Have you ever lost a family member...?

Question

and felt completely lonely without them? My mom died December of 2005 at 47 and even though I have my own daughter who is 2 and am close to my father, I feel so alone without her. I think about her every day and sometimes when I am not feeling well I want my "mommy" (even though I am an adult now, I'm 23.) I hope it gets better. I love her so much.

My mom died of lung cancer December 20th, 2005, right before all the holidays and exactly a week before my birthday.

Answer 1

I am so sorry to hear about your Mom dying. It is so hard when we lose our Mothers. My Mom died 16 years ago. I still miss her. The first year is so very hard. You will miss your Mom, and still want her when you are not feeling well, that is normal. The pain isn't as intense as time goes, but you will always miss and want your Mother. You will always love her too. My father died 7 years after my Mother, and my son died 18 months after my Dad. Grief is hard. Losing a parent is difficult. I hope you find peace, and remember the happy moments with your Mom. Enjoy your daughter.

Answer 2

I am sorry to hear about you mother. My brother died back in 76 he was only 19 and a year later my dad died he was 53 and died of lung cancer also. Just stay close to your dad and let him know how you feel, I imagine he feels the same way too. The nice thing is, you both have one another and your daughter too. That is always good for the healing process. You never really get over the loss but the pain does lighten up a bit over the years. Just remember all the good times that you were able to share with your mother and remember to share things with your daughter too. Family is always good to have at this time of greiving. Good luck and God bless.

Answer 3

I'm sorry about your mom. I lost my mom, too back in 2002. She was 58 and died from lung cancer. I've always said that the day we laid her in the grave was the day I lost my mind. I'm not close to my dad even though I live with him. You should be happy though that your mom was able to see her grandchild. I'm 26 and I don't have any kids yet. It kills me to think when I do, she won't be around. Your child will feel the effect someday, too. I lost my grandmother at 8 and I've always felt a loss from her absence because she was the only grandparent I had left. It's definitely hard. I've had such severe depression since my mom died. It does get easier with time, but the sorrow will never completely go away.

Answer 4

Oh, I'm so sorry.

This can be a very difficult thing for people who have not lost a family member to understand. I think people who don't know feel like after a certain amount of time, you should just "get over it." But, as you know, that's not the way it works.

You gotten a lot of wonderful answers... and to them I'll add this:
When you feel ready, read "Motherless Daughters" by Hope Edelmen. It's non-fiction-- very poignant-- and I felt after I read it that finally (!) someone understood what I was going through.

(My mother died when I was 17. I just turned 50... and there's not a day that goes by that I don't think of her)

It will get better. I promise.

Answer 5

Yeah I lost my dad dec of 1999 and my mom died sept. 2004. I've been apart from them since 1993 migrating in the US . I used to go home every 2 yrs to visit them and calls them every month . They were a million miles away from me. Being away from them is so sad for we have a close family relationship. But what hurtsts most is when they left me. I miss and love them so much. Until now, they are still in my mind and just remembering the good memories they left behind. Dad and Mom I love you very much.

Answer 6

I am sorry to hear that, I lost my grandfather about 5 years ago,it was my mothers father, and I feel like i lost a piece of my mother to, death can be so very painful, and i can honestly say that i dont think the pain of losing someone will ever completly go away, I think about my grandfather alot, and miss him very much, but i know in my heart where he is, and he is not suffering anymore, he drank alot, and thats what killed him,you need to accept the fact that she is gone( and i dont mean that in a rude way) and then it will be alot easier to cope with, I know you miss her, but it will be easier on you, if you make your self belive that she is not suffering anymore, and that she is honeslty in a better place.... somewhere where no one or nothing can hurt her, and she sees you and your kids everday, and Im sure she knows that you love her very much, alot of people, blame there selfs for alot after someone they love dies, but there should be know guilt or shame, it is noones fault GOD just needed another ANGEL, good luck honey and god bless

Answer 7

yes, unfortunately, I lost my mother-in-law sept of 2004 and then my grandmother december 2004. both were very hard losses, as they were both my confidants. it has been almost 2 years and yes, it does get easier, but the pain willl never really go away. we lost our first child when I was 17 weeks pregnant, that was 12 years ago and even though we have had 2 other beautiful children since, there isnt a dayt hat doesn't go by that I dont miss our first child. the pain will ease hun.

Answer 8

Sorry to hear about your lose.

I lost my grandma (my mom's mom) Dec.8, 2004 , then less than 30 day's later Jan.2, 2005 I lost my only brother. He died unexpectedly. I am 49 and still have not gotten over loosing either one of them. It is not as bad as it was, but it still hurts.

Answer 9

I lost my father in '89.. he was 50. Two weeks ago I lost my grandmother who was 88. ( she helped my mom raise me because my parents worked). I don't live near my mother anymore and I am having a difficult time making my grandmothers death a reality.

My father and I didn't really get along. I was only 18 so I guess I was going through the typical stages of young adulthood. I still find it difficult. It does get easier though. Give yourself time.

Answer 10

I lost my Grandfather when i was 10 years old. I am 20 years old now, and i still think of him sometimes when i'm really depressed. it took me some time to get over his death because we used to live with my grandma and grandpa. The thing that is even more ironic, the day he died from drinking to much, i was sick with a hangover from drinking my grandmas beers. things will get better but you will always feel sorrow for many years to come. sorry to be so straight with it - but life goes on!