How should I come about telling my mom she is to much on my back?

Question

I really love her, but sometimes she just doesn't leave me alone. What should i do?

Answer 1

Tell her you're moving out if she doesn't lay off.

Answer 2

All those answers are great.Don't lose your temper,have you stop to think that what she's saying is for your benefit?Yes parents can nag,nag,nag but that's because we love our children and we try to tell them the right things to do.Sure at some point ask your mom to sit down with you so you can tell her how you feel,and listen to what she has to say.She may be the type of mom that wants you to listen while she does all the talking.If that's the case,(write her a letter).Not an angry letter,just express your feelings the best way you can without being vulger or nasty.Now,why should she leave you alone?That's your mother,it's her job to say things to you,whether you like them or not.Especially if your not doing the things she asks you to do,or if you catch an attitude when she tells you to do something.Own up to your responsibilities,then maybe she'll back off a little.If she won't listen to you,(Write that letter).

Answer 3

Find a time when you both are alone with each other and can have a heart to heart talk. Just try to explain to your Mom how you feel. It is very likely she has a reason to be "on your back". She loves you and worries about you and only wants the best for you. If you and your Mom can come to reason with each other and talk about the way you both feel it could benefit both of you in many ways. She probably has things she would like to say to you also. Good Luck!

Answer 4

I would not "tell" her anything! I would first ask her for help. "Mom can you please help me out with a problem I am having?" "I am trying very hard to please you and do the right thing, but I feel that you are sometimes to hard on me." "Can we please talk about the rules and what you expect of me so we can come to a compromise." If you go this route make sure that you have a goal in mind, such as: staying out a bit later. You have to be willing to give up something else to get this, such as an A grade on a test or something. Once you achieve one of your Moms or your goals you get a reward for your action. Predetermine these rewards. Good luck, and I hope this helps, just remember to ask for help and do not tell her or demand anything. Demanding or telling will get you no where. Take care..

Answer 5

The best thing to do is tell your mom how much you love, appreciate and respect her and how she cares about you. Than tell her how well she has raised you enough to be completely open about sharing your feelings with her but you need her to back off a little and let you do things your way. She should feel confident enough to respect you and allow you your space.

Answer 6

Well first of all it depends on how old you are and if you are still living under her roof.......As long as you're a minor and living in HER home, she has the right to be where ever she wants, whether it is on your back or in your face.

Dont worry, she just loves you and wants to protect you and make sure you are doing right. She is not out to get you!

Answer 7

Not sure of your age but maybe your Mom is just concerned, if it is unnecessary fear and you are old enough talking sometimes alleviates a Mom's fear....when you become a Mother you will realize it's because she loves you...good luck

Answer 8

Watch a movie called Mommie Dearest

Answer 9

As the mother of three teenage daughters, I suggest you talk with her when neither one of you is mad or upset and when you talk with her don't be disrespectful or answer her questions with "i don't know". Open, honestly and respectfully and be prepared to find out why she stays on your back. It could be because she loves you and worries about you and doesn't want you to make mistakes that she has made.

Answer 10

Sweety you need to understand that your mom loves you a lot too. She is only looking out for you and doesn't want you to get hurt. Please understand that.
Start by telling her how much you appreciate her and how much you do love her and calmly tell her you need a little space.
good luck

Answer 11

Help her with whatever she needs- like laundry or cleaning or dinner. Proove that you're useful and responsible. If you do it enough she should get off your back real quick. When she says "oh you've really become responsible" ask her if you can go out. Works everytime.