IWe had this talked about this issue before and he promised not to look at it again. But one day I came home and I pulled up the history on the computer and there was a link that had the words "asian porn star." But for some reason I could't pull the link up because there was some kind of block on it. Now, my boyfriend is a wiz on the computer, but I'm not. So i think he put some kind of block so I couldn't pull this up if I wanted to....what should I do? Dump him or talk about it?
2006-08-01 14:58:58 · 26 answers · asked by yellowb 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dump him... I read a study somewhere that guys addicted to internet porn (and there are lots and lots of them) turn out to have a great deal of sexual problems. Internet porn is considered by experts to be worse than other kinds of porn because it's free and so widely available... years ago (before the internet) the only way guys could get porn was to buy it from a store in person, or order it from a catalogue. They had limited access to pornographic materials, and spent only a limited amount of time with such materials. Young guys these days are able to (and actually do) look at pornographic material ALL DAY LONG. It makes it extremely difficult for them to have genuine intimate relationships - and it also eventually become difficult to impossible for them to perform sexually WITHOUT looking at internet porn.
2006-08-01 15:07:08 · answer #1 · answered by Sahara 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-19 06:50:39 · answer #2 · answered by Cameron 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, do you know why he looks at porn? If you don't then ask him. If he doesn't answer you then here are some suggestions of why he is.
-He is upsest with sex
-You are not giving him enough sexual activity (Not that it's your fault)
-Or it is just his hobby.
If you cannot wonder which one it is or any other reason why then hire a computer expert (or find one who will do it for free) and have him block the porn sites on your computer so your boyfriend will not look at them anymore
WARNING: If he is that upsest with porn on internet then he will dump you, so be careful and be wise. You don't have to be with him, he does not controle your life.
2006-08-01 15:02:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well Porn is a problem for a lot of men. Depending on the guy you have he more than likely knows it's wrong. He may need the time to get it out of his system. I don't think there's a problem with giving people time to change. Is there anything you think you could be doing that makes hime fell justifed in watching porn?
2006-08-02 05:48:57 · answer #4 · answered by Skeleton's out my closet!!! 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Does porn gross you out? Why not look at it with him as see what he likes. (hint) Tallk to him about things that you like and see how he feels about it. Sometimes porn jump pops up whether you where looking for or not. Not making excuses for him now. If you just can't handle any porn, you may need to think about your relationship with to see If that's the kind of man you want to be with. Porn might be a hard thing to give up for most folks.
2006-08-01 15:08:12 · answer #5 · answered by donlide 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try to incorporate the porn into your realtionship.... might get a few surprises about Likes and dislikes. The way your coming off to him . I'd be surprised if he doesnt wind up NOT telling you other things, and that your communication will break down altogether. Some people use porn simply to Charge their batteries. and everybody KNOWS that guys are visually stimulated.
2006-08-01 15:06:25 · answer #6 · answered by D B 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Confront him with it...you may end up breaking up with him anyway, but you need to get it off your chest and he would deserve to know why...if he's got a problem, see if he'll consider getting help for it...porn addiction sounds almost comical, but it's a real thing, and is known to wreck relationships... a lot of women don't like feeling like they are competing with porn stars...
2006-08-01 15:03:29 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you cant beat em, Join em!
Why not get over the idea of him looking at other girls and join him at looking at those girls. Just because a man looks at another woman DOES NOT mean they are going to cheat. It just means he finds other girls sexy. Whats wrong with that? Dont you look at other guys? Like Brad Pitt? Or Denzel Washington? So why is porn any different? Porn is fun! I like to watch porn with my boyfriend and we usually end up having really really good sex.
Now, if he was TOUCHING those other girls that would be grounds for tossing him out on the street.
2006-08-01 15:06:26 · answer #8 · answered by ziggunerin 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you can install a porn filter software like NetDog on the computer,that help you to block all porn sites quitely in the background when he's surfing on the internet. http://www.netdogsoft.com
2006-08-02 02:57:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely talk to him. Communication is defintiely vital in any relatilnship. Just tell him how much it hurts you when he looks at it. Maybe he really dosen't understand that it DOES hurt you. I know, I know, but some people really don't know so maybe he dosen't know. Like I said, just communicate to him and hopefully he can overcome the addiction with the help of your support.
Good luck!
-Bruce
2006-08-01 15:04:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋