I'm currently dating a guy (2 yrs) which my friends and family do not agree of. They think he is not right for me. It seems to me that he just needs some time to settle down. No matter what the people say, I can't let go. Should I listen to my family & friends... or my heart? What clues can a guy give to a girl, if he is thinking of settling down in the future with her?
2006-08-01 14:44:45 · 13 answers · asked by Sara 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well you no longer have to please your family stay with him if he makes you happy
2006-08-01 14:48:04 · answer #1 · answered by mymy knows best =] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like whatever clues a guy could give, this guy isn't giving you. Have you picked up on any clues from him. Why does your family and friends not like him? Also at the end you mention something about clues a guy could give "if he is thinking of settling down". Has he said he wants to settle down? Has he asked you to marry him or get engaged? Keep in mind that the divorce rate is now over 1 in 2. The last thing I read is 1.3 in 2 marriages end in divorce. That means less than 50% of marriages in this country last. If that were a test it would be an "F". Oh dude, I just got a 45%. Friggin' Awesome.
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2006-08-01 21:55:09 · answer #2 · answered by Cindy C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry Sarah, but i think the advice you're getting here seems pretty good. I think you're asking because you know the answer, but don't want to. You're hoping we'll tell you that he's the one, and everyone else is wrong. You even seem to say yourself that he's not right for you, but with a few modifications he could be. If you're able to change him, he's not good enough for you. You deserve better. Move on, even if it's to nothing for a while. You've put in 2 years, enough is enough. Be strong, make the call. Down the track you'll be glad you did.
Best of luck
2006-08-01 21:54:52 · answer #3 · answered by DragonRyda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same situation right now. I have been with my guy a year and a half and my friends are not fond of him and my family is LESS fond of him. You need to follow your heart because you cannot please everyone all of the time. If he is the right guy you will just know it in your heart. I mean unless he is emotionally verbally or physically abusive I really don't think your friends and family should try to make the decision for you. Good Luck
2006-08-01 21:51:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long are you willing to wait for him to "settle down?" My family didn't approve of my husband either, but I wasn't waiting around for him to make a decision about being with ME.
Families often see things we don't see ourselves, but your question isn't should you listen to them or your heart. Listen to HIM. What is HE telling you? That he doesn't want to settle down, that he likes things the way they are? Then you need to decide if your are willing to wait or if you want to settle down. If so, go find someone else who is ready too.
2006-08-01 21:52:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter what everyone else thinks.If he's good to you and treat you right then you have your answer.If he is a jerk or someone who don't value a future let him go.As far as settling down he will talk to you about your goals,if you want kids,and certain things that lead to asking the questions.
2006-08-01 21:53:42 · answer #6 · answered by missmadhatter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever makes you happy then go for it. if he treats you right and shows he really cares about you then stay with him. it all depends on how old you 2 are and what kind of lifestyle you're living in or if you're still in school. he'll eventually settle especially after college and has to get a real job. maybe you can talk to him about it. but as far as friends and family they can't chose who you date its your life
2006-08-01 21:55:08 · answer #7 · answered by paluzzi81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't listen to your family and friends what in the world can a bunch of strangers say to you that will make any difference. You're where you want to be and until you get smart that's it.
2006-08-01 21:49:49 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, the thing to look at here is WHY DOES EVERYONE BUT YOU THINK THIS GUY IS A GOOD CATCH? You cannot be that naive. You need to step back and make two lists, using your braink not your heart. List one, all the really great things about this guy. Be honest here. List two, all the really awful things about this guy. Be honest here.
2006-08-01 21:49:19 · answer #9 · answered by rrrevils 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should calm down. 1st, asked ur family why they dont like ur boy. then told ur boy that u really love him(if so)and wanna be with him.ask if he really love u and if is, ask him to do some changes so that ur family n fren will accept him. remember, u are the best n deserve only the best more than anyone on earth. last but not least, smile!
2006-08-01 21:53:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if u really love him u should stay with him if he really Keir's about u and u Keir about him u should stay together and as long as he macks u happy and u 2 him u should be together Ur family is suppose 2 be happy 4 u but u could only dis-id.
2006-08-01 21:55:35 · answer #11 · answered by *~*lil shygirl*~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋