I love my sister in law and brother. I am happy that they have good jobs but I think I made a mistake. I told them that I would babysit my niece or newphew when I can but it's starting to be they need me every friday , well I have two jobs of my own and some fridays I pass out water in a nurseing home. I have switched with coworkers at least once now they want me to switch again but its a no go because the coworker i switch with i work with, It's starting to upset me they think I can watch thier kids all the time I also have a life how can I tell them this without hurting thier feelings?
2006-08-01 12:38:43 · 5 answers · asked by Renee B 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Explain to them just what you said here. You are well within your rights to say something. Sometimes in life we can't control what others are going to feel. If you spoke your mind and feel that you were diplomatic and as kind as can be, well then let the chips fall where they may. One can not let people take advantage, otherwise it becomes a habit.
2006-08-01 12:47:36 · answer #1 · answered by karenmay57 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think what you need to do is say something like this.
When I told you I would babysit whenever I could it did not mean that I would watch the child every friday. I do work myself and have my own errands to run on my days off. It is not always convient for me each and every week. Something along those lines.
If you can;t bring yourself to tell them in person or over the phone
leave them this message when you know they aren;t going to be home.
2006-08-01 19:51:05 · answer #2 · answered by gerilynn35 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not going to hurt their feelings if you're honest with them. Take control of the situation and tell them which Fridays you'll be available to watch their son (if that's what you still want to do from time to time); if you only have two available Fridays in the next six months, let them know that. You set the dates, and that's that. No feelings hurt.
2006-08-01 19:48:16 · answer #3 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest although they probably chose you over a stranger because its safer. Tell them you can watch your niece twice a month or tell them you'd like to be asked if you have plans ahead of time and that you definitely cannot change your work schedule.
2006-08-01 19:49:41 · answer #4 · answered by katyc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not available, just say so. Explain that you just have other commitments, and cannot switch with co-workers all of the time. If they ask, and you can't, just say, "Bob, I can't do it that friday, what about this one." They are probably just slap-happy to have someone they trust.
2006-08-01 19:46:41 · answer #5 · answered by not at home 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋