I posted another ? but got no good answers... my bf has been attending a class at night for the summer and I look it up on the net 2 see when to expect him home... and THERES ALREADY A GRADE FOR THE CLASS!!!
What is a good non-nagging way to confront him about this? Tell me what to say when he comes home!!!
2006-08-01 15:17:00 · 20 answers · asked by Poestalker 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ask him how the class is going, and what grade he thinks he's going to get. Or innocently say, "isn't your final exam coming up soon? Do you have a lot to study?"
See if he tells you the truth; or if he gives you a BS response. If he lies, tell him that you actually heard that the class was finished and call him on it. If he doesn't have a good reason for lying (like he was out buying you a present and here it is) then LEAVE.
2006-08-01 15:20:43 · answer #1 · answered by HearKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well in any relationship, you never want to seems like you're nagging. A way you may want to approach the problem is just asking him general questions about the summer class like, "how's it going", "how are you doing in it" then you can ask him questions about the time frame like "what time does the class start" "when does it end". Once you've found out mostly all the information about the class then you can make your move
-Tell him you were worried about him because you never know when to expect him home so you decided to check some information on the computer about the class then thats when you found out that a grade was already posted.
-It's all about getting into his mind...get him to admit that he was or wasn't there.
-But, you can just be paranoid. He might be with his friends after class hanging our or maybe the grade could've been there from a previous course.
Whatever you do, do not accuse him or doing anything wrong and dont worry, just approach it gently but yet, still speak whats on your mind. Tell the Truth
2006-08-01 15:26:34 · answer #2 · answered by Truth Be Told 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were not in the wrong for looking in the first place, so he has no reason to be yelling at you for prying. You were only trying to see when he would be home. Just be honest with him, and hopefully [whether its positive or negative], he'll be honest back. Mention it to him, like, "I wanted to know when you would get home from class, I checked on the internet, and I saw that the class already has been graded. Is this a mistake or is there something you and I need to talk about?" I mean that in a sincere way, nothing snooty or angry. Channeling bad energy will just cause an arguement. Good luck!
2006-08-01 15:25:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel you had to go on the net to get an answer about when he would be home instead of asking him what was up with the class then you already know the deal.
2006-08-01 15:26:41 · answer #4 · answered by Sexy Texan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask him how the class is going. Ask him to tell you more about the class. Ask him how long he'll be taking the classes. Ask him what kind of grade he thinks he'll make. The thing is, if he really is lying, bait him into MORE lying. Watch him and see if it makes him squirm to lie to you, and see if he'll go ahead and admit there's no more class. If you get no results, THEN you need to come out and ask. If he's lying about something like this, then who knows what all else he would lie about.
2006-08-01 15:24:11 · answer #5 · answered by beadtheway 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
casually ask how class is and how it went and what he thinks he got in the class? Tell him maybe that you have another friend in the class you bumped into her and she said that class was already out... ck resources first incase there isn't someone in there you don't know... maybe too that class can still be in the grades are just done already that is possible... just watch the t's before you cross your i's... good luck
2006-08-01 15:21:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, he's taking some extra curricular night time courses then... hem...
When he steps in, just go "so, took your finals a few weeks early? I already see that you got a F." then when he asks what you're talking about, you tell him "the grade for your
2006-08-01 15:24:30 · answer #7 · answered by DarthFangNutts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him what you did, why you did it, and what you found out. It might not be as bad as you fear. He may just be hanging with his friends or something. He was prolly figuring since that period of time was already used for something (class) then he is not neglecting you by spending that time with his friends or whateva. Us guys have a strange thought process. Try not to jump to conclusions. Besides us guys aren't that smart to come up with a scheme like that to cheat!!! lol
2006-08-01 15:26:21 · answer #8 · answered by drbramucci 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am lost sweetie, maybe thats why you didnt get good results. there's already a grade for the class ? do you mean the class is over or what ? If this is what u mean then he is lying and cheating on you ! Kick him out of your life !
2006-08-01 15:22:51 · answer #9 · answered by MizzSweetness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him how the class is going maybe your miss understand sumthing and if it seems like he is lieing ask him about what you read and if it is true if he says it isn`t but you still think he`s lieing read more into it.And if it truely turns out he is lieing you truely need to talk to him no matter how much it sounds like your nagging you need to know he isn`t cheating or up to no good.
2006-08-01 15:24:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋