when do you talk to a 10, almost 11, year old boy about sex, and not freaking out about it?

Answer 1

I wouldn't talk to him about it until he's 13. right now he's probably not even thinking about it. but if he is then let him know that if there's anything that he wants to know about it that he can ask you.

i don't think there really is a way to talk to your kids about it. But if you're apprehensive about it.. you might make him feel nervous or uncomfortable. and it's always a good idea to be the first to expose you kids to sex and not there friends

Answer 2

Whenever he asks. The way to avoid freaking out about it is to tell him the polite way to ask such questions, and that it is not polite to ask these things of people other than his close family and his doctor, if necessary. A priest or scout leader or something as relevant, but primarily his parents. Then, after helping him rephrase his question politely, answer it politely and factually, but without emotional content.

Tell him what you believe to be the appropriate moral judgment on the matter, as well, but be sure to let him know that not everyone agrees with you on that. Point out that these are very sensitive issues, and people make mistakes and get embarrassed by them, and he needs to be a gentleman and a diplomat as he pursues knowledge.

Answer 3

Well it depends on who will be doing the freaking out. I have talked recently with my brothers 11yr old daughter about IT. She was a little freaked but she started asking. I would say when he starts asking and if he doesn't ask, you start asking. Questions like, Have you ever heard about/ or had sex?, Or Do you know anything about sex? See what he says, Yeah its weird to talk to child growing into an adult about this subject but its got to be done.

Answer 4

Believe me, I have never been talked to about sex (im almost 18) I have had to learn everything i know on my own. He will thank you for telling him about sex later on in life. Most importantly, emphasise the fact that he needs to be safe and keep the girl he is with safe. When the conversation is over, make sure he is leaving the room without any questions about sex.

Answer 5

Well, practice saying it outload without him being there. So you can hear yourself using the termonolgy. Tell him when he starts to ask questions about "why does it get hard sometimes" and those kind of questions. Do not patronize him, use the correct language. At 11, I would go just into the basic organs and their functions. Maybe talk about condoms as well, never hurts to get them thinking condom early.

I feel ya...my daughter just turned 10. So its just around the corner for me.

Answer 6

Don't. My son was 11 almost 12...and I was STILL freaking!!! But, he actually ended up coming to me and asking a question....which kinda broke the ice. Then I was able to talk to him about it.

Answer 7

Maybe its just me..but i was talkin about sex with my 11 yr son from the time he could talk. I figured, we might as well talk about it and not hide anything, so when he needs to talk, he knows we are here for him. We dont get graphic or anything with him but he does know what a condomn is and what it is used for.

Answer 8

By that age, he should have had some sex education in school. My son's did. As my youngest has been starting into puberty, I just wait until he askes some questions and calmly tell him straight forward answers. He now knows he can come to me for the answers and not be embarrassed.
http://www.talkingwithkids.org/sex.html

Answer 9

I lost my virginity at 12 from an older girl who was happy to teach me all about sex. As a parent you need to be proactive in teaching your son about sex and why not to have sex until he is old enough to be responsible for it. You must do this at a young age to ensure that your son grows up healthy and that you don't end up raising grand-children prematurely.

Answer 10

well im a gurl but my mom and dad strted to talk to me bout it at a young age i waz like 6 or 7 not a lot but little by little and i had questions and they answered them and they wnted me to be prepared and no not to do it and now i now and im not gonna until i get married cuz my parents talked to me about and i think the best way is to start little by little and answering questions so today im well educated and i know ym wrongs from my rights

Answer 11

The most important thing is to answer any questions he might have. Don't let him not you're freaked out about it, or he'll be afraid to talk to you.