My mother died of cancer 3 years ago, and I don't have anyone to talk to about it...how can I get over it?

Question

No one I know has lost a parent so they don't understand how lousy I feel.

Answer 1

I lost my Daddy to cancer 9 years ago, I'm sorry for your loss and I know what your going through, I would say it will get easier but the simple fact is that yes you may deal with it better and some of the heartache won't be always there, but know in your heart that she is with you and loves you,it never gets easier I still miss my daddy every single day, but you will move on and things will be ok, just always remember her Because she wills always remember you and someday years& years from now you'll se her again, but she'll watch and look over you all your life and celebrate your grreat moments and console you through your hard ones, a mothers love never dies.

Answer 2

I lost my mother to breast cancer many years ago, my father died five years ago! I have no family left! I do know how you feel! You will never get over the loss of a parent,you have your memories in your heart and mind! And I really feel that my parents are watching over me!Every day just remember all the good times and it will get easier as time goes by. But you will never forget!!! I go to my moms grave and sit and talk to her and tell her my problems, it"s a form of release and when I leave I feel so much better! Another thing I did was I took alot of her pictures and made 8 by 10"s and every room I went to she was there some people thought it was wrong but, it made me feel better! Good luck sweetie and if you need to talk click on single mom and Email me!!

Answer 3

Hello Frogwild,

Did you know there were support groups for losing a parent right here on Yahoo!? Yep, it's true. Here's some links:

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You may also start your own group, if you like.

My youngest son was born the day before my Dad died. My entire family mourns the loss every year we celebrate my son's birthday. There is no better news than that of a newborn baby. There is no worse news than the death of a parent.

What bothers me so much about being ill myself isn't about dying, as much as leaving my sons behind to be in this same predicament.

Feel free to e-mail me any time. It's all I can do anymore. I wish you peace in your sorrowful times.

Best to you,
♥Raylene♥

Answer 4

i felt the same way when my father died when I was 12 years old (7 years ago). I never really found anyone to talk to about it. Whenever I tried to tell anyone about it or bring it up, they would feel uncomfortable talking to me anymore because I guess people don't like to think about that sort of thing. They'd try to help but they wouldn't know what to say, as if they were creeped out by the thought or something

Even though I never found anyone to talk to about it, I managed to overcome it and live my life as I got older. I guess as time goes on, you'll find the strength to "get over it" (although I don't know if that's the right phrase to use).

Answer 5

I dont think anyone ever gets over losing a parent. They are the closest people to you. It may help if you joined a support group. Maybe your local hospital has one you could join, maybe you could write about your feelings in a journal, to help ease the sadness. But mostly, if you talk to her softly before you go to bed and pray, maybe you'll find some relief, in your sadness. Know, your mother is always, there. As a mother, it doesnt matter if Im on Earth or in Heaven, Im never leaving my children. I will always be there, even if its in their dreams. May God bless you and help you through this.

Answer 6

I haven't lost a parent either, but I did lose a sister 7 years ago. The best thing you can do is continually remind yourself of the pleasant memories you have with her. Think of the times you had that made you smile. It will still hurt to have lost her, there's no getting around that. But at least you can think about something that makes you happy instead of something that makes you sad when you remember her.

Also, think of her as you make your day-to-day decisions, and try to become the kind of person she would be proud of. Use the memory of her to inspire you to become stronger. And remember that she would want you to be happy and get on with your life.

Good luck. I know it's hard and there's no easy solution.

Answer 7

You never really get over losing a loved one.I've lost both parents.I always try to think of the good times-and the love that never wavered tho I made mistakes.Try a support group or perhaps a chat room.I'm sure you can find the support and comfort you need.Also feel to contact me if you'd like.I would be glad to be of help if I can.

Answer 8

I'm so very, very sorry for you pain. I lost my mom to cancer three days after I turned 17. Now many, many years later and I still miss her.

Deep down inside you know, don't you?, that your mom would want you to move forward with your life. Although you will always miss her and wish she was around to offer you advice and a big hug, know that her love is still there with you. Try and take care of yourself by eating healthy foods and going on walks. Focus on your education and your career goals and know that you're going to be ok.

Take care, kiddo. My heart goes out to you.

Answer 9

I'm very sorry. Do you have brothers or sisters? Are any of your mother's relatives around? Maybe some of her siblings that could have that same shared experience of knowing her?

Other than that, and time (I know that sounds trite) I would also suggest finding some support groups. There are usually one's for daughters without mothers. I hope you find some comfort and help.

Answer 10

my aunti died of cancer three years ago and she as just like my mom she raised me up and we used to do everything together even shopping but then i lost her and i couldn't even talk about it it was very shocking but know i feel free to tell people abt her death and what happened before and how much i loved her and i alys pray for her i pray that she is in heven right now and that's what you should do and beleive me after reading your question you have gotten over it all you need is someone to cry on his shoulders to get releived but once you are able to talk abt this then u have gotten over the hardest part.....