personally think respectin a girl is way better than goin out with someone who is goin to cheat on you. I think it is so sweet and cute that you are one of those "good guys" You will find a girl that likes that
---Good luck---
2006-08-01 15:49:28 · answer #8 · answered by 7-7-07♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but don't get a discussion confused with an agument. Sometimes the way a girl talks can seem like she is arguing with u. Just try to talk it out without arguing or becoming angry. Don't close the discussion it will just build up anger. Trust me I kno wat u mean I hate to argue with people.
2006-08-01 15:48:41 · answer #9 · answered by babigurl34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a difference between being a nice guy and being a doormat. If you can find a girl who will respect you and not walk all over you, you will make her very happy:)
2006-08-01 15:47:48 · answer #10 · answered by Ms. GTO 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋