Does a long distance relationship work if you put the work and time into it?

Answer 1

if you both feel love towards each other .. yes. all things are possible if both give all you can to make it work.

Answer 2

Yes, it does! I've had a successful open relationship before which ended on a great note, and am in another which is even better. The important things, in my experience, are:

1. COMMUNICATION!!

You have the chance to do something really special: getting to know someone inside out, because LD relationships rely on talking, and talking is how you really connect. At the same time, if you let communication slide in an LD relationship, you've literally got nothing left. It's important to talk regularly and honestly, and set ground rules for what the relationship will entail.

2. TRUST

This is a biggie in all relationships, but in LD relationships, you tend to get extra paranoid. You've got to both trust your partner, and be a trustworthy person. That doesn't necessarily mean "don't meet anyone while I'm away!", you've got to be realistic. It's better to say, "Always be honest with me, and please don't do anything big without talking about it with me first if it'll affect our relationship."

3. OPENNESS TO DIFFERENT RELATIONSHIP STYLES

If you're going to be apart for a long time, and you're used to being sexually active, it may be realistic to consider having an open relationship in which you let yourselves enjoy other people physically (or even emotionally) but understand that you both love eachother deeply, and that no one but yourselves can take that away.

These worked for me, anyway. Good luck!

Some links to surviving LD relationships are below:

http://ca.askmen.com/dating/datingadvice/26_dating_tips.html

http://www.enotalone.com/article/2247.html

http://dating.about.com/od/relationshipissues/ht/LDRs.htm

http://www.personal.psu.edu/faculty/s/a/sar242/ldr.html

Answer 3

Yes it does work; both people have to put the work and time into it though. If one person is doing the work the relationship will not work.

Answer 4

Sometimes it works it depends on the both of you and if both of you are willing to work at it because if only one is trying then its gonna fall apart. a big part of long distance relat, is trust and if you have that and you both want to do it and believe you can then you can its not easy but if you really care about that person than you should give it a try.

Answer 5

It depends how far apart you both are, and also how much you truly love one another. If you even doubt the other person for 1 sec., then no, it won't work because of jealousy, but if you completely trust each other and are able to talk to each other over the Internet or on the phone, and can visit each other sometimes, then it'll work out. Absence makes the heart grow fonder.

Answer 6

Yes. I have had two and they both were ruined. The guys couldn't take being away from me. They wanted to have "fun" and I was committed. Make sure its what you BOTH want and it will work. You can find many articles on-line for tips on how to make it work. Like going to the movies and seeing the same and talking about it on the phone when you get home. Or sending eachother care packages. It can work, though none of mine have. I know if it wasn't for the guys wanting to "have fun", it would have worked.

Answer 7

I really dont think they work. Some may turn out ok, if you know the person in real life. On the computer No. If you really love this person and you want it to work it will work. But trust me it takes mucho time and effort. I wish you the best of luck

Answer 8

No, not in the long run, it just isn't enough to be sustained, it isn't a life with someone and it isn't a relationship when you can't get through day to day troubles together. It boils down to emails and phone calls and that does not a life make.

Answer 9

yes they do atleast mine is and we talk almost every day so yea if you put the work and time into it it will work so good luck with your long distance relationship

Answer 10

YES!!!!
mine works awesome, if you can REALLY communicate...i can tell my bf anything from my shoe size to my deepest fears to my kinkiest fantasy without hesatation..it is all about trust and communication we have been in an LDR for nearly 16 months and counting.....it can work out if you put work in!
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GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 11

It depends on the situation. Most don't work out the way people envision them but if you truly love that person and realize you can't live without them, you'll find a way to be with them.