My ex, says he likes another girl, and that he dont love me, and stuff...but why is he still bothering me, and telling me certain stuff is cheating? But then again he says, "im a ****, im butt ugly, a terrible singer, and fat."
and the funny thing is Im a virgin, im definetly not ugly, I sing like an angel, and I go to the gym everyday...so im not fat."
Why is he bothering me still if he has another girl? and do you think he means that stuff, or honestly, is he trying to get me insecure, but he knows im not that stuff?
im a christian, and he says hell get better than me, but i think im a great girl, im pure, i love God, nice, and so on.
what is upm with hi,m?
2006-08-01 13:16:09 · 76 answers · asked by inthisskin22x 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Most ppl say and act that way because they are so insecure.
2006-08-01 13:21:10 · answer #1 · answered by sadie_oyes 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Here is a man's perspective on the situation. He wants the best of both worlds. You say you are good looking, talented, and pure and despite what he says those are the things he likes about you. When he say's he will find someone better than you, he means somebody who can give him the physicality that he so badly desires. From the sound of it this "boy" is not yet a man, and has not even learned how to control his hormones yet. Young men are actually to different people. He obviously knows what he wants in a girl (When he is not thinking about sex), and he knows the kind of girl he wants when sex is on his mind. Since you can not be both of those for him, he will seek it elsewhere. This pisses him off, becuase he knows that his carnal desires are keeping him from experiencing a relationship with a great girl.(you)
2006-08-01 13:29:22 · answer #2 · answered by drpedigo_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's Psychology 101.
# 1.) He hates himself and putting you down makes him feel temporarily better about himself.
# 2.) You're taking it. It's very simple - People like him will push you around because you'll let him. I know ~ it sucks, but that's what he's doing.
# 3.) Why? Do you like this guy so much that you'll take whatever attention you can get - even when it's ALL negative?
# 4.) The worst insult of all ~ He must think you desperately want him back, because he wouldn't bother with you if he thought for one second that you had no use for him.
You're the only person who can actually put a stop to this. This guy totally sucks, so you need to go find yourself a new guy.
Think about it, you'll move on with your life and deliver the final karmic insult to that worthless punk.
Good luck to you.
2006-08-01 14:05:55 · answer #3 · answered by Mellowkneebee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your ex has a girlfriend, that is all you need to know. You MUST move on with your life. Do not try to hold-on, to someone that no longer wants you.
Don't pay attention to the names he calls you. Look at where your life is. What will make you happy? Do you have hobbies, if so, focus on them. Do you have family that will let you move-in with them until you get your life together?
As your preacher for guidance. You sound like a great person. Don't let your ex make you feel bad about yourself. You should start to create a new life for you and your children. Get help from family, friends and pastor.
It is not necessary to focus on "him," your ex. Focus on you, not him.
He doesn't want you - move on - there are other men out there that you can meet - when you are ready!
You have no control over what your ex "did" or "is doing." He is an adult, he has his own life. You now have an opportunity to make a new life for yourself.
Good luck and Good Bless.
2006-08-01 13:28:24 · answer #4 · answered by newyorkgal71 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be with a man who is not a christian. He still comes by because he wants your virginity. Get away from him. You shouldn't be with a guy who has someone else first of all second he says nasty things to you. I know he does say some nice things also but you have chosen to share the nasty things he says. If it's not good now it will only get worse if you give in to him. Keep loving God and let Him give you some one who loves God and want say nasty things to you and is not a cheater.
2006-08-01 13:25:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk away from him dear. You deserve so much better than the emotional abuse that this person is putting you through. Trust me, this guy is emotionally ABUSING you. When they start to pull stuff like that, it is because they want to weaken your spirit and make you become submissive to them. The abuser will say all of these nasty things until you start to believe them, and WHAM you are now under their total control. How do they do that? Just as you described.
RUN don't walk away from this so called boyfriend. He is an ABUSER. It starts with the emotional abuse and can turn to physical abuse (because you are so emotionally weak by then they can control everything, even tell you that being beaten is because you deserved it).
RUN and RUN NOW!!!!!!
2006-08-01 13:26:52 · answer #6 · answered by Nicole K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's up is that YOU ALREADY KNOW that you are WAY too good for this jerk! He's saying those things because he knows it too and he's trying to manipulate you into feeling bad enough that you will take his sorry self back. Also, he's trying to get you jealous because deep down he KNOWS you are better off without him, and that's his way of feeling better about being a loser.
Don't let this loser make you feel insecure. He's the insecure one! Forget him, he's SO not worth it.
2006-08-01 13:21:35 · answer #7 · answered by Lori 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for one if your a virgin and he's saying all these things about you, yes i would say he's trying to make you insecure about yourself so you won't find no one else.....Think about it, Guys love virgins and it gives them something to brag about when they take it. It makes a guy feel macho to brag about how many women he has slept with maybe not all men but most. So yes I say he's jealous because you didn't give yourself to him. Just keep your head up god will bring a nice young man your way.
2006-08-01 13:24:20 · answer #8 · answered by lil sexy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's your ex, just cut off ties with him. He is rude and an ***. He is just upset cuz he can't get into your pants. So keep singing and going to gym and you'll find someone you deserve. Don't let him bring you down and tell him to go bother this other girl he likes.
2006-08-01 13:23:00 · answer #9 · answered by stealth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not a b*tch, ugly or fat and still is truely a virgin, he's probably wants to be the first to sleep with you and lie his *** off all those words and not have any other girl at all. He might just be trying to make you jealous and submit to him! At 22 years old ( I assume, you should make your own decision!)!
2006-08-01 13:27:35 · answer #10 · answered by Blue Water 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants the both of you, your some he could marry (eventually once he’s gotten the bug up his **** out) and the girl he’s with (if it’s not Mary Palmer & her 5 friends) fulfills a need in him that he hasn’t explored with you.
Cut ties with him, all he’s doing is trying to poison you against yourself. Once you finally let go of him and want to be alone you’ll have a bunch of guys that won’t treat you so badly that you will want to be around.
2006-08-01 13:24:11 · answer #11 · answered by s_an_dubois 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋