Is it wrong for a person to be a loner (have only 3 friends)?
why?
and how can i help the person from not bein a loner? she hates parties,club, and family reunions. and dare not give her a surprise (she wont take it)
2006-08-01 15:17:07 · 64 answers · asked by tapthisphatazz 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
by the way i'm takin about myself.
2006-08-01 15:21:08 · update #1
it's not wrong it's just the fact that u don't need a lot of friends to make u happy
2006-08-01 15:19:58 · answer #1 · answered by Corona_14 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with being a loner. I was one, I loved it! I didn't want to be bothered with others. Loners are great, they don't have a "neediness," like, the more outgoing. Loners are comfortable in their own skin! Yes, loners hate parties, clubs, family reunions, etc., and, yes no surprises please. You have the profile down perfectly.
Mind your own business and please leave the loner alone! loners like to be ALONE! and don't want anyone inviting them anywhere. I know you mean well, but, as a former loner, what you are doing is agitating the person, and sooner or later, you will get your feelings hurt, verbally, by trying to change something that is out ouf your control and none of your business.
Like me, the loner, may, at sometime, in his/her life, will come out of the shell.
In the meantime, please, leave the person alone, or you will make matters worse not better. A former loner!
2006-08-01 15:25:48 · answer #2 · answered by newyorkgal71 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not alone. Many People prefer to have several really good friends, rather than many, many, acquaintances. Perhaps They are shy, and do not like opening up to a lot of Others about personal information. Or maybe They were not raised in a Social Household. It could be that They used to go to Parties, and Clubs, when They were Younger, but have grown up, and don't see the need in it anymore. Maybe She has been hurt along life's road, and doesn't want to chance that happening again.
Now I see We are talking about You. Being a loner is in no way wrong, it is just different. When I want to get away, I Like to be by Myself. Lots of People think it is nuts. Why would You want to be by Yourself? I have Children, a Husband, animals, work, responsibilities, and sometimes I like a little quiet retreat. They can say what They want, it doesn't matter. They have to live Their Lives, and I have to Live Mine.
Best Wishes, and God Bless
2006-08-01 15:47:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like me..... I am very content with a few friends. I mean if I had 10 or 20 I would not be able to devote quality time like i do with just a few. I don't like surprises either, I don't like being the center of attention. I actually kind of lost a friend recently because she surprised me with a cake for my birthday and it was with people I don't know too well I i was uncomfortable and not as appreciative as should have been so she has not spoken to me since 7/24!! SO anyway. I see nothing wrong with being a loner I just went from 4 to 3!!!!
2006-08-01 15:25:43 · answer #4 · answered by carolg1974 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's wrong for a person to only have 3 friends, especially if they are close friends.
I'm not sure how you help this person from being a loner. I think that the person will ask for help in how to go about meeting new people. If you are really concerned, you could take her to church with you one Sunday morning. Tell her you are picking her up, so it won't be a surprise.
2006-08-01 15:22:57 · answer #5 · answered by prettycute4u62040 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you unhappy? if your not, then leave the situation alone. having three friends does not make you a loner. a person who is surrounded by a truck load of people who they consider friends can also be a very lonely person. there's a difference between friends and acquaintances. are you satisfied with your small circle of friends? i have lots of "acquaintances", but i have two true "friends". i have a sister who does not like crowds (that eliminates clubs and parties!) my other sister has two really good friends. they go everywhere together. they have similar interests and it's a close relationship amongst the three. it's completely normal to only have three friends. and not everyone is a party person or even likes to go out. you'll be fine. good luck to you and know that you're alright. not a thing is wrong with you.
2006-08-01 15:44:12 · answer #6 · answered by luvmuzik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be her friend-be a truly good friend, she will appreciate you more for that than anything. I'm betting she's comfrontable like this. Give her time she may just need alittle more time. Sometimes some people never truly like parties, clubs, family reunions, etc. So what she's you friend and you did like her before you found she was a loner. Right?
2006-08-01 15:32:37 · answer #7 · answered by lilAudrey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's wrong with having three friends?
I am popular at school (if I do say so myself) but I only have abour 3 or 4 close friends that I hang out with out of school.
I have way more fun with these people than I would at parties with tons of people that I may or may not know.
This person may have a lot more fun hanging out a home with her friends to watch Memoirs of a Geisha than going clubbing on a friday night.
Just leave her alone if her "loner"ness bothers you.
2006-08-01 15:23:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm kinda like you.....but my three friends are my BEST and CLOSEST friends. I have other friends, but don't really hang out with them as much. You have to start be a little outgoing. Even if you do hate family reunions (i do too) you just have to learn how to apprecate it, because they are your family and they love you and want to spend time with each other. I don't think that you're a loner...maybe you're just not the type to be the center of attention. Hope this helps. good luck
2006-08-01 15:46:17 · answer #9 · answered by gwen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not wrong to be a loner. Loners are friendship specific. They are true friends usually and are not influenced by the popular group. She may not want the help you are providing. Loners keep to themselves and close friends. She won't take a surprise because she doesn't like them.
2006-08-01 15:23:05 · answer #10 · answered by Teacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people get a little nervous when they are around big crowds. All the noise and all the comotion can be kind of overwelming. Try doing something she might enjoy; invite those 3 friends over and have your own party. It's more important to have a few GOOD friends, than many fake ones.
I didn't really go to parties or clubs until I was in college. I was just never comfortable in those atmospheres when I was younger. If you're worried about her, maybe if she is trying to be antisocial, suggest she talk to someone. Good luck! :)
Well it's you....how old are ya by the way?
2006-08-01 15:22:52 · answer #11 · answered by littlerandiheather 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋