I have a 3 year old son who does not listen, his speech is not very clear?

Question

I have a hard time understanding him as well as other family members. He screams at the top of his lungs when told to stop screaming he says okay then screams again even louder. He goes into the refrigrator without permission and opens containers, spilling themall over the icebox, when I calmly explain why you don't do that he takes of running or says okay and does the samething again. He likes to dress himself,which I don't mind,but he will go into the closet after he already has dressed himself and knocks down every article of clothing in the closet. I have to fight him to go to bed, he's the first one up. dosen't take naps, spanking dosen't help, explaining dosen't help. I stay at home with the children my other two sons do not have this problem at all. What 0shoul0d I do,0 at my wits end.No one will watch him in the family, church childcare has also started backing off watching him. Stating their under staffed.000000000000

I know his hearing is okay, I had that checked at 23 months when I felt his speech should have been better. He can be in his room playing and I'm in the kitchen if I open a soda he can hear that and runs very fast into the kitchen demanding some! My mom says I compare too much and relaize that allkids do things a diffrent intervals. She said I was exactly like that as a child maybe worse. I turned out okay I think.

Answer 1

relax speaking is a learned art ...read often and repeat.... he seems to have a high energy level .... whisper to him each time you say something..makes them slow down to listen the softer the better if he 's loud whisper even softer.. try it...make bedtime something special ....and move slowly they copy actions of those around them.. good luck

Answer 2

Have your son tested for a hearing problem. Lots of bad behavior starts because a child doesn't understand what is going on around them, and gets really frustrated. Spanking might not work because he knows it is a temporary punishment. After you see the doctor, and it is not a physical problem, then you need to find a different discipline plan. Time outs can really work! You have to be consistent, always explain why he is being punished, and never extend the time past his age. (3 years = 3 minutes, 6 years = 6 minutes). Try to have a reward program for him, like a manners marbles jar. Everytime he listens or does something helpful or nice for another person, he gets a marble. Everytime he disobeys or is hurtful, one is taken away. Set an easy goal, say 20 marbles, and he will get a special treat - walk with just mommy, extra cookie after dinner, a sticker from the reward box, etc. If he makes messes in things he can reach, hang clothes in the closet up higher.

Answer 3

He may have a hearing problem. Have you had his hearing checked?
If he's not listening because he just doesn't want to then maybe he needs a time out each time he does something he's been ask not to do.
He's old enough to have a consequence for his actions. One minute per year is the best. Find a spot that he's not in the middle of the action but where you can see him. Get down to his level - explain why he's being put in the time out spot- put him in it. He most likely won't go quietly and it will take repeated re-seatings! Start his time after he's quieted down. But stick with it and after a couple of days he will get the idea!

Answer 4

I have five kids and four are boys, 8,4,3,2,and 4 months, most of the time telling your kids or spanking usually works for a dad, but if he is acting like that and can not talk by the age of 3 then he could have some developmental problems or hearing problems which causes him to act out, my 3 year old is disabled and he cries alot because he cannot express himself like the others. Don't overreact, find out where you can have him tested for A.D.D or autism or even his hearing and see what the out come is , if he doesn't have anything wrong with him than you need to try different methods of disiplining.

Answer 5

I would take him to a pediatric specialist - he may have mild autism. Your regular pediatrian may be able to suggest specialists that he can go see.

Some of the behavior that he is exhibiting sounds like attention getting behavior. This is going to sound crazy, but when he is screaming instead of telling him to stop, calmly leave the room with your other children. If he comes into the room you are in, go to another room. Eventually he will get the idea that you aren't going to interact with him when he screams. When he stops, praise him with something like "I really like it when your quiet! That is so awesome!" or something like that. Same thing with refrigerator - when he's doing it, leave the room and ignore it. He WILL get the idea that when he is bad, no one wants to spend time with him but when he's good, people want to be around him.

Find things that he likes and use those to reward him when he does something good. For example, after he gets dressed, give him a small toy to play with or a small cookie and tell him that if he keeps the rest of his clothes in the dresser/closet, then he will get another sticker, M&M, whatever.

I hope these work! I have worked with children with autism and mental retardation for 9 years and have extensively studied behavior management - good luck!!

Answer 6

Get Him Some Tape To Learn 2 Speak.Like Baby Enstine

Answer 7

you can take him to the doctor he might be authistic, or he may just be going through the 3 year old syndrome. some children take longer to talk plain than others. i have three kids the two older ones started talking plain at 2 and a half my 2 year old nephew can hold a conversation and every knows what he is saying but my three year old has probles wit some words this is because he was born with a problem called clef lip and palate.
you can also take the time to take him to church and have an anointed. holy ghost, God fearing pastor pray for him and you pray to. because you need it. i will also pray for you

Answer 8

I would definitely get his hearing tested. Other than that, he is in those terrible 2-3 age range. You have to find what works with him. It will be something completely different than your other two. Time away from his best liked activities, time away from friends, video games, etc. Or some positive rewards. My son responded really well to one on one time rather than the negative punishment.

Answer 9

Get a second opinion on his hearing have an ABR test done & consider having him checked by your local regional center. I hope everything is OK, maybe you can post up your results at some point. Good luck

Answer 10

I agree with the idea that he may be slightly autistic...I would take him to a child psychologist and have him tested for Aspergers which is high functioning autism...does he have social delays or is he just extremely active to the point where he doesnt take the time to think about things?

Answer 11

It may not be his hearing, but it could be Auditory Processing Disorder. He may hear perfectly fine, but may not be processing and understanding what is being said to him. First, I'd talk to the pediatrician and see what she thinks. Ask for a referral to a developmental pediatrician. I hope this and all the other information help you. Good luck!