My phobia of death is very overwhelming, can someone help me?

Question

sometimes when i think of death my whole body starts to feel wierd, my blood pressure goes up, i dont feel good, i start shaking, and such. many times the subject pops up in my head at night and i cant sleep and my whole body starts to tingle. everynight i pray for there to be a heaven but it doesnt help much. (though i hope there is). i just dont want to leave this world behind. im only 13 but i feel so scared. so many of my family members are passing away and im just so scared im next. it doesnt help that im going to new york on a plane trip either. can someone give me a word of wisdom that can help me stop getting all scared? this is bad for my health.

im scared of ANY kind of death

Answer 1

When I was about your age I started to have these thoughts as well and so I told my mother what was scaring me.

She said a beautiful thing -

When we die it is going to sleep and being woken up by God in his/our home. Just like when you visit friends with your parents and fall off to sleep there and when you waken in the morning you are home safe and sound.

Dont think that when you die that it is the end - its the beginning - and when your time comes (which will be on average a long time from now) you will have lived and had a good life and these feelings will be a distant memory.

You are not alone with these fears, everyone of us asks similar questions, some worry, some dont - please stop worrying because you are here now and there is nothing that anyone of us can do to prove to you that there is something called Heaven, just believe for the time being that there is and wait until you are older and wiser and see how you look at this question then.

Let this be a new awakening - live and be happy - fear of the unknown is to big a burden for you to carry at your age - let it go.

Answer 2

The truth is that you cannot die. Only your body dies.
What you are experiencing is something called "restimulation".
There is a part of your mind called the Reactive Mind which records during moments of pain and unconsciousness when your Analytical Mind shuts off, either to some degree or completely like when you are unconscious.
The death that is occurring around you in your environment right now is restimulating a picture or pictures of a past "death". These pictures have command and force and can effect you physically and mentally,when they are restimulated by the present time environment, just as you have described.
Obviously since you cannot die it follows that you have lived before and also "died" before.

The best thing for you right now is a change of environment.
So a trip to New York is a perfect plan. Make sure in the meantime you do things to extrovert your attention. Like sports,
walking or running or swimming, outside. Stay away from the negative reminders. Make sure you have good nutrition and rest. Do things you enjoy and associate with people who are
in a positive frame of mind and not talking about death or sickness etc.

Hope this helps. If you do what I suggest it should help a lot.

If you want to find out more about the Reactive Mind and how to get rid of it I recommend you read this book:
"Dianetics the Modern Science of Mental Health"

Answer 3

I would not be too concerned over such thoughts... that said, you are troubled and that makes it worth seeking help for. I can tell you that it is not at all unusual for young people of your age to experience what you are going theough... I have three, 2boys and a girl, all grown now, but each one went thropugh just what you are describing at the same age.. I wish I had been moe sensitive to the seriousness that each of them put of it at the time... but I was not... I just said dont worry about it and youwill get over it... But you know that it is a big deal to you and it can be very frightening to deal with..

If you can not talk to your parents about this then the next is a close family member like an aunt or uncle. Or grandparent...at my age I would recomend the grandparent... maybe they have learned, like me to take this kind of thing a bit more seriously... If you have to then you can go to your Pastor if you have a church afiliation...or to your school coucelor.

Do'nt suffer this alone... do seek help from someone you can trust to confide in... I would strongly suggest not relying on those of your own age in this as history tells us that teens do not make the best councelors, in the long run, for other teens. not that they do not care...they just do'nt know any more than you do and you need someone who has more time in life to help you.

Just think of it this way... it is something almost every one goes through... and you will get through it...just do'nt let it take controle of you... you are also going through, most likely well into, puberty...that has a lot to do with all the fear factors... it has to do with all the changes in your life... good chance this death fear will subside with the whole puberty thing... if not sooner...

Do seek help and I will pray for guidence for you in this .

Answer 4

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Answer 5

I am so sorry you are going through this. My son is now 15 years old and from about 11 years old he started having an unnatural fear of death. Especially at night, he would worry that I was going to die or that he was going to die. He could not sleep, could not relax. At first I sort of dismissed it, but then I realized just how huge and real his fear was.

So I talked to him and told him that I was fine, he was fine. Things were okay. I do not know if you are religious or not but one day I decided to teach him the Lords Prayer. I would print off some inspirational message I found on the internet, we would read those stories at night before going to bed. Then we would recite that prayer. I also taught him the Psalm, though I walk through the valley of death........, I cannot tell you how much it helped. Now whenever he gets those worries popping into his head, we talk, I remind him of the prayers and he is fine.

I do not know if that will help you or not. Just try it. You will be surprised, hopefully.

Is there someone you can talk to? to help? Anyone?

Answer 6

Maybe it would help if we consider what Jesus said about death. At Matthew 9:18 Jesus raised a little girl from the dead. He said at verse 24; 'Leave the place, for the little girl did not die, but she is sleeping.' At this they began to laugh at him scornfully. As soon as the crowd had been sent outside, he went in and took hold of her hand, and the little girl got up.

Jesus calls death sleeping. This is because Jesus is going to wake up all those in the memorial tombs; John 5:28,29. The reason he said she did not die, is because God views her as being alive because God and Jesus are going to raise the dead, they still have a chance at life.

When someone goes to sleep, time goes by quickly it seems, like a second, then you wake up, death is like that, only with no dreams. Lazarus was dead 4 days, and when Jesus resurrected him, he looked the same. The little girl looked the same as before also.

The Bible says death cannot separate us from God's love. We do not need to worry, about it at all.Try to trust God.

Ecclesiastes 9:5 The living are conscious that they will die, but the dead are conscious of nothing at all.

I get a little nervous on planes too. Try to bring a tape recorder with headphones, a tape of songs you know and can sing along with in your mind. Soon you forget you are in the air. Best wishes...

Answer 7

I remember I used to have this extreme phobia of being in a car crash in a highway. Everytime we were driving in the highway I would be sort of in the same situation you described (blood pressure, dont feel good, etc.) and I'd glue my eyes to the highway in case we were about to crash. So I consoled myself by thinking "even if we're about to get in a car crash, we can always brake really fast so we dont crash and we might be saved." Here's what I really said to myself: "There's always the brake." Slowly I got over it thinking that.
This relates to your situation because you can stop yourself from being worried about death by thinking "even if I am in a situation when I might die, the doctors in the ER might be able to save me." Consider the fact that there will always be someone there to save you.
If you're worried about the flight to NY, bring along your iPod of with some energizing and happy songs such as rap or hip hop and think that not everybody dies on a plane crash, there's always hope. I read somewhere that the chances of your flight having a terrorist on it are 1 in 5 million, so I wouldnt' worry.
If you begin thinking about death at night, don't be afraid to wake up and go do something to calm yourself down, for example read a girly book ( Like those mates, dates, and _____ books ) and then when you feel like you can go back to sleep, do it.
Also, when school starts, I guaruntee (spelling?) you will pretty much forget about it.
Good luck

Answer 8

Don't be afraid. I worked with dying patients for years as a nurse and it was not scary. Death is a natural end to this life. I could always feel the people's spirit leave their body and I believe that spirit lives on somewhere. Everyone is a little afraid, not just you, but don't worry, everything is going to be fine. Really.

Answer 9

I suggest you ask your parents to find a counsellor for you or find someone you can trust to speak to, who you know will understand. I was your age when I also thought a lot about death. I had lost two people very close to me, so i guess it is natural that you think about death then. For me, I was brought up in a Christian home, and I knew about Heaven and how to be assured of a place there when I died, - which helped a lot.
Your welcome to contact me if you want to chat some of these issues through with you.

Answer 10

Well, everybody eventually dies. I might die tomorrow or 70 years from now. In the whole scheme of things, it doesn't really matter when. All that really matters is under what condition you die in.

"For God so loved the world, that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him will not perish, but have eternal life!"
John 3:16

Accept Jesus into your life and you will live forever! No more reason to fear death! We are all only on this earth for a very short time.