what are people doing today; being so rude to each other -- being so me, me, me. Does anyone realize that all celebrations are for the entire family, not just the bridezilla!!
2006-08-01 15:34:07 · 30 answers · asked by sheila p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Hmm...I would say there are definitely circumstances that would provide reason for a bride to "yell" at her future mother-in-law. I would imagine, if you are speaking about a "celebration" you are talking about a shower of some sort. Although this is a time for the entire family to join in it really is just about the bride and groom, that is what you are there celebrating. Also, in a traditional time line, it would mean that the wedding is inching closer and closer, which would put a lot of stress on the bride to be and the groom to be, give her some credit, maybe you or someone else was pushing and picking and pushing and picking...of course she would reach a breaking point. Perhaps you are the one who needs to step back and think about your actions and comments. Although, there is a chance that she just is mean in which case I'm sorry you were "yelled" at.
2006-08-01 16:17:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can't think of any situation that would warrant a future daughter in law to yell at her mother in law, but I'm sure it's happened. Obviously it's happened to you, and I'm sorry. I agree, people are way too "me" oriented, and weddings are great celebrations for the entire family, it's frequently one of the few, if only, times the entire family can or will get together in one place. The only other occasion would be a funeral, and obviously a wedding is a much happier occasion. I think many of the "bridezillas" are forgetting that simple little fact.
I think if a bride is having a problem with her mom in law to be, she needs to talk to her fiancee and let him deal with it in the manner he deems best. After all, it's his mother, and he knows her a heck of a lot better than the bride to be does.
2006-08-01 23:13:53 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but a wedding is for the bride not the entire family although they are certainly a part of it.
If you think she is a bridezilla you should back off. If she yelled at you then you are stressing her out. It is her day not yours and as a mother in law you would do best to learn to back off and not butt heads with your son's s wife. You will just make your son's life miserable and you could loose contact with them entirely, not to mention any coming grandchildren. It is tough but you should bite your tongue and step back. In the hierarchy of wedding plans the bride is first last and all up in between. next comes her mother and then all the women in her family. Unfortunatly for you the mother in law is often not even on the list. that is the price you pay for having sons and not daughteres and if you have a daughter, just wait, your turn will come.
2006-08-02 00:18:37 · answer #3 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry I may be wrong here but this is the bride and grooms day. It is not the in laws or the families day. People lose site of that sometimes and believe that its for other people. It is not. The guests and family members are there to witness the wedding. There should be no reason why the bride or groom should be yelling but then again what would a future mother in law do that would upset a bride enough to make her yell.This may be her son getting married but it is not her place to step in. As a mother in law I would tred lightly here or else you may not be included in the wedding or worse the couple would elope and no one would be.
2006-08-01 22:43:52 · answer #4 · answered by emismommy01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is her and the groom's day. They should make the decisions together and only take suggestions because they are not footing the bill by themselves. If you are helping you can give them a spending limit but the decisions are theirs.Compromise always works best in any situation. If she is planning something against your beliefs, you will have to talk with your son and he will explain why THEY have decided to do it a certain way. If they are not inviting your whole family ask your son why and try to figure out who is the most important to invite from your shortened list. This will all happen in a few hours and not amount to much later.Remember to not come between your son and his wife. She comes first now. Relax about the wedding so you can have a great future with your family.
2006-08-01 22:50:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I agree that people are me me me !!! But cut your daughter in law some slack. Tell her that you know she is under a lot of stress but that she may need to take a break. She needs a day to just relax. Tell her that she has been very on edge. If you are the good guy and show concern for her they or she will pay more attention to you. If she does it again after that then you have something to fall back on . like I told you that the last time you yelled at me..... and then go from there. But you have to give her a warning and nicely would be in your best interest.
2006-08-01 22:47:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The girl should never yell at the woman.
I would never yell at my future mother-in-law... she is going to be a part of my family, and I am going to be a part of her family for the rest of my life. I would hate to start things off on the wrong foot.
Weddings are tough, tensions are high. The two should just get a little space between them before things are said that will be hard to take back.
2006-08-01 22:40:33 · answer #7 · answered by Tish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trying to take over the wedding from the young people is enough reason. It is foremost the bride's and grooms thing. They allow the family to join in the celebration, but it is THEIR's primarily, NOT the families shindig.
If that is not understood by the older generation than they obviously need to be informed of it by someone.
Too bad the bride would have to do that, her special day should not be ruined my some controlling old biddy and the need to set her straight.
2006-08-01 22:46:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure which you are, but ...
I'm going to be married in December, and my future mother and law isn't the kind to be shy about how she feels.
The wedding day is NOT about the whole family--it's about the bride and groom. (However, it tends to dip towards being more of the bride's day to shine. Why, I don't know.) It is a day for the family to celebrate the couple--the ONLY day, to tell you the truth. Well, not the only day. Eventually there will be a 50 year anniversary (hopefully), but that's in the future.
It's a day to celebrate the two of them, and their union. It's not about the family, as harsh as that sounds.
2006-08-03 15:01:33 · answer #9 · answered by Bachman-ette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say dont yell but try to have lunch and bring up issues low key. Rememeber shes not your mother in law yet and she will tell the whole family what a ***** you are if you yell even if you are right, she has much more power than you in the family and they will side with her
2006-08-01 22:39:46 · answer #10 · answered by jojo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋