I feel that there is something wrong with me, Ive been depressed about this all through high school, I just finished college and Im still single and feel Ill be like this for the rest of my life. Its not easy seeing people all around you with their bfs or having friends come to me with their man problems when honestly im the last person they should come to for lack of experince. Is there something wrong with me? Why have I been single for almost 21 years?
2006-08-01 13:06:46 · 22 answers · asked by Aisha 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, considering that the first 15 years don't really count, you've only been single for about six. That's not so bad. You are obviously very smart and focused to finish college at 20. Chances are, guys may just be intimidated by your smarts and good looks. I must admit, we're not the brightest bunch when it comes to women, but I can tell you that most of us are not attrated to low self-esteem. I think you just need to be confident in yourself and be patient. Trust me, when the right person comes along, you'll know. It's never a good idea to be in a relationship just for the sake of not being alone. I know a lot of people who would rather be single, but are too dependent on their significant other to want to change things.
There is NOTHING wrong with you. I know it's not easy, but hang in there. Happiness will find you when you least expect it. When I met my fiance, it made me wish I had saved my first kiss for her.
2006-08-01 13:22:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 22⤊ 0⤋
There are a few possibilities as to why this is. Maybe throughout high school guys thought you were unapproachable... or intimidating.
As of now, you might have developed a self-fulfilling prophecy. Don't think that you'll be single forever. Simply by thinking that, the way you think and your behaviour will change to make it come true. Instead, think more positive.
I got my first girlfriend at 18, so I pretty much know what you're going through.
It's only a matter of time before someone worthwhile comes along.
2006-08-01 13:13:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you except that you have very low self esteem. Don't focus on the things that you "think are wrong" with you. Focus on all the positive things about yourself. Everyone has good and bad things about them, we're human. There is someone out there for everyone and that person will come along when you least expect it, believe me. Try not to be depressed about this because that is transparent in people and others tend to shy away from that. If you can't overcome these feelings about yourself on your own then seek counseling. It is very helpful and nothing to be ashamed of. Remember try to be positive in all aspects of your life. You've accomplished a lot at your age so far. You finished college and that is a great thing!
2006-08-01 13:18:31 · answer #3 · answered by Maggie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I kind of got the feeling that maybe you don't have a high opinion of yourself. You described yourself with personality, and not with "omg i m sooooooo hott." I think that, if you find someone you like, give it a shot. Try a little harder to find the guy you like, and not wait around for them to find you. And, unless you're really ugly (You'll know if you are :P) a guy probably won't shoot you down based on how you look. You claimed that you're nice, smart, and honest- all desirable attributes. And if I'm completely wrong, then oh well. Look for a different answer :P
2016-03-16 11:43:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely nothing wrong with you!!!! You just haven't met the right person yet!! There is nothing wrong with that at all......you don't need to rush and stress it will happen when it is meant to happen. Until then go out try new things meet new people and the right person will come along when you least expect it!! Good Luck :-)
2006-08-01 13:18:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you shy? My husband never really dated and he never kissed a girl until me and he is 23 I think he very cute so I really don't know why he never dated but it sounds the same. Just get out there and meet people
2006-08-01 13:13:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
You seem incredibly shy and fear intamacy...But that doesn't constitute something wrong with you...Probably seem alot of others in alot of pain over us men and subconciously freak out about us men..Don't blame ya there, I've had my heartbreaks. But don't give up it will happen.. Just remember if you kiss someone you don't have to marry them ok?
2006-08-01 13:15:12 · answer #7 · answered by spidercap69 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
well, i'm really hoping that this is the answer to why you are single at the age of 20:
you are soberly pursuing your own goals and developing yourself into a complete and independent woman.
you want to be that person before you get completely distracted by a man.
what are your goals? please have about 10 listed before 'get a boy friend'. travel, excell at what you pursue. embrace every red drop of your life and when the time is right for you, you will find him. but seriously, is that your main objective?
i'm guessing (and really hoping) that you are single because you have wonderful expectations about who you are going to be with and haven't settled for less.
i'm hoping you are single because you think it's a huge waste of time to go from guy to guy, falling in love, getting hurt, getting up, falling in love, repeat.
if this is right, then there is nothing wrong with you.
if i totally missed the mark and you are in a black hole because you can't get over how depressing it is to be so incomplete...so undefined by a man, then i'm really sorry for you.
you are more than that!
2006-08-01 13:38:09 · answer #8 · answered by rawlin 2 · 23⤊ 0⤋
Maybe coz u hvnt got the right guy yet..be happy bout thr's still ltsa time to choose for a good guy...you're only 20+....
2006-08-01 13:12:07 · answer #9 · answered by Zapple™☺ 1 · 5⤊ 0⤋
you just need to get out there and meet people. nothing is wrong with you it sounds like you have just been too busy mulling over what's wrong with you to get out and get to know people. you will find the one when you find the one. you might just be one of those few people who get it right the first time they fall in love. :-)
2006-08-01 13:11:28 · answer #10 · answered by lilgracie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋