what should i do about my dumb *** girlfriend?

Question

i am going to the mariens and my girlfriend who is 6 months pregnante will not give our baby up for adobtion and i am telling her that it is the best thing to do because i want a life in the marines and she is going to ruin it and she is being selfish for not wanting to give the baby away. I told her she need to but she wont i am not ready to be a father and this baby should go to someone that can take better care of it though my girlfriend thinks she could do a perfectly fine job i asked her why she did not want to give the baby up and all she had to say was that i should have mention something sooner and she said she is already attached to the baby and could not give it away and she was crying though i did feel bad about making her cry she told me she has already got things and picked out the name well i want my future and i dont want this kid and she is being a dumb B**** how can i convice her to change her mind?

Answer 1

You don't. You will regret this immature decision later on in life. Let your girlfriend do what she wants, you give the kid up so your gf can go on with her life. She'll find someone who loves her and respects her and will adopt the kid = not your problem anymore.
I still think you'll regret this, you are just not happy about being forced/losing control over this situation.

Answer 2

She and the baby are not ruining your life, you are. You should have thought about your future before you dropped your pants. You are being very insensitive to her. It is her choice and her choice alone if she wants to keep the baby or not. There is nothing you can say or do to change her mind and you can certainly not make her give it up for adoption. You are being very selfish and only thinking of yourself. You have a child on the way and you need to be concentrating on it right now. If joining the Marines were so important to you then you should have do everything in your power beforehand to made sure that that happened. The only reason that you are having such a hard time right now is only because of yourself. How do you think Marines who are married and have kids deal with all of this? It is not like no Marine has never had a child before, there are lots of them. You are going to have to step up and do what you have to do for your child.

Answer 3

Brad, you need to take a moment to think about what you just wrote down and do a little introspective look at yourself.
She is carry YOUR baby buddy... that makes you at least 50% responsible for the situation. Whether or not you're ready to be the father was passed when you had sex with her. It's a done deal. She has apparently made a mature decision and is willing to see it through even though your instinct is to run away from it all. Now you want to dump her and leave her at this point in her life... that's pretty childish.
It's time for you to grow up and accept your place in this woman's life and be a father to this child when the time comes. It might not be easy, it hardly ever is. But you better do it my friend. Because if you don't you'll be bothered by it for the rest of your life.

By the way, on the topic of joining the Marines... just like trying to join to escape financial debts, they take a very dim view of this as well. If they get wind of it they won't take you... you're a hardship case. And just on the chance you managed to squeak in anyway, God help you if your platoon buddies ever find out what you did.

Answer 4

dude she's not being a dumb *****. that her flesh an blood. how can you be so cold hearted and tell her to give up your own child you guys creater up for adoption. yeah maybe you won;t be there often ebcause you are in the marines. But having the Baby might be the best thing for her. When you are not around. she can look at the baby and see you. YOU ARE BEING SELFISH. you don't know how much she is going thru poregnant. 9 months is a long time. if you are not ready to be a father LEAVE!

im sure she doesnt need you either. If you didn;t want a baby and care about your furure more in the first place.YOU SHOULD HAVE USED YOU STUPID BRAIN AND WORN A DAMN CONDOM IDIOT. take responsabilitY for your FCUKEN actions and stop being a *****. sh!t happends!!!! she isn't the one who made the baby. both of you did...MR.SPERM DONER!!! be a bastard then. Your nothing but selfish bastard!

And dont go calling your gf a dumb *****. don't ever call a woman a *****. you mother was one!!! your a discrace. you should be ashamed of yourself.

there isn't anything you can do to convince her to give up her child for a heartless bastard? You are sad. How low can men like you get. This is your flesh and blood you are talking about. get real!!! It's not your choice!!!

Answer 5

I don't think your girlfriend is the one being a dumb *****. You should have thought about not being ready to be a father BEFORE you got her pregnant and you waited WAY too long to talk about the future of the baby. It's very selfish of you to ask her to give up her child just because YOU are not ready. Just go do your marine thing and take care of your responsibilities as a father because now that is what you have to do. It's not what you want, I know, but it is what came about from you not being responsible in the first place.

Answer 6

I know how you feel as my husband and I had our first child when I was 17 and he was 18. We were of course scared at first and thought our life was over. Boy were we wrong! Our children are the best thing that ever happened to us. My son is now 8 years old and I can't imagine my life without him. His father and I are still married and doing well. The funny thing is my husband was also in the process of joining the marines at the time too! He was able to get of it though with some convincing. There really isn't anything you can do to change her mind. I would just try to be as supportive as possible. Don't miss out on your childs life. There isn't anything you will ever regret more.

Answer 7

Well... You may not want any thing to with the child that's your choice and there is steps you can take, give up your rights completely. As for the mother is her choice not to give it up. And she can take the same steps to make sure you are not a part of the child's life. There is ways to deal with this with out hurting any one. Make sure that you have thought this out. And before you get on your high horse about it ruining your life I my self had to deal with the same situation. And I took the steps and my kid is better off with out the selfish sperm donor. Now I did just fine by my self and so has my kid. The donor has no rights and is not bothered by me or the courts for child support. Side note just remember that no matter how you feel now, there is always going to some one else that will give of them selves for that child and reap the rewards. So leave the mother alone she has just as much reasons to keep the kid as do to get rid of it. Isn't that what you are in the Marines for-----Preserving the rights and freedoms of the people of America?

Answer 8

First of all *** hole,you have no room to talk about her being selfish. Have you even considered once about how she feels. Being pregnant and having a child is the most rewarding and best experience i and most women have been through. If my husband was to tell me to get rid of our child because he has other plans for himself, I would tell him to **** off. You can still join the Marines and raise a family to. I agree with her, if you didn't want kids, you should have mentioned it to her a long time ago, or better yet you should have used a condom. At least she wants to do the right thing and take care of her responsibility so how about you stepping up and be responsible. My husband is military to and we have two daughters, and we do just fine. So don't pull that crap. Sell it to some one else.

Answer 9

The advice in these answers are the best I've read to convince selfish pregnant couples to act responsibly for the sake of their precious child. JUST MARRY THAT GIRL BEFORE YOUR CHILD IS BORN. Join the Marines if you wish, the Corp will take care of you, your wife, and child. Don't screw up your life, that of your girlfriend, and especially your kid. Give your child a chance to succeed without being labeled a bastard forever.
My father said exactly what you're saying. My mother and I prayed everyday that he burn in Hell! Guess what? He's burning in Hell! Do the right thing or you too will burn in Hell!

Answer 10

Who said that you do not have a life if you have a child.

Choose your words wisely. Sounds like you do not want a comitment not the child. Good on your gf for wanting to keep her baby. If she smart, she does not need you in order to keep her baby.

Wait when you are old and helpless, that child is going to say the same thing. He don't want you. You could advise your to keep her baby but sorry you will not be part of his life. Not asking her to give him up. How about asking her to give you up. That might sort things out.

Answer 11

Suck it up, and be a man! If you can't support a baby then you shouldn't have sex with your girlfriend. Once it is planted, you have no control over it, so you should not have been so sloppy with your seed.

Talk to your recruitment officer. The services do offer some family support, but I don't know what they do about unwed fathers. You may have to marry her to get them to send her the extra money and commissary privileges, but I know they will garnish your pay to send her child support. Considering the low entry-level pay in the service, that might be ALL of your pay! So it might be a better deal for all three of you to marry her.